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Hi Whispermae, I hope it's okay that I'm jumping in here. I want to start by saying that I am really sorry for what you have endured throughout all of this. We are here for you and we will try our best to connect you with the proper resources so you can start feeling better. You're a very strong per...

Sure! I'll drop some links below that I think you might benefit from reading, here you go: Ethical Horniness, Or How To Find A Partner In An Enthusiastic Consent World Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist Plea...

Hi Lyle Lanley,

This is great to hear! Although, I'm sorry that it had to lead to that point in order for you to have some privacy. Please let us know if you need anything else! Take care.

Hi kaworuu_, (Just curious, is your username an Evangelion reference?) This is a really common question that we receive! I want to start off by sharing that it's very normal for women to not feel much pleasure or even orgasm from fingering. The vagina past the first inch or so does not have many ner...

Hi Whispermae,

We've reached out to Heather to let them know that you want to talk! Please take care.

We have some resources on finding a sexual partner in a safe manner, except that depends on what "safe" means for you! Please let me know if you're interested and I can drop some links. From what I've gathered from our conversations, it seemed like your dissatisfaction could have been some...

I see, thank you for clarifying! Thank you for being so open with us about this development. I'm glad to hear that you both are being communicative and understanding. Does this mean that you are currently seeking a sexual partner outside of your relationship? If so, do you believe that there will be...

Hi Crow, I apologize for my absence, I was out of town! When you both say "sex isn't that good," do you mean the concept of sex in general or the sex that you both are having? Either way, it seems like there's a mutual feeling. I asked all of those questions before to see if this is someth...

No worries!

Hi El000, Welcome to the boards! We've been having a lot of users come to us with pregnancy anxiety and I think you did the right thing about putting off penetrative sex for your own mental well-being. You mentioned that you want to work on your pregnancy anxiety, do you need any help with this from...

Hello! 1) Yes, it's absolutely okay not to like penetration. Enjoyment of particular sexual activities varies from person to person, so there is nothing unusual about not enjoying it. If inserting a finger is painful, it could be that you are not aroused enough. When that is the case, many people tu...

Hi anonymous384, We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. We CAN and WILL talk about things like: • choosing and using a method or meth...

Thank you so much for clarifying! This was all very eye-opening for me since I am not asexual and I just wanted to understand your situation better before moving forward. This definitely clears things up and I hope my questions weren't super invasive or anything. I just have a better understanding o...

I think that sounds a lot like aftercare! There's nothing necessarily that you have to get out of it, I was just curious if partaking in it helps at all. I'm glad you're open to talking about it! I want to preface this by saying that in no way do I want to invalidate or disrespect your identity and ...

Hi Crow, So, we haven't talked yet! Can you give me a baseline at this point in your conversations with our staff, of where you're at with this now, and where you think we can possibly best help? I understand why this is frustrating. Now that you mention it, I think it's very commendable that you wa...

Hi staplesj_, I completely understand your frustration and feelings of being repressed. It's been a while since I've seen your posts and I do want to mention that it really seems like you've progressed a lot in acceptance regarding your sexuality and desires. I think you should be really proud of yo...

Hi Amanda, I love this post, thank you for sharing! I try to practice a little self-love every day. I listen to my favorite songs, spend time with my boyfriend, reach out to my friends, read a book, and paint. Sometimes I even treat myself to something sweet like ice cream or a Starbucks drink. It's...

Hi theansweris42, Absolutely! Yeah, I think it's important to just keep up that positive energy and be there for him. You definitely have a lot of empathy, which is great, but don't let it mess with your own well-being too much! With all of that being said, I'm excited for you both to finish school ...

Hi il, Welcome to the boards! I can see how this is very frustrating. I think your idea of holding back on masturbating was a good first step. It might even help to hold back on masturbating for even longer, but I know that can be difficult. With that, there are a couple of ways that we can move for...

Hi! I tend to tell people to not go searching for certain relationships, but rather let them come to you. This advice isn't ideal for everyone, but we seem to hold similar thoughts! Although, there is nothing bad about approaching new people and finding some common interests. However, if it doesn't ...

Hi SillyMcGoof_, So, based on what you told us, I think I found a great article that might help! I'll link it here: How to Reconnect With Your Body In Spite of the Impact of White Supremacy . While the title may not be what you're looking for, try looking at the content; I'm sure something may reson...

Hi florence23, That doesn't sound stupid at all! When you stop feeling pleasure at the peak, does it feel like a "release"? Like a release of tension or pressure? I do want to mention that the feeling of an orgasm can differ from person to person. I can understand why you're afraid, it can...

Hi GreenString97, Welcome to the boards! I'm really sorry to hear about the frustration involving pregnancy scares and your medication. I want to start by recommending that you and your partner have a conversation and potentially stop having intercourse if it is causing you anxiety and panic. There ...

Hi Lyle Lanley, I also come from a household where privacy was basically nonexistent. I think your idea of having a serious, sit-down conversation is great. I think it would also be beneficial to include your sibling if they feel the same way, just so your mom can understand the magnitude of the sit...

Hi Lyle Lanley,

None of this was your fault, at all. I'm glad that everything has worked out since then. I hope you're doing okay. If want to continue the conversation, please let us know. We're here for you!