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Hey Theansweris42, I'm so happy to hear that things are turning around and going well for you. I hope you enjoy this new chapter of your life! Also, I'm glad that you took the time to acknowledge your growth--you should be proud of yourself! With that being said, you are always welcome to come back ...

Hi SillyMcGoof_, I hope you're doing okay! I'm really sorry to hear about the pain you're experiencing. With that, I think the solution to this depends entirely on your pain threshold and where the pain is located. I don't know much about Lupus, but I do know that it comes with joint and muscle pain...

Hi raily_, Based on what you've told us, I think you should be okay, pregnancy risk-wise. You took precautions and used barriers correctly, so there is a high chance you will not get pregnant. With that being said, I would continue to use condoms just to play it safe. Also, I feel like it will relie...

Hi Iloveme.67,

I completely understand your frustration and we would like to help you out. Do you think you could create your own Topic under the Ask Us! or Sex & Sexuality section so we can discuss this separately from this thread? If you need help doing this, just let us know!

Hi CatMatRat99, Your profile says you live in Canada and I do not believe there is an age restriction to purchase condoms there. There isn't a "standard" age to purchase condoms, but it's important to purchase them before partaking in sexual activities so there aren't any risks for pregnan...

Hi CatMatRat99, We cannot tell you exactly what you identify as, but we can provide you with the proper resources so you can see which label fits your experience. Here is a link to some more information on asexuality: Just the Basics, Ace: An Asexuality Primer . Please let me know if you have any qu...

Hi Forri,

You are more than welcome to share them with us if you’d like!

Hi throwaway825901, Thank you for reaching out and being so vulnerable with us! I want to assure you that everyone's experience and journey with gender is different. I'm a cisgender woman, so I don't know exactly what you are going through, but I'm happy to discuss this with you to the best of my ab...

Hola BlackShadow, discúlpeme si mi español no es bueno. Aprendí el idioma cuando era niño. No soy un hablante nativo. Es importante saber que cada persona es diferente--todos cuerpos son diferentes. Por lo que sé, todo lo que estás describiendo es normal. No sé mucho sobre la fimosis, pero tenemos u...

Hi bollymory, I'm really sorry you're going through this. I will reach out to my fellow staff members again to see what we can do. I am not sure if deleting anything will change how your post appears on Google; however, if the person at your school finds the link to the post through Google and click...

Hey Imembarassed, I'm really sorry to hear what you've gone through and thank you for being so vulnerable with sharing your highs and lows of coming out to your family. This all sounds incredibly rough--the unreliability from your parents regarding respect for your identity and losing your brother t...

Hey El000, I recently responded to someone who posed a similar question. I'll just copy what I told them. My fellow staff member mentioned this to another user: Sperm are fragile and need specific conditions to co-create a pregnancy. They aren't going to survive being wiped off, or even transferred ...

Hi again! I think the best course of action here is to finally have that conversation, which can then progress into a conversation about toys (if you feel comfortable of course). I also struggle with anxiety, so when I approach anyone about anything important, I try to write down some key points or ...

Hi lulu28843, It's good to hear that you both are being safe and understand the risks involved. It's also very admirable that you're taking your time to collect your thoughts and being considerate of his feelings. We have a resource that I think you might benefit from reading: My Best Friend Just To...

Hey Halcyon, (I like your username!) Welcome to the boards! It seems like you have a lot of self-awareness regarding your relationship with sex. I'm about to attend school for counseling, so my response could be a bit biased, as I am one of those people who believe that one doesn't necessarily need ...

Hi Feistylilianna, Welcome to the boards! Thanks for reaching out. Before moving forward, I want to recommend you one of our pieces, here's a link: It feels like I have to pee during sex. Do I have a problem? It's not exactly like your situation, but very similar. It might help in answering some of ...

Hi SillyMcGoof_, Yeah, I can totally understand your frustration. Have you ever had conversations with her about anything sex or sexuality-related before? If so, do you remember how it went? That could be a good precursor to having a conversation with her about toys. With that, let's say you do appr...

Hi Strangewriter11, Welcome to the boards! I completely understand your concern and frustration. I'm sorry to hear that you've tried so much to no avail. Before moving forward, I want to share one of our resources on Vaginismus to see if learning more can assist in figuring out if it fits the descri...

Hi brungerbulb, I want to start by saying we're glad you feel comfortable sharing this with us and being so vulnerable. I grew up in similar online communities (DeviantArt, AO3, Tumblr) where there was constant trading of NSFW fanfiction. When you said it was a social thing--you're totally right. It...

Hi Asking Queries, Anxiety is so tricky and sometimes I even have a difficult time differentiating between gut feelings and my anxiety. I don't think it's as simple as people expect it to be. Sometimes when I experience irrational thoughts and anxiety about a particular matter, I tend to focus on &q...

I totally understand the awkwardness! Yes, absolutely! Gloves and finger cots absolutely work. That was what I was going to recommend next, I just wanted to see if you have any of the resources I mentioned previously. However, these are not lubricated, so it might feel a little uncomfortable if you ...

Hi Len, My fellow staff member mentioned this to another user: Sperm are fragile and need specific conditions to co-create a pregnancy. They aren't going to survive being wiped off, or even transferred from hand to hand. Here's a link with more information: Who's Afraid of Sperm Cells? Also, moving ...

Hey SillyMcGoof_, If you are unable to purchase condoms, some places do give them out but I'm not sure how accessible that is for you. Do you know if your school's nurse's office has them? Planned Parenthood has free condoms and lube. Also, we have a great resource that touches on some items you mig...

Hi anonym05, I completely understand your concerns about purchasing lube! Luckily, there are some other things you can use as lube, you can find more information about this here: Lube 101: A Slick Little Primer . Many replacements for lube are quite inexpensive, accessible, and may already be sittin...

Hi Demilicious, Thank you for reaching out! I can understand why this is so frustrating. So far, you did everything that we usually would recommend--you've looked into multiple forms of masturbation and delved into fantasies. Could you explain some more about "holding yourself back" please...