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by Michaela
Thu Aug 17, 2023 9:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vent/advise about sexual shame
Replies: 11
Views: 16960

Re: Vent/advise about sexual shame

Hi qg21tfio, That's great that you have priorities of self-improvement and your studies! From what you wrote it sounds like you are finding your masturbation habits to be interfering with other things that you want to do and you are wanting to decrease the frequency that you masturbate. What would a...
by Michaela
Sun Aug 06, 2023 4:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Very low cervix
Replies: 23
Views: 3771

Re: Very low cervix

Hi Max3_3, Everything you wrote was very clear and understandable. I am not well educated on the healthcare system in Italy but potentially providing all the details you have given to us as well as the immense anxiety you are feeling over it could help to find a sooner appointment. Are there telemed...
by Michaela
Sun Aug 06, 2023 4:34 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: If painful periods aren’t normal, why do so many people have them?
Replies: 24
Views: 51934

Re: If painful periods aren’t normal, why do so many people have them?

Hi Jay27, Like Latha said it is possible that positions during sex might cause some back pain after the fact. I thought I would pop in a couple of suggestions for making different positions a little more comfortable that maybe you have or haven’t tried. Things to think about would be trying position...
by Michaela
Wed Jul 26, 2023 7:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: worried?
Replies: 39
Views: 8473

Re: worried?

Hi there naurmi008! Happy to put your worries to an end! Sperm can only live for a very short time outside of the body. So, even if your boyfriend did masturbate 1-2 hours before you met up the sperm would definitely not be alive and capable of getting you pregnant. Nevertheless, practicing some bas...
by Michaela
Wed Jul 26, 2023 6:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1112881

Re: unsure what to make of this

Hi Sky, I’m so sorry to hear that you had a sexual experience that you were pressured into and you are right you did nothing wrong. It seems like it has been an intense past day or so for you reflecting and digging into this. Taking steps, like deleting the photos, sounds like a good choice to be fo...
by Michaela
Wed Jul 26, 2023 6:18 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Can you sincerely, unironically, and non-sexually identify as (trans) female while also fetishizing femininity?
Replies: 31
Views: 38129

Re: Can you sincerely, unironically, and non-sexually identify as (trans) female while also fetishizing femininity?

Hi Lightupthestage, I can definitely see how trying to explain aspects of your gender and sexuality seems like an intimidating and daunting task. It might not be possible to have it all figured out and perfected into a neat little sentence description but that’s fine too and when it comes to questio...
by Michaela
Wed Jul 26, 2023 5:56 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What the HECK is a male orgasm!?
Replies: 1
Views: 2079

Re: What the HECK is a male orgasm!?

Hi FluffyKitty, In brief, for someone with a penis, orgasm happens at the height of sexual excitement and sensation where the prostate gland contracts along with the vas deferens and seminal vesicles causing the ejaculation of semen (you can find helpful diagrams in this article ). At the same time,...
by Michaela
Wed Jul 26, 2023 5:41 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Diapers + Other gross kinks (Is it okay for a 14 year old to have these?)
Replies: 3
Views: 2096

Re: Diapers + Other gross kinks (Is it okay for a 14 year old to have these?)

Hi FluffyKitty,

I'm glad that the article was helpful! It's always good to do check-in's about what things we are or are not ready for, especially when it comes to sex.
by Michaela
Wed Jul 26, 2023 5:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Nonconsent during sex...how to recover?
Replies: 3
Views: 521

Re: Nonconsent during sex...how to recover?

Hi Lazulirose, I’m so sorry that that situation happened to you. It sounds like it felt very violating and in situations where our bodies experience stress and shock like that one of the normal responses is to freeze which seems like what might have happened to you. I’m glad to hear that you were ab...
by Michaela
Wed Jul 26, 2023 5:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can She be pregnant!!
Replies: 17
Views: 3426

Re: Can She be pregnant!!

Hi nono_nono, No problem! We are happy to help! No, EC and pregnancy tests wouldn’t be necessary. I also want to ask, what types of birth control methods are you and your girlfriend using normally? With sex, it’s always better to lean into the preventative side to avoid situations after the fact whe...
by Michaela
Wed Jul 26, 2023 4:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: how to deal with a crush that i have no chance with
Replies: 5
Views: 5424

Re: how to deal with a crush that i have no chance with

Hi Sparklingstar, First off, I want add that the pin idea sounds very cute and a nice way to show them that you care about them and are supportive of their future goals. I’m glad to hear that you were able to have some support during a hard time for you, that can truly make a difference. I know that...
by Michaela
Wed Jul 26, 2023 4:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can She be pregnant!!
Replies: 17
Views: 3426

Re: Can She be pregnant!!

