So uhh it didn't really work? Over the summer, I went to a three week summer camp and my parents talked with me beforehand about how I was gonna present myself. It was good because we were like, being honest with each other, but it seems like they think I'm nonbinary? They said it might be good for ...

I don't know, I'm not sure he'll do it until he has our parents' "permission"?? He's still pretty dependent on them for most things, including direction about what he's allowed to do, so yeah. I think I'm gonna tell my parents soon, my grandparents are staying over right now so I'll wait t...

Hi DesertSonny!! That article's very interesting and I might try some of that out. Yeah, I don't know, I think he's aware of what's happening - like he understands that I'm trans - it's just he tends to defer to our parents on this stuff, which I don't blame him for. I don't really think he'll take ...

Yeah, I can say for certain it won't put me in danger. And I think you're right that I should frame it as a thing that's happening regardless. He's 12, going on 13, but he's a lot more... childish?? than I was at that age (not quite the right word, but yknow. I think it's just because he has an olde...

Hmmm, yeah, that might be a good idea. I would like to have my parents' approval, but we'll see where it goes. Yeah, I think I'll tell them that, hopefully it'll open up more of a conversation about What I Want To Do Next rather than Why Do I Want To Do This. I think if nothing changes, I might end ...

I think the second one might be about right to use. Not sure if they'd listen to it, though I don't really think being harsh would help much, I'm just kind of angry. I do live with my uncle and my aunt, as well as my immediate family, and I think if I told them they'd support me. But if I had a situ...

Hi Sam!! Yeah, I guess that's true. But often our chats about this stuff end up with them asking me *why* I'm trans, and me trying to explain why, even though I can't. I feel like I've been caving too easily to them, because I do tend to try and avoid conflict, so I feel like if I tell them, "N...

Hi there!!! So: It's been a little over two years since I first came out as a trans guy to my parents. I am, to be perfectly honest, pissed that they aren't accepting it already. My mother's sibling (idk what a gender neutral version of aunt/uncle), and their husband, are very queer and very support...

I honestly can't really imagine what their reactions would be aha. I think maybe I'll just have to talk to them and see how it goes?

I don't think I'm quite ready yet though, not sure when I will be, but I'll wait a while and see what happens
Thank you for your help!!!

Hmmm well,, I guess I'd ask them to talk privately, then talk about how I think I've had enough time to explore my gender and say what I'd like to happen -- a social transition, so name and pronouns, and they've made it very clear they're against me having a medical transition (hormones/top surgery ...

Thanks for the resources!! However, I don't really feel like I could use many of these? I don't think I'd be able to get even a free binder sent to me without my parents questioning what it is, because I don't get many parcels, and since my boobs are pretty big they'd definitely notice if I suddenly...

hi Sam! yeah, i think that'd be good!! They're reasonably respectful of trans people as far as I can tell. I have a nonbinary cousin who they do try to refer to correctly, and I know my dad puts his pronouns in his username in his zoom meetings for work, so I don't think that's the problem ahaha. By...

for context: i'm a trans ,,, demiboy?? not entirely sure. anyway i came out to my parents as a trans guy probably a year and a half ago. they were,, i guess understandably cautious about it, as i was kind of obsessive over it at the time. i think i needed time to figure myself out, but i've had time...

I'd say it's mostly just when people use my name/pronouns - I tend not to feel body dysphoria, and I really enjoy dressing fashionably, no matter if that's feminine or masculine! But being called Oliver and he/him pronouns irl really makes me happy

tysm!! i'll have a read through that

hey there!!! so i was wondering if you all have any recommendations for books with trans guy protagonists? looking through queer book rec lists, i tend to mostly find books about queer women - not that that's a bad thing! in fact, i think it's great :D but i'd really love to see more books with my s...

Another update dfjgjkfhd: Parents are cool with me dating S! Thanks for your help, Heather

Update: I asked S if they'd like to go on a date with me soon, and they said yes!! Which!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!! /pos
I still have to ask my parents if they'll take me to wherever we end up going on a date, but I think that'll probably go well!!! so yeah!!

hi KC!! that sounds really hard. I don't think that a lack of physical abuse means you're overreacting, and it's definitely not a good sign if you're panicking thinking about your parents. I think that this is a totally understandable reaction. You say you've thought it through, you have a job comin...

Thanks Heather!!

My relationship with my parents is good!! I think they'd probably react well if I told them, honestly, it's just the fact that me and S met a week ago that makes me a little hesitant about it. But I think they'd probably be okay with it. I think probably the best thing to do is to let S know I'd lik...

I'd feel pretty confident about talking to them about it! We've been talking over Discord recently and I'm pretty confident they're interested in me romantically (they've been sending little <3s and, I think, flirting. like they said they think my hair is handsome so??), so I do think I'll ask soon....

Thanks so much Heather!! Yeah, I think basically what I'd want is to keep doing what we have been so far (holding hands and stuff) but also more explicitly romantic stuff, like kissing and going on dates. Probably not anything sexual yet, I don't think either of us is really ready for that, but yeah...

Hi there!! i'm Oliver, i'm new here but i had a question :D So me and this friend, I'll call them S, met about a week ago - we were introduced by another friend, K. A few days after that, S and I both went to a friend group meetup at someone else's house. We watched a movie with the rest of our frie...