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by Latha
Sun Mar 24, 2024 4:10 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Men getting hard ?
Replies: 12
Views: 265

Re: Men getting hard ?

Take your time! I'm leaving now, but the next person on shift will get to you.
by Latha
Sun Mar 24, 2024 4:08 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Sexting????? Idk I’m just paranoid.
Replies: 4
Views: 227

Re: Sexting????? Idk I’m just paranoid.

Hi Ginger, Those are understandable fears. Since we can't control everything, there is always a chance that someone we trust could hurt us. But since you have reasons to believe this person is who they say they are, I think it is fair for you to trust your judgment here. Plenty of people develop goo...
by Latha
Sun Mar 24, 2024 3:50 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Understanding pronouns is hard
Replies: 3
Views: 119

Re: Understanding pronouns is hard

Hi Mika.m! This is a great question. More can be said about this, but I think that people from cultures with gendered pronouns are reminded of how people see their gender quite often, through the pronouns that people use for them. They have to experiment to find language that is comfortable for them...
by Latha
Sun Mar 24, 2024 3:42 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Men getting hard ?
Replies: 12
Views: 265

Re: Men getting hard ?

Hi chelsealewis, Ah, I understand why you would want more perspectives- that would be my first instinct too. Would you like to tell us more about this relationship? Maybe we can untangle the behavior that was making you confused. It is okay if you're not confident now. It can take a lot of time, exp...
by Latha
Sun Mar 24, 2024 3:35 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Feeling insecure about attractiveness
Replies: 7
Views: 189

Re: Feeling insecure about attractiveness

Hi there, Asking Queries! Don't worry, you can talk about dysphoria. Thanks for the content warning though, it may help someone who needs it. I understand how it would be hard to fight these sorts of thoughts if you don't feel like you have any actual evidence that people are attracted to you. You k...
by Latha
Sun Mar 24, 2024 3:23 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Not sure if it’s a date
Replies: 4
Views: 179

Re: Not sure if it’s a date

Hi Terence,

I think you could ask. It is mature to make sure you're both on the same page and that there are no misunderstandings.

It might be a good idea to think about your feelings on this subject. Do you want this to be a date, or would you prefer to go as friends?
by Latha
Sun Mar 24, 2024 3:14 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Men getting hard ?
Replies: 12
Views: 265

Re: Men getting hard ?

Hi Chelsealewis, welcome to the boards! I am not a straight boy, but maybe I could offer you some advice. If five boys answered your question, you would only have the answers of five individual boys. You might find some patterns, but you wouldn't be able to draw very good conclusions about all boys....
by Latha
Sun Mar 24, 2024 3:06 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Dealing with afterglow
Replies: 1
Views: 124

Re: Dealing with afterglow

Hi there, name_pending, Oh no- it is good that you have an explanation and that you can feel satisfied now, but I'm sorry your depression was really bad! If you want that afterglow to go away sooner, maybe you could try switching to another activity- you could take a cool bath, exercise, or play a g...
by Latha
Sun Mar 24, 2024 3:05 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Morality police is confusing
Replies: 4
Views: 151

Re: Morality police is confusing

Hi there, Mika.m You're right, the morality police don't just hurt women- they hurt anyone who opposes their power or doesn't want to live under their strict moral code. That includes men and trans people. When people discuss the problems with the police, I think they focus on women for two reasons:...
by Latha
Sun Mar 24, 2024 3:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feeling being rude and offensive
Replies: 7
Views: