… oops. pondered on your response long enough that my period decided it had enough of a nap. lol :”) (this happens sometimes! the stakes just seemed a bit higher considering recent sexual activity. this was a good exercise in “not cutting somebody off because i couldn’t communicate with them”, thoug...

hi! i hope this doesn’t fall under a ‘pregnancy scare’ post- i am sorry if it does! i’m just wondering if i should tell my boyfriend about a missed period? i’d like to say, first, that my concern about pregnancy is extremely low. we use a condom every time, and even above that, i have circumstances ...

thank you! i struggle a lot with detaching negative feelings about a situation from negative feelings about a person, so this is an improvement for me. whenever i see him next i think we’ll talk about the other thing more, but i just hope it’s alright. :’) i worry!

hi sam! i am relieved that it’s out there, so that’s one less thing kind of weighing on me! i just wish i had gone about it in a better way. this isn’t me accusing sofi (or anyone on the boards) of bad advice or not supporting me enough, at all, i hope it doesn’t come off that way! it was just a spl...

update: i feel like a jerk! it wasn’t intentional, but it doesn’t really matter- i went about talking to him in a kind of crappy way. i’m on my period, so already i’m aware that i’ve been a bit more emotional the past few days, and we had a situation where we were both kind of upset. i had gone to s...

thank you! i haven’t had the chance to talk to him yet, we’ve both been busier than usual. it’s definitely new, i guess, to be in a more ‘mature’ or ‘adult’ relationship, but we both work full time and don’t go to college/university, so it is kind of just how it ended up working out. which is fine! ...

hi sofi! thank you for your response! i definitely don’t feel *obligated* to say it back, nor would i want to lie to him. he didn’t seem upset in the moment, more… concerned? i don’t think he intended to say it, really. what i had been saying to him was basically “i go home and worry myself sick tha...

(not lesbian(s)) (is it still cool to make bad movie references. i made the subject that just for my bad joke. sorry scarleteam.) hello again! another week, another dollparties predicament. my boyfriend this past weekend told me he loves me. we haven’t said it before, and he said it when i was expre...

absolutely! crappy past relationships kind of leave me waiting for the moment where i learn it’s not that they like me, it’s that they want sex(which isn’t necessarily a bad thing! It has just been a pattern of realizing that’s all someone wants without being upfront about it) or they pity me, or so...

thank you so much sam! having someone who does seem to like me and has never acted ashamed about it is very new to me, but not unpleasant. :) i definitely think in my head sometimes i am still waiting for the “catch” or the part where he goes “well, you’re actually kind of embarrassing/irritating”. ...

thank you for the kind response! i’m so glad that this worked out!
it was definitely kind of scary in the moment, but knowing this is something we now know how to avoid as best as possible is reassuring!

kind of a happy update to this one that i’d like to share! a week or so after this conversation, i got my pay from work, and picked up lube. i talked to my now-boyfriend(!!!) about it, and he said he didn’t know that it was an option, or that it would help a bit with the pain. there weren’t any hurt...

hi sofi! thank you so much for such a quick response (and my apologies for such a delayed one- i’m always working or with him nowadays :)). you’re definitely right, saying it’s up to him to decide whether or not i deserve how he treats me, and i don’t want to sound like i doubt his judgement. on one...

hello again! i feel like i should apologize for having so many questions to post about all the time. so i am sorry! my goal isn’t to overwhelm or be irritating. as for this post, i guess i wanted to ask for advice on feelings of being undeserving or unworthy of a relationship? while i’m not explicit...

thank you so much! this is honestly my first relationship where i feel comfortable being sexual with someone, and it’s been an adjustment to feeling safe enough to assert boundaries and discuss things. (a good adjustment, of course. :)) i definitely didn’t expect it to go so well, nor did i expect t...

hey! i hope you don’t mind me adding something- if you do, please don’t hesitate to ask me to delete the post. i never want to cross boundaries. :) as someone who has a few tattoos, tattoo artists and the people in the studio tend to be very kind and understanding people. more than anything, they pr...

wow- the thing about tissues put it into perspective for me! that’s a really good point, i don’t think that’s anything i’d ever think twice about. i ended up bringing a ziplock bag that i used as a garbage and tossed it at home. i explained to him that i was feeling very insecure and my worry around...

thank you for giving me a space to provide detail and not be seen as weird or irritating! i think a big issue i have with throwing them out anywhere but at home is that it feels intimate, almost? (which, considering the situation between this person and i… is a bit silly to begin with.) in my head i...

this is two questions, but tied together, i suppose! i hope that is okay. as someone who gets a period, i’m (of course) subjected to a lot of messaging in media that i should be ashamed and embarrassed. and, of course, as a lot of people who get periods do, i internalized this from a very young age....

hey! sorry for the late response, i think i’ve said this before but i work full time and it takes a lot out of me. i truly do appreciate the answers!! i checked out that article a couple days ago on a break, it genuinely is helpful, so thank you! i think i’m very … unused to(?) being able to openly ...

hi, thank you for the response! :) i know to some degree that lube is just generally good to be using, but in my head i feel like i’m going to sound silly. i think my worry is a lot about feeling like i’m being too needy, but that’s not the case in the slightest, probably. do you think it could be a...

hey! sorry, i know i’ve posted a lot on here! i’m not used to having a resource to ask about these things, and now that i’m willingly sexually active again, i have a lot to think about. so, the guy i’ve been having sex with is very attentive about using condoms, i’ve only had to ask once, which make...

Hi dollparties! I'm not autistic and so can't speak from my own experiences of stimming, but this actually doesn't sound that weird to me! Biting and kissing are not that unrelated, and some people are going to be into it. As long as your partner is on board there's nothing wrong with some gentle c...

i feel like this is kind of an odd topic, i apologize in advance! but i’m autistic, and have a lot of problems sensory-wise, and find that a lot of the time in situations where it gets sexual, i end up literally chewing on the other person. chewing is a big stim for me, and i think it’s a comfort th...

thank you for taking the time to talk with me about this! i’m going to take all of this into consideration and keep it in mind moving forward, and try to keep my distance from him until i’ve sorted through what i want to do. the smart thing here i think is to cut this off, and that’s what i think ne...