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Hi Jay- I'm jumping in because I'm on shift, I hope you don't mind. I completely understand how it could seem awkward to ask your friends for more touch. It might help to keep in mind that a lot of people know what it is like to feel a bit touched starved, and that plenty of people enjoy hugs and ot...

Hi there, Catsaregreat (that's right, they are!)- welcome to the boards! I want to say that there is nothing wrong with enjoying what you enjoy, even if it is unusual or if a partner doesn't like it themselves. Still, if your partner isn't interested in facesitting, that is a good enough reason for ...

Hi there, Holdmegently- welcome to the boards! I want to say that there is nothing wrong with you for wanting submission. It's good that it helps you relax and cope with things you're struggling with- in fact, many people like submission for those reasons. Honestly, you're already trying a lot of th...

Hi there Florence23 Ahhh, that seems pretty frustrating! First, may I offer you this article of ours? Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More I don't mean to brush you off by giving you something to read- the article is something of a detailed guided tour, naming each part step by...

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Okay, so non-hormonal methods of birth control include condoms and withdrawal , which you're already using, along with cervical barriers , copper IUDs , contraceptive sponges , and spermicides . 1. I do think taking precautions could be what has made you feel less anxious. About your friends: they m...

Hi Rachel 1 I understand that it can be pretty disappointing when masturbation feels underwhelming. Don't worry, it won't always be like this- often, it just takes some time and experimentation (as you're already doing) to figure out what works/feels pleasurable. It was a good idea to talk to the do...

Hi there, dontaskneverask

I wonder, do you have a sense of what your friend's views on experimenting with someone of the same gender might be? If you don't know, perhaps you could ask, since you are close.

Hi there, Eagertoalearn- welcome to the boards! Yes, it is okay to post here about this. You know, I think you've already started practicing some of the most important things you need to be a good partner in bed, like being respectful and taking the time to communicate. While it is true that you can...

Hi there, Carrotcake122- welcome to the boards! Ah, I used to bite my nails a lot too. Here are some things you could try: If you don't want long nails, you could keep your nails trimmed short and file them regularly- that way, there isn't anything to bite. You could wear gloves. You could put nail ...

Hi El298 I think it is understandable that you're confused about whether you want romance or friendship with these crushes- it really isn't always easy to tell. You can try to imagine what kinds of relationships would make you happy, and examine your preferences, but that can only get you so far. I ...

Hi there, Lyle Lanley!

It isn't that unusual for cycles to change a bit from time to time. Based on what I understand of your situation, there isn't anything to worry about. But is there anything specific that you're concerned about? Are the cramps too painful or disruptive?

Hi lewqwarm!

Really, that's basically it, though there is more to it. If you would like to read about this, here are some resources:

• Just the Basics, Ace: An Asexuality Primer

• Am I asexual?

• The Asexual Visibility and Education Network

Hi Ailel As Sofi said, we can't guarantee you aren't pregnant because it's been too soon to know and we're not medical professionals. You can know for sure that you aren't pregnant if you have a normal period or with a negative pregnancy test. And yes, i am actually looking into going to birth contr...

Hi there, ailel To answer your questions- Yes, those symptoms could be caused by the pill. Still, you could take a pregnancy test, especially if it would give you peace of mind. For an accurate test result, it is best to wait at least 14 days after the time of sexual contact that could have resulted...

Hi there, Apurvax I can see why this is making you feel nervous, but don't worry! It is true that symptoms such symptoms can accompany implantation, but they also occur during regular menstrual cycles. I think it is better to consider them a sign of hormonal changes rather than a definite sign that ...

Hi there, Rachel 1! I'm sorry, I don't think we can help you with this question- this is a sex ed website, so we're not really qualified to advise on the supernatural.

Hello, Mari I'm glad that you're feeling a bit better about this! You know, I think the general consensus here is that you don't need to worry about your sexual thoughts being bad or gross or weird. For one, just having thoughts can't cause harm- it is our actions that matter. Also, we can feel arou...

Hello Jay27 Sometimes couples do take breaks in these situations. Honestly, I think it is up to the people in a relationship to determine what such breaks might entail- so it doesn't have to be a complete breakup if you two don't want that. Just to make sure, have you already spoken to your girlfrie...

Hi there, Mari! Don't worry, this makes sense. I can understand why this would be concerning, but I think you can go ahead and just treat it as a weird thing your mind came up with- it really does not have to mean anything at all. Let me assure you that such thoughts are not that unusual- people jus...

Hi there, Rachel 1 Ah, you don't need to apologize! You're right- broadly, aromanticism describes a lack of interest in romantic relationships, and just as with asexuality, there is a spectrum for aromanticism as well. Is it possible that you're aromantic? You're the only one who can say that for su...

Hi there lb07- welcome to the boards!

You're right, this is pretty normal, and it isn't something you need to worry about. And yes, hormones are one thing that could be influencing your interest in sex. Let us know if you have any other questions.

Hi there, tryingmybest20! Hmm, I can see why you would worry about that. Here is the thing, bleeding during pregnancy is different from menstruation in certain ways- like when it happens, and how long it lasts. Since you've had your period twice, it is a pretty good indication that you are not pregn...

Hi there, Apurvax- welcome to the boards! From what I understand of your question, I think there isn't a risk of pregnancy here. Still, it is important to make sure condoms fit well. Perhaps your partner could try a smaller size of condom- that could prevent it from slipping. (Just in case you'd lik...

Hi Charlotte247! Sorry it has taken a while for us to respond- you might have seen that we were on break. I'm glad this helped a little- yes, it can be difficult to tell the difference between intrusive thoughts and real thoughts. About the iceberg theory: don't worry, that does make sense, and I ca...