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by Michaela
Wed Dec 07, 2022 12:55 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
Replies: 17
Views: 519

Re: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that

Hi Anne, No worries that many of those things did not resonate with you. We are all so individual about what we do or do not find enjoyable. One of the main purposes behind that post was to show the breadth of things that can be used as a form of self-care. At its essence, for me at least, taking ca...
by Michaela
Wed Nov 30, 2022 2:07 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 151
Views: 30225

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi 42, I haven't popped onto this thread in a while but it was great to catch up and see some new excitement and hope around finding a way to get you the independence that you have been needing and wanting for so long. I hear you on the fact that no one really teaches kids all the "life" t...
by Michaela
Wed Nov 30, 2022 12:55 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
Replies: 17
Views: 519

Re: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that

Hi Anne! I've been following along on your thread and have brainstormed some ideas that require minimal supplies if any. I feel you with the cold weather at the moment (I'm in upstate New York and we have definitely entered the dreary winter). I can list some of the ideas that I thought of or know t...
by Michaela
Wed Nov 23, 2022 12:31 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence
Replies: 6
Views: 207

Re: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence

I have written and re-written what I want to post on this thread quite a few times because nothing quite captures what I feel in the wake of more violence to a community that I love. So, what I feel is a lot. I will shamelessly admit that I had to pull up an emotion wheel to try and figure out all o...
by Michaela
Wed Nov 02, 2022 11:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clarification Question
Replies: 13
Views: 5193

Re: Clarification Question

For those other scenarios, since there is ejaculate involved there is some pregnancy risk but it would be categorized as lower risk depending on the amount of fluids, how close to the genitals, and how recent. Sperm can survive for about 15-30 minutes outside of the body (dry surfaces or skin). If t...
by Michaela
Wed Oct 26, 2022 3:42 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 151
Views: 30225

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi theansweris42, First of all, I do want to reiterate Sam's post about the therapist that it is unethical for them to see you in that capacity. However, if you have no other choice than to go see this person then make sure you tell them that you were forced to go and get their help to intervene in ...
by Michaela
Wed Oct 26, 2022 3:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have this fetish that's dangerous and can't get rid of
Replies: 15
Views: 5183

Re: I have this fetish that's dangerous and can't get rid of

Hi Knr, I'm not quite sure if I'm understanding you correctly. But, what I think I'm hearing from your last post is that one of the main things you are dealing with are fatphobic comments from your psychiatrist. However, you have to keep seeing them at the moment because they are prescribing you med...
by Michaela
Wed Oct 19, 2022 2:51 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 151
Views: 30225

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi 42, That is a beautiful quote and I'm glad you shared it-- I added it to a list of favorite quotes of mine! Feeling like you've made progress just to feel like you are back in the same place again can be exhausting and disheartening, but there is always a path forward. I hear you because vocalizi...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 28, 2022 5:15 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 151
Views: 30225

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi theansweris42, It's good to hear from you again and no worries about the response delay, we will always be here when you need us. I'm glad to hear that your school does have a counselor because they are a resource that is explicitly there to support you, that is their whole role. However, I know ...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 28, 2022 4:29 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: help! i cant stop looking through my ex's social media :(
Replies: 8
Views: 1732

Re: help! i cant stop looking through my ex's social media :(

Hi garfieldfan and welcome to Scarleteen! I first want to acknowledge that it sounds like a difficult time for you right now. I want to assure you that this is not an uncommon thing for people to experience after a breakup at all, so you're not alone. Are you aware of what tends to make you feel the...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 28, 2022 4:08 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How to continue
Replies: 3
Views: 1228

Re: How to continue

Hi Maximil, People with penises tend to need a brief break after ejaculation which is the "refractory period." This is the amount of time when the body is not able to achieve orgasm again. The length of that time depends from person to person but it can be around 15-20 minutes. People with...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 28, 2022 3:43 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: What should I have prepared going into my first counselling session where I'll be talking about gender dysphoria?
Replies: 5
Views: 1368

Re: What should I have prepared going into my first counselling session where I'll be talking about gender dysphoria?

Hi Socks, Sitting down with a stranger to tell them about your struggles and feelings is an extremely vulnerable position so it makes sense that you are feeling some stress around the appointment. But, it also takes a lot of courage and that should not go unmentioned. Since it sounds like this will ...
by Michaela
Thu Sep 22, 2022 4:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can this be possible ?
Replies: 1
Views: 445

Re: Can this be possible ?

Hi Itzmuneca, It is possible to have false negative chlamydia tests, although uncommon, and even more uncommon to have two false negatives in a row (although not completely impossible). It sounds like you did all the right things when you received your first positive test result. And I'm sorry that ...
by Michaela
Thu Sep 22, 2022 4:21 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Any tips for developing a crush on someone?
Replies: 5
Views: 1884

Re: Any tips for developing a crush on someone?

