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by Michaela
Wed Sep 28, 2022 5:15 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 101
Views: 12544

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi theansweris42, It's good to hear from you again and no worries about the response delay, we will always be here when you need us. I'm glad to hear that your school does have a counselor because they are a resource that is explicitly there to support you, that is their whole role. However, I know ...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 28, 2022 4:29 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: help! i cant stop looking through my ex's social media :(
Replies: 8
Views: 153

Re: help! i cant stop looking through my ex's social media :(

Hi garfieldfan and welcome to Scarleteen! I first want to acknowledge that it sounds like a difficult time for you right now. I want to assure you that this is not an uncommon thing for people to experience after a breakup at all, so you're not alone. Are you aware of what tends to make you feel the...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 28, 2022 4:08 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How to continue
Replies: 3
Views: 125

Re: How to continue

Hi Maximil, People with penises tend to need a brief break after ejaculation which is the "refractory period." This is the amount of time when the body is not able to achieve orgasm again. The length of that time depends from person to person but it can be around 15-20 minutes. People with...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 28, 2022 3:43 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: What should I have prepared going into my first counselling session where I'll be talking about gender dysphoria?
Replies: 5
Views: 143

Re: What should I have prepared going into my first counselling session where I'll be talking about gender dysphoria?

Hi Socks, Sitting down with a stranger to tell them about your struggles and feelings is an extremely vulnerable position so it makes sense that you are feeling some stress around the appointment. But, it also takes a lot of courage and that should not go unmentioned. Since it sounds like this will ...
by Michaela
Thu Sep 22, 2022 4:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can this be possible ?
Replies: 1
Views: 109

Re: Can this be possible ?

Hi Itzmuneca, It is possible to have false negative chlamydia tests, although uncommon, and even more uncommon to have two false negatives in a row (although not completely impossible). It sounds like you did all the right things when you received your first positive test result. And I'm sorry that ...
by Michaela
Thu Sep 22, 2022 4:21 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Any tips for developing a crush on someone?
Replies: 5
Views: 309

Re: Any tips for developing a crush on someone?

Hi Dennis91, It sounds like you have done some great introspective work. I think you're on the right track with having very open communication with potential partners. It's always important, no matter the context, to make sure you are understanding what somebody is saying by asking questions and tha...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 21, 2022 5:22 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Finding New Love
Replies: 5
Views: 198

Re: Finding New Love

Hi BumbleRex, I think you are off to a good start of being aware and making sure you start off in a healthy place with this relationship. A good place to start is to take an inventory of what your needs are for this relationship. Some things you could think about are what are some values for you in ...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 21, 2022 4:57 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: First Time Getting Chlamydia
Replies: 7
Views: 327

Re: First Time Getting Chlamydia

Hi Mixxes, It sounds like you have put a lot of thought into the risk you are and are not comfortable with and are practicing a lot of open communication. Per your original post about the stigma around STIs, I think that one of the most impactful ways that we can begin to counteract stigma is to do ...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 21, 2022 4:32 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much
Replies: 11
Views: 568

Re: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much

Hi YellowPamonha, In your past couple of posts, you mentioned some values that you hope for out of your relationship and I want to echo them back to you because it is important to keep your needs in mind when you are thinking about the future of your relationship. You mentioned that feeling loved, b...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 21, 2022 4:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Did I fall foul of misinformation?
Replies: 20
Views: 624

Re: Did I fall foul of misinformation?

Hi ManekiNeko, Since you were feeling excited about exploring your sexuality but the risk of STIs has been causing you some anxiety, I am wanting to chime in with a few other thoughts for you echoing what Mo mentioned earlier. As I understand the situation, this was with a person who you had just me...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 14, 2022 12:19 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What would you tell your past self about sex?
Replies: 4
Views: 614

Re: What would you tell your past self about sex?

Elise pretty much summed up what I would tell my past self but I would add one thing. I would tell myself to dance more. Through dancing I have learned to feel more confident in my body, how to navigate communication, I have experienced a world beyond traditional gender roles, I have learned how to ...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 14, 2022 11:22 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: What is one of your favourite ways of connecting with your body?
Replies: 3
Views: 418

Re: What is one of your favourite ways of connecting with your body?

I tend to drink tea all the time (there is a cup of mint tea next to me right now)...but, when I'm really needing to connect to my body I will make myself a cup and drink it a little more slowly and intentionally. It could be in my head, but I can almost feel the warm tea travel to my stomach. I als...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 07, 2022 12:54 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: rescources f/adults?
Replies: 5
Views: 526

Re: rescources f/adults?