Hi nono_nono and welcome to the Scarleteen boards! From the situation that you described, there would not be any chance of pregnancy. First of all, there was no ejaculation and if there was sperm in the precum it can only survive for a very short time outside the body. Your girlfriend then not only ...
by Michaela
Sun Jul 23, 2023 12:26 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I kinda need help with everything
Replies: 24
Views: 91495

Re: I kinda need help with everything

Hi Ellie, I hope you don’t mind me jumping into your thread. First off I want to address your questions about porn. We can’t really say a number of what is the “proper amount” to watch or not because it depends on the person and what feels right to them. It might be too much if you find that watchin...
by Michaela
Sat Jul 22, 2023 7:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: When I masturbate I have no feeling
Replies: 7
Views: 2140

Re: When I masturbate I have no feeling

Hi Vin789, When you say you feel nothing are you meaning you are not feeling any pleasure? Or that you are feeling no sensation at all? I want to circle back to something Sam mentioned above about how mentally engaged you are. The reason I want to go back to this is because our brain is actually the...
by Michaela
Sat Jul 22, 2023 6:59 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Should I tell my best friend that I want to become fwb?
Replies: 19
Views: 24686

Re: Should I tell my best friend that I want to become fwb?

Hi blu_envy, I’m sorry to hear that the experience did not go as you had hoped. Sexual desire and arousal can be complicated with who we find attractive and arousing at a given moment or not and it’s totally fine if you don’t fully understand why at the moment. It can take time to sort through those...
by Michaela
Sat Jul 22, 2023 5:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why Can't I Orgasm During Masturbation?
Replies: 5
Views: 1488

Re: Why Can't I Orgasm During Masturbation?

Hi mementomori, When you wrote that you try not to think about it, I’m assuming that you’re talking about the pressure to orgasm, which is great because worrying and stressing would interfere with arousal and pleasure. So, what types of things do you tend to be thinking about during masturbation? Th...
by Michaela
Sat Jul 15, 2023 5:34 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Did I have sexual OCD or sexual compulsive behaviours as a child? If not, is there a name for the cluster of behaviours,
Replies: 18
Views: 27979

Re: Did I have sexual OCD or sexual compulsive behaviours as a child? If not, is there a name for the cluster of behavio

Hi UnicornKitty, I hope you don’t mind me hopping in towards the end of this thread. It’s great that you have felt comfortable enough to talk to your mum a little bit about your past, that must not have been easy. It sounds like you have a solid plan to start finding a therapist to work with you. Ar...
by Michaela
Sat Jul 15, 2023 5:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to talk about polyamory with my partner
Replies: 3
Views: 18121

Re: How to talk about polyamory with my partner

Hi Depressed mess, I’m glad to hear you have been checking in with them about this and you have a time set to have this conversation. As Nicole said above, it is really great that you are taking the initiative to talk this through. It shows the respect you have for yourself and what you need and the...
by Michaela
Sat Jul 15, 2023 4:31 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: kissless virgin at 20 and other problems
Replies: 5
Views: 4521

Re: kissless virgin at 20 and other problems

Hi Alriune, Thanks for adding the additional context. So it sounds like you are wanting to focus on making more in-person relationships (friendships and dating) that feel substantial and deep. Being a little terrified to reach out to people you are interested in can definitely be terrifying and with...
by Michaela
Tue Jul 04, 2023 2:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex hurts
Replies: 5
Views: 3354

Re: Sex hurts

Hi Spuka, You mentioned multiple things in your post. First, is the physical pain and discomfort you are feeling from penetration. Have you consulted your doctor or gynecologist about this before? Pain with penetration is something a lot of people come onto our boards experiencing. We have this real...
by Michaela
Tue Jul 04, 2023 2:21 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: feeling sexually frustrated on my period [vent][tmi]
Replies: 11
Views: 64313

Re: feeling sexually frustrated on my period [vent][tmi]

Hi alriune, We would be happy to help with some coping and self-care strategies. First, I have a couple of questions. Are you looking for advice more based on dealing with the frustration you feel towards your body? Self-care around masturbation? Or self-care strategies more generally? It might also...
by Michaela
Tue Jul 04, 2023 2:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Getting used to a label
Replies: 3
Views: 1295

Re: Getting used to a label

Hi sof_ia44, It is normal to feel a little uncomfortable and I think you hit the nail pretty well on the head when you mentioned heteronormativity. Coming to terms with sexuality that is counter to what all the messaging around you is saying can be really fricken scary and hard. Do you have any spec...
by Michaela
Tue Jul 04, 2023 1:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: yeast infection
Replies: 3
Views: 1470

Re: yeast infection

Hi brandii,

Have you noticed any pharmacies with staff that you could talk to about the symptoms that you are having? They would be more educated to be able to point you in the direction of an over-the-counter medication that could help.
by Michaela
Tue Jul 04, 2023 1:38 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Masturbation doesn't give me enough pleasure
Replies: 13
Views: 5622

Re: Masturbation doesn't give me enough pleasure

Hi anonym05, Heather mentioned it above when they spoke about how the urethra doesn’t have many sensory capabilities, however, it is very close to the clitoris which is the mega-sensory location (you can see it in the diagram in this article). For some people, the clitoris can be extremely sensitive...
by Michaela
Tue Jul 04, 2023 1:22 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: identity troubles
Replies: 8
Views: 13957

Re: identity troubles

Hi SillyMcGoof, It sounds like your worries surround the label and fitting in or not with that label. Is that right? As Heather mentioned above, feelings, attraction, and sexuality can all be a little complicated (an understatement, of course) and everchanging throughout our life but definitely arou...

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