Hi Dennis91, It sounds like you have done some great introspective work. I think you're on the right track with having very open communication with potential partners. It's always important, no matter the context, to make sure you are understanding what somebody is saying by asking questions and tha...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 21, 2022 5:22 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Finding New Love
Replies: 5
Views: 856

Re: Finding New Love

Hi BumbleRex, I think you are off to a good start of being aware and making sure you start off in a healthy place with this relationship. A good place to start is to take an inventory of what your needs are for this relationship. Some things you could think about are what are some values for you in ...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 21, 2022 4:57 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: First Time Getting Chlamydia
Replies: 9
Views: 1958

Re: First Time Getting Chlamydia

Hi Mixxes, It sounds like you have put a lot of thought into the risk you are and are not comfortable with and are practicing a lot of open communication. Per your original post about the stigma around STIs, I think that one of the most impactful ways that we can begin to counteract stigma is to do ...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 21, 2022 4:32 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much
Replies: 11
Views: 1858

Re: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much

Hi YellowPamonha, In your past couple of posts, you mentioned some values that you hope for out of your relationship and I want to echo them back to you because it is important to keep your needs in mind when you are thinking about the future of your relationship. You mentioned that feeling loved, b...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 21, 2022 4:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Did I fall foul of misinformation?
Replies: 20
Views: 1464

Re: Did I fall foul of misinformation?

Hi ManekiNeko, Since you were feeling excited about exploring your sexuality but the risk of STIs has been causing you some anxiety, I am wanting to chime in with a few other thoughts for you echoing what Mo mentioned earlier. As I understand the situation, this was with a person who you had just me...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 14, 2022 12:19 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What would you tell your past self about sex?
Replies: 4
Views: 2133

Re: What would you tell your past self about sex?

Elise pretty much summed up what I would tell my past self but I would add one thing. I would tell myself to dance more. Through dancing I have learned to feel more confident in my body, how to navigate communication, I have experienced a world beyond traditional gender roles, I have learned how to ...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 14, 2022 11:22 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: What is one of your favourite ways of connecting with your body?
Replies: 3
Views: 1720

Re: What is one of your favourite ways of connecting with your body?

I tend to drink tea all the time (there is a cup of mint tea next to me right now)...but, when I'm really needing to connect to my body I will make myself a cup and drink it a little more slowly and intentionally. It could be in my head, but I can almost feel the warm tea travel to my stomach. I als...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 07, 2022 12:54 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: rescources f/adults?
Replies: 5
Views: 2884

Re: rescources f/adults?

Hi! Our Bodies Ourselves just launched its new website: Our Bodies Ourselves Today . There is some great info on there that you may find helpful. Although younger people can definitely find it helpful, it is not only aimed at teens but also adults who want to learn more. I'll leave this thread open ...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 07, 2022 12:41 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: how do i order a toy if i don't have a phone? I'm 15 and my sex drive is very high due to me being a hypersexual but i d
Replies: 3
Views: 1970

Re: how do i order a toy if i don't have a phone? I'm 15 and my sex drive is very high due to me being a hypersexual but

Hello Maha, I am so deeply sorry that you have experienced those things. That is something no one should have to go through. I am glad to hear that you are receiving some mental health support and care. People experience sexual desire on a whole wide range and sexual desire is also something that so...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 07, 2022 12:21 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I hardly feel anything masturbating with my hand F(27)
Replies: 3
Views: 1445

Re: I hardly feel anything masturbating with my hand F(27)

Hi WeirdIdeas000, I first want to address the fact that a lot of people find engaging in some type of fantasy to be really necessary and enjoyable during sex, so it is not an unusual thing that you are describing. Fantasy can also look like a lot of different things, porn included, but also imaginat...
by Michaela
Tue Aug 30, 2022 7:06 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: A long ramble
Replies: 38
Views: 4823

Re: A long ramble

Hi Raffles, I hope you don't mind me chiming in again. Since that therapy setup felt very uncomfortable for you, it sounds like you made the right move for you. Therapy already requires you to be extremely vulnerable with a stranger and so it makes sense that you want to at least feel comfortable an...
by Michaela
Fri Aug 26, 2022 8:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation question???
Replies: 3
Views: 421

Re: Masturbation question???

Hi Doodler145 and welcome to the Scarleteen Boards! Everything you described is perfectly normal. Ejaculation (also called squirting) is not something that people with vulvas tend to have a lot of control over. Sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn't. We have an article that goes into more dep...

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