Hi AQ! I haven't experienced this myself, so I hope other staff or readers on the boards will contribute. I do have some thoughts, though. I don't think it is a bad idea to tell your friends how much you value them and enjoy their company. If you don't usually talk about things like depression, you ...

Hi there, Maroonteen I'm sorry you're struggling with this- wrestling with the possibility that you might have experienced sexual abuse must be so frustrating and confusing, especially since you've long experienced disassociation. I think we should acknowledge that you may not be able to find the pr...

Hi Luciefer,

I think that still leaves a chance for fluid exchange. How do you feel about Sam's suggestion? Do you think you can contact this girl to ask her about her HIV status?

Hi Anonnymous20

If fear from this incident keeps you from visiting the doctor when it could help you, it is no small matter. You don't have to tell us anything about this incident, but if you do, maybe we could offer some advice or validation.

Hi Anonnymous20! I think a scratch could cause both the blood you noticed and some burning or itching as it heals. If the burning isn't very uncomfortable, I think you can give it a few days to see if the sensation goes away on its own. If I may ask, why don't you want to see a healthcare profession...

Hi there, PomPom You don't need to be in complete crisis to deserve support. It doesn't have to be TOO BAD. You are not overthinking this- you should not have to feel this unmotivated, tired, overwhelmed, or hopeless about the future. It is clear that you're struggling right now, so you deserve supp...

Hi Bowler, I'm sorry you've been struggling with this! A higher libido is a somewhat common side effect of taking testosterone HRT. I can't say if this will happen for you, but it is possible. But as Mo suggested in this thread , the effect of HRT effect on your feelings may be short-lived: your bod...

Hi Coolrainbow111, That is a very common experience- it can be really intimidating to speak to doctors, to ask questions or request a different kind of care. Understandably, your mind blanked. Practice and experience will make it easier for you to advocate for yourself. Try to remember that while do...

Hi AQ!

I have asked about this on the teams' Slack- someone should get back to you with an answer.

Hi there, AQ! It sounds like you have a great connection with this person! Here are some questions you can ask yourself: what kind of relationship do you envision yourself having with her? Would this relationship be sexual? How important is it to you that you feel visually attracted to your partner?...

Hi Suomi! We certainly don't hate you, and I don't think anyone who understands the nature of kink and fantasies would hate you. I'm sorry you feel like you are bottling this up, and that it makes you feel so awful. Maybe reframing how you think about this will make you feel better. You're not keepi...

Hi Coolrainbow111, I'm sorry you didn't feel reassured by your visit with the gynecologist! The first few months of taking a new medication like birth control can be a period of adjustment where you might experience some negative side effects. But there are definitely things you can do if that happe...

Hi Kittylemon0- welcome to the boards! Don't worry about rambling, it is okay. To start, I hope you know that you don't have to feel ashamed for having fantasies with violent elements. Plenty of people have them and while they exist in your mind, these fantasies can't actually hurt anyone. But I und...

Hi archanana! Your description doesn't seem unusual to me. Having a retroverted uterus can sometimes cause pain during sex in certain positions, but it shouldn't prevent you from having sex altogether. It is good that you're using lube- remember that it cannot hurt to use more of it. Cuddling is a g...

Hi there, PleaseHelpAsap

That seems so frustrating and annoying. Just to check, have you seen a doctor to rule out any physiological issues? Sometimes having a hormonal imbalance or an illness like diabetes can cause difficulties in experiencing pleasure.

Hi Jay27, When you worry about getting another illness, it may help to remind yourself that you do have resources that you can use to handle that, like the college health center and planned parenthood clinic that you mentioned. While there are always some risks, you will be able to handle them, and ...

Hi there, forest_wave If you want, you can talk to us about your concerns regarding long-term relationships- we may be able to offer some advice. Something I've noticed is that your divergent thoughts are not necessarily mutually exclusive. You can date and meet new people even if you are not lookin...

Hi Lyle Lanley, While some discomfort is to be expected, you shouldn't push yourself to continue if you're feeling pain. Just to clarify, did you feel reassured because you were concerned you couldn't insert your fingers at all? some vaginas had similar stuff as mine yet they were not labeled as hav...

Hi there, Ms. Candy. I understand why you sent him a question mark, this is some confusing behavior! I can't say for sure why this boy hasn't responded to you- he could have forgotten to check that account, he might not know how to respond, or he might have stopped checking after some time, as you s...

Hi Ms Candy, Don't worry, I don't think the issues with your period are related to alcohol. In case you're concerned about this, healthcare providers don't usually report underage drinking by adults. If they ask about alcohol or drug use, they may just want to check for interactions with any medicat...

Hi archanana, welcome to the boards! I understand how it would be so anxiety inducing to have these sorts of difficulties when it feels like you're running out of time, but don't worry- it is unlikely that this structure will prevent you from getting pregnant. Would you describe how this structure f...

Hi Plunger, welcome to the boards! I can see why you're worried about this. We live in cultures that place a lot of emphasis on penis size, linking larger size to greater sexual skill and masculinity. I understand how it would be so upsetting to think that your body doesn't meet those standards, esp...

Hi there, Lyle! While we do say things like there's no rush to reassure people who are worried about not having certain experiences yet, it is perfectly reasonable that you want to have sexual experiences, and you will likely be able to have them. So, should you pursue this girl? I think the answer ...

Hi there, Raine Don't worry! The fact that this girl has graduated and you haven't may present some small logistical difficulties, but the age gap isn't especially weird. Since you're interested in her, you could just chill and see what happens. Or you could try to reciprocate a little and see how s...

Hi Jasscales! Don't worry, it is definitely possible for you to experience pleasure from masturbation. These sorts of difficulties are fairly common, and are usually resolvable with some time and trial and error. I have two more questions: Do you usually feel lubricated when you try to masturbate? A...