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what i meant by the dead possum thing, is that people have kinda treated me like roadkill (as in people think im worthless and gross) Oh, that's awful . I'd getting the sense that it feels like you have no, or very few allies here... I also don't want to suggest that you push back against these thi...

Hi Emmy09 Hmm.. If you went to the bathroom beforehand, it is less likely that the liquid was pee. It could indeed be ejaculate from squirting, though. We need more research on squirting, but we do know some things: while the ejaculate can seem similar to urine, and through it comes through the same...

Hmmm... I can see how that could be awkward.. Still, I'd imagine that asking, 'how do you feel about holding hands or cuddling with friends ?' would imply your platonic intentions. If it seems appropriate, maybe you could talk a bit more about why you're asking- about how you've been feeling a littl...

Ahh, I can see how that might be a little disappointing... Well, you can keep this in mind- with time, you may meet someone else you'd be interested in experimenting with. You don't have a deadline to do this after all.

Hi Dyingdreams- welcome to the boards!

How would you feel about wearing a sports bra to minimize the appearence of your chest, and perhaps wearing a shirt on top?

Hi there, Kamieezpopi- welcome to the boards! I couldn't tell you if you're a lesbian or bisexual, since only you can say such things for sure, but I can give you some of my thoughts: The fantasies we have don't always point to the experiences we would actually want in real life. It could be that ha...

Hi spottedowl- it is wonderful that you're feeling better! I think it is really sweet that you want to connect with your grandmother. You know, people at that age can sometimes be a little set in their ways, especially if they formed such beliefs during difficult periods in their lives. But your gra...

Hi 26beanbags! Your intrusive thoughts don't make you a terrible person. Nobody who understands what intrusive thoughts are will think you are one. If anyone ever says you are a bad person for your intrusive thoughts, I'd say that you can safely ignore them. Since this is so distressing, have you ev...

Hi there, 26beanbags

Here are some resources:

AUREA: The Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy (They have a lot of resources, I recommend starting with the FAQ)
Am I Aro? (Remember that you don't need to relate to all the statements to be aromantic)

Hi 26beanbags You know, I think it is understandable that you are scared and frustrated. You shouldn't have to listen to jokes about the Holocaust, Hitler, or Anne Frank. You shouldn't have any reason to believe you might be hurt while you're at temple for being Jewish. You shouldn't be treated poor...

Hi Jay Could I just ask them how they feel about holding hands with or cuddling with their friends? Yes, definitely. But it feels much more weird to meet my physical needs with people and I don’t know why. Perhaps it is due to cultural norms. I think it's much more normalized to meet such needs with...

Given that he doesn't seem interested, I'd say it is unlikely that asking will change that. How do you feel about looking for someone else you could explore things with?

Hi Jay- I'm jumping in because I'm on shift, I hope you don't mind. I completely understand how it could seem awkward to ask your friends for more touch. It might help to keep in mind that a lot of people know what it is like to feel a bit touched starved, and that plenty of people enjoy hugs and ot...

Hi there, Catsaregreat (that's right, they are!)- welcome to the boards! I want to say that there is nothing wrong with enjoying what you enjoy, even if it is unusual or if a partner doesn't like it themselves. Still, if your partner isn't interested in facesitting, that is a good enough reason for ...

Hi there, Holdmegently- welcome to the boards! I want to say that there is nothing wrong with you for wanting submission. It's good that it helps you relax and cope with things you're struggling with- in fact, many people like submission for those reasons. Honestly, you're already trying a lot of th...

Hi there Florence23 Ahhh, that seems pretty frustrating! First, may I offer you this article of ours? Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More I don't mean to brush you off by giving you something to read- the article is something of a detailed guided tour, naming each part step by...

Good luck

Okay, so non-hormonal methods of birth control include condoms and withdrawal , which you're already using, along with cervical barriers , copper IUDs , contraceptive sponges , and spermicides . 1. I do think taking precautions could be what has made you feel less anxious. About your friends: they m...

Hi Rachel 1 I understand that it can be pretty disappointing when masturbation feels underwhelming. Don't worry, it won't always be like this- often, it just takes some time and experimentation (as you're already doing) to figure out what works/feels pleasurable. It was a good idea to talk to the do...

Hi there, dontaskneverask

I wonder, do you have a sense of what your friend's views on experimenting with someone of the same gender might be? If you don't know, perhaps you could ask, since you are close.

Hi there, Eagertoalearn- welcome to the boards! Yes, it is okay to post here about this. You know, I think you've already started practicing some of the most important things you need to be a good partner in bed, like being respectful and taking the time to communicate. While it is true that you can...

Hi there, Carrotcake122- welcome to the boards! Ah, I used to bite my nails a lot too. Here are some things you could try: If you don't want long nails, you could keep your nails trimmed short and file them regularly- that way, there isn't anything to bite. You could wear gloves. You could put nail ...

Hi El298 I think it is understandable that you're confused about whether you want romance or friendship with these crushes- it really isn't always easy to tell. You can try to imagine what kinds of relationships would make you happy, and examine your preferences, but that can only get you so far. I ...

Hi there, Lyle Lanley!

It isn't that unusual for cycles to change a bit from time to time. Based on what I understand of your situation, there isn't anything to worry about. But is there anything specific that you're concerned about? Are the cramps too painful or disruptive?

Hi lewqwarm!

Really, that's basically it, though there is more to it. If you would like to read about this, here are some resources:

• Just the Basics, Ace: An Asexuality Primer

• Am I asexual?

• The Asexual Visibility and Education Network