That’s exactly it!

Hi there, that’s pretty much what happens. But pressure isn’t the only thing that kills sperm cells, like Willa mentioned, they are very fragile and need specific conditions to survive. So other mechanisms that destroy them when being left on some surface can be drying of the fluids composing semen ...

Hi there Grayyyson,

Sam has already responded to your previous answer to her question, can you see her reply?

Hi there, I hope it’s okay that I’m stepping in here. I really understand the need to have some kind of a plan for the possibility this doesn’t help. I think your next steps will mostly depend on what you learn by not masturbating for some time - if the throbbing feeling changes and if so than if fo...

Hi there and welcome to the boards! Don’t worry, your post is perfectly okay! As for your question, when you talk about arousal do you mean just physical arousal (things like penis getting hard or vagina lubricated), mental one (wanting to masturbate, feeling excited), or both? It will vary a lot fr...

Hi jumbomumbo, you are right that it’s more often a long process rather than just one time revelation that would make the shame magically disappear. It might take some time to even learn what approaches and resources when are the most helpful for you and even then the feelings might still unexpected...

Hi Nat, we can sure talk about both of these! Let’s start with talking about the dysphoria more first and if you have any questions about polyamory feel free to ask them and we will move onto them, okay? I noticed you mentioned the dysphoria stems from not feeling pretty enough so I would like ask i...

Hi there and welcome to the boards! I’m sorry people in your life made you feel like this, living with shame around sex and relationships can be really hard, especially when it comes from people close to you like your family. I’m more than happy to talk about this with you more but first I would lik...

Hi there Ms. Candy! Before anything else, there is a discrepancy between the age you stated in your profile and in your post, could you please clarify which one is right? As for your questions, I’m sorry you are experiencing this. Having periods come that often and are so painful for what seems to b...

I’m sorry you are feeling worried about that, that can be really difficult. Given all you have shared with us so far, I would say that your experiences sounds like one of the ways people can experience attraction. How does hearing that make you feel? Would you like some media or resources recommenda...

Congratulations on everything, that’s all so great to hear!

That sounds like a really good approach, I’ll be hoping you will find it helpful. Let us know if there is anything else around this or something else we can help you with!

Hi again! You know, I don’t even have to know you to be quite sure there are people that are attracted to you and that’s simply because there are so many people out there with so varying preferences. But like you said, it’s not possible to do some big survey to get some relevant answers. And, howeve...

Hi and welcome to the boards lilybrown! As for pregnancy the situation you describe doesn’t pose a pregnancy risk but oral sex without using barriers can create a STI transmission risk. You can find more about both of these in this article, as well as other useful links about safe sex: Can I Get Pre...

Hi and thank you for the additional info, I can definitely relate to the collage student on a tight budget experience! If you haven’t tried it yet, you can try giving yourself some time and just experimenting with different things you haven’t tried before. Sometimes the reason why something that use...

Thank you for the answers! When you say it reminds you of the school changing rooms, it seems to me to be about being more exposed than you are used to around other people and being worried about what they might be thinking about you and if they are judging you. Do I have that right? Also, coming ba...

Hi, thank you for the additional information. As for lube, it can often be helpful even when it seems like there is enough natural lubrication, it doesn't have to be a replacement of it but rather just an addition to make things more slippery and comfortable. To get a better sense of what might be b...

Hi there AQ, It’s great to hear that you have plans for things that can help you feel better about yourself! I don’t have experience with neither of those so hopefully someone else will jump in. We also have an interview with a vocal therapists with a bunch of related links and resources at the end ...

Hi there, Luna, that sounds like some intense feelings and I can see how they can make you feel confused. If you try sitting with these feeling and for a while, can you trace them to some other emotions? As in do you feel happy or excited when seeing her or thinking about here? Or are you nervous, u...

Hi there, Unfortunately I’m not an expert or history nor can I speak for the people who were doing it back then. But given there were a lot of them so probably a lot of sex was happening I suppose there were also a lot of reasons for them to do it. Just like various people have various reasons to do...

Hi there and welcome to the boards! I’m sorry to hear that, it can be frustrating when something that has been working for us for a long time suddenly doesn’t work anymore, especially at times when you really need it too. To get a better sense of what might be going on here, what exactly do you mean...

Hi AQ,

just wanted to let you know that if you want to talk about how it went or anything else, we are here for you.

Hi there, I totally get finding it difficult to talk with people you don’t know, believe it or not but a lot of people have it the same to some extent so chances are, you won’t be the only one feeling like that in a given conversation. As for conversation topics, that depends only on you, the other ...

Hi there!

Others might have some thought to add to your first post, but as for the username, you can change it anytime you want in your profile setting!

Hi AQ, it’s nice to see you again (and it’s absolutely okay to post here just for the sake of connection!). I’m sorry you are stuck in a place where you don’t feel safe, that sounds really stressful. I also know how difficult it can be to feel disconnected from your close friend, who is almost the o...

Hi Nat, I don’t know if Willa had some specific sources in mind (I’ll let her know that you responded so she can chime in with them if she had!) but I think this article could be a good starting place: Genderpalooza! A Sex & Gender Primer . It starts with the basics like explaining what a gender...