Hi! Our Bodies Ourselves just launched its new website: Our Bodies Ourselves Today . There is some great info on there that you may find helpful. Although younger people can definitely find it helpful, it is not only aimed at teens but also adults who want to learn more. I'll leave this thread open ...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 07, 2022 12:41 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: how do i order a toy if i don't have a phone? I'm 15 and my sex drive is very high due to me being a hypersexual but i d
Replies: 3
Views: 239

Re: how do i order a toy if i don't have a phone? I'm 15 and my sex drive is very high due to me being a hypersexual but

Hello Maha, I am so deeply sorry that you have experienced those things. That is something no one should have to go through. I am glad to hear that you are receiving some mental health support and care. People experience sexual desire on a whole wide range and sexual desire is also something that so...
by Michaela
Wed Sep 07, 2022 12:21 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I hardly feel anything masturbating with my hand F(27)
Replies: 3
Views: 282

Re: I hardly feel anything masturbating with my hand F(27)

Hi WeirdIdeas000, I first want to address the fact that a lot of people find engaging in some type of fantasy to be really necessary and enjoyable during sex, so it is not an unusual thing that you are describing. Fantasy can also look like a lot of different things, porn included, but also imaginat...
by Michaela
Tue Aug 30, 2022 7:06 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: A long ramble
Replies: 38
Views: 1559

Re: A long ramble

Hi Raffles, I hope you don't mind me chiming in again. Since that therapy setup felt very uncomfortable for you, it sounds like you made the right move for you. Therapy already requires you to be extremely vulnerable with a stranger and so it makes sense that you want to at least feel comfortable an...
by Michaela
Fri Aug 26, 2022 8:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation question???
Replies: 3
Views: 257

Re: Masturbation question???

Hi Doodler145 and welcome to the Scarleteen Boards! Everything you described is perfectly normal. Ejaculation (also called squirting) is not something that people with vulvas tend to have a lot of control over. Sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn't. We have an article that goes into more dep...
by Michaela
Sun Aug 21, 2022 10:07 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: ace/aro, trauma or...?
Replies: 3
Views: 280

Re: ace/aro, trauma or...?

I hear you on wanting to have some clarity on your identity. Asexuality is a spectrum and what you described can fit within it if that label feels right for you and you want to label your sexuality. Is knowing that right now what your sexuality looks like is i know that i've only felt sexual/romanti...
by Michaela
Sun Aug 21, 2022 9:36 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: am i masturbating right?
Replies: 2
Views: 644

Re: am i masturbating right?

Hi junescats123, That is a perfectly good way to masturbate since it is something that you find pleasurable and it is comfortable for you. There are so many ways to masturbate and it all comes down to individual preference of what feels good to you. My hope is that any future partner you have would ...
by Michaela
Sun Aug 21, 2022 8:53 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Punishment
Replies: 15
Views: 673

Re: Punishment

Hi emily233 and welcome to the boards-- we're happy you're here! Jacob filled me in on what has been going on. I am so sorry that your parents have been treating you in ways that are humiliating for you and that they have continued this behavior despite your attempts to talk to them. You deserve res...
by Michaela
Sun Aug 21, 2022 8:36 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my boyfriend makes me horny but i cant masterbait myself
Replies: 3
Views: 264

Re: my boyfriend makes me horny but i cant masterbait myself

Hi cowwwmoo and welcome to the boards! I first want to reassure you that it can take some time and experimentation to find what is pleasurable and works for you during masturbation. This is also not an uncommon thing at all. Finding pleasure during masturbation is one the most common topics people c...
by Michaela
Sun Aug 14, 2022 10:51 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Boosting Body Image
Replies: 0
Views: 630

Boosting Body Image

Self-love and accepting our body as it is… two things society can make pretty difficult to master. We have an article that talks about just that Sex Goddess Blues: The Pressure to Look Perfect . However, recently, I watched a TedTalk by sex educator Emily Nagoski where she shared a tip on how to sta...
by Michaela
Sun Aug 14, 2022 9:24 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: A long ramble
Replies: 38
Views: 1559

Re: A long ramble

Hi Raffels, It is your choice in what you want out of this thread, we are here to support you. The ways that we can help are to be a virtual ear to listen and support, provide advice, answer questions around any of the topics on our website, help you to understand something you've read on the websit...
by Michaela
Wed Aug 10, 2022 9:43 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Can I be a lesbian if I've loved a man before
Replies: 3
Views: 438

Re: Can I be a lesbian if I've loved a man before

Hi AnonAS, and welcome to the Scarleteen boards! First off, I want to say that I'm sorry that people around you are not hearing and believing you. It sounds like you do have a pretty good understanding of your sexuality but that other people's opinions are making you feel confused. No one else or yo...
by Michaela
Wed Aug 10, 2022 9:16 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: A long ramble
Replies: 38
Views: 1559

Re: A long ramble

Hi Raffels, From what I've read, it seems like you have a lot of empathy for this friend but you are having a difficult time taking care of yourself in the ways you take care of others. If you would like we could talk through what some boundaries and limits could look like for you. However, I wanted...

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