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- Sat Apr 01, 2023 8:24 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
thank you for those, I definitely think they'll be helpful towards what I'm looking for! If I feel like I need any further advice on this, I'll likely make a new thread, since the focus has deviated. I think I should be able to at least start my search for sexual partners on my own :] thank you agai...
- Mon Mar 27, 2023 9:39 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I would be interested in those resources! I suppose what I personally mean by safe is I just want to be able to vet someone for a bit and make sure they seem like a safe person to meet with and that they'll work well with what I think I need and what I'm looking for, if that helps. I do think that i...
- Sat Mar 25, 2023 3:18 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I would like to seek out a sexual partner, but I'm not sure how easily I could do that in a safe manner. I do like the idea though, I will probably look for some way to find an exclusively sexual partner if I can. I'm not sure if there will be any difference with another person necessarily, since I ...
- Thu Mar 23, 2023 6:49 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Generally when we make that comment, we're talking about sex as a whole, not just sex with each other. I of course feel it's important to note a development between me and the partner I've been talking about here: she has communicated that she has no interest in sex for reasons outside of me, which ...
- Wed Mar 22, 2023 1:49 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Hoping this doesn't come off as impatient or anything, it's just been a few days since any reply and I had assumed the last reply didn't need a response from me, but since it's been a few days I'm just making sure this wasn't forgotten or anything!
- Sat Mar 18, 2023 8:02 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
At most, I can at least say I feel safer with her than I have with previous partners. I feel happy to be doing things with her because I care about her a lot and it's nice to be with someone who I know will listen to me even when what I want isn't always "traditional". But beyond that I fe...
- Fri Mar 17, 2023 2:29 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I definitely feel like you've got just about everything right in the first bit about my feelings and sexuality, though I want to reiterate that I don't know if saying I don't enjoy sex at all is the way I want to word things, but instead that I just wish I enjoyed it more and feel like I'm not getti...
- Fri Mar 17, 2023 11:06 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I suppose I don't know if what me and my partner do after sex is aftercare or not. I know aftercare can look like plenty of different things, I guess it's more that I don't know if it's having the same effect on me as aftercare is supposed to. Because I already feel like the "moment" has e...
- Fri Mar 17, 2023 8:04 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I find that after sex I feel both emotionally and physically dissatisfied. The physical aspect is easier to explain, seeing as I end up too under or overstimulated to orgasm during partnered sex, I just feel drained but restless at the same time. But emotionally, I suppose I feel similarly in a way....
- Thu Mar 16, 2023 5:49 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I totally understand, hopefully someone else will be able to help me out! :]
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 2:01 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I don't think I have ever had a (consensual) sexual experience that I didn't initiate purely out of a want to be sexual with someone. These feelings of dissatisfaction and a want to know if I can enjoy sex more come after I've had sex for the first time in a while, and I try to put them behind me by...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 1:28 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I feel like I'm struggling to imagine how setting aside my ideas of what counts as sex could help, not in the sense that I necessarily think it's impossible that it could help, but just that I struggle to see it working with what I know about myself. Again, I know what forms of touch and intimacy I ...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 12:08 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I feel very stuck after this one. I don't know how to not put things in boxes. They don't feel like strict guidelines to me, but simplifications that make it easier for me to understand my own feelings. Something can move from one box to the other, but those categories make it possible for me to hav...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 11:26 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
1) I feel like the primary issue is that, even if we do that, either way the touch will likely either be too much in some way (if it's something I do find enjoyable in some way) or I won't notice it much (if it's something like just resting a hand somewhere), and so in either scenario I don't feel l...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 9:50 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I suppose I don't really think of anything without genital stimulation to be sex to me, personally. I think that circles back around to not being able to distinguish sexual and nonsexual touch. If I can't explicitly recognize what I'm feeling as something sexual, then I don't think of it as sex. I d...
- Tue Mar 14, 2023 9:15 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I'm having a lot of trouble making my response for this one cohesive, it's all a bit complicated and hard to pick apart for me. There is usually more touch than just genital stimulation, but that's a bit complicated for me. Firstly, I genuinely can't distinguish sexual and nonsexual pleasurable touc...
- Mon Mar 13, 2023 4:29 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I suppose I've done different things each time, while also depending on which partner I was with. In my current sexual relationship, my partner likes performing oral on me, which doesn't do a ton for me but I don't dislike it and she enjoys it so I'm happy to let her do it. I typically prefer to jus...
- Mon Mar 13, 2023 9:00 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I, again, have a bit of trouble pinpointing this, but I'll try to explain and hope it makes sense. I just feel like for most people sex is satisfying in some way to them, be it emotionally or physically. I feel like a lot of people are eager to talk about it with others if it was especially enjoyabl...
- Sun Mar 12, 2023 4:16 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Usually the only thing that each experience has had in common is that I end up feeling unfulfilled and a bit upset by the end, mostly because I feel unfulfilled and like I should've enjoyed it more. Though I think its important to note that it's less like I'm upset with myself for enjoying it becaus...
- Sun Mar 12, 2023 3:47 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I suppose it goes back to, as I said, liking the idea of sex in theory. I want to know if I'm capable of enjoying sex, because I do want to enjoy it, simply for myself. I want to know if I genuinely just don't enjoy it or if I've been having "bad" sex. I like having solid answers to things...
- Sun Mar 12, 2023 2:24 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Re: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
I have a lot of trouble pinpointing what exactly it is that I expect enjoyable sex to feel like other than just <i>enjoyable,</i> but I can try. I guess I expect it to feel more significant and emotionally fulfilling, as well as just generally more physically pleasurable than it actually ends up bei...
- Sat Mar 11, 2023 5:46 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Trouble Enjoying Sex?
- Replies: 43
- Views: 534643
Trouble Enjoying Sex?
Hi, I'm a sex favorable asexual who enjoys the idea of sex in theory, but I find that I just don't get much out of it in practice. I really want to enjoy it, and while I don't necessarily feel an active desire for it, I think it could be enjoyable for me. But when I have sex, I just don't find it as...
- Sat Dec 18, 2021 10:02 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: no sensation when masturbating
- Replies: 35
- Views: 6940
Re: no sensation when masturbating
Not really, it hasn't been something that has interested me enough previously to look into it.
- Mon Dec 13, 2021 1:26 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: no sensation when masturbating
- Replies: 35
- Views: 6940
Re: no sensation when masturbating
no unfortunately, I already discussed the idea with some others but I just wouldn't have a way to access them currently.
- Sun Dec 12, 2021 9:06 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: no sensation when masturbating
- Replies: 35
- Views: 6940
Re: no sensation when masturbating
It's mostly an issue of space and equipment, though while I don't have an mobility issues I do get very exhausted quite easily at times which sometimes leads to fainting, so I wouldn't want to do anything that would push me too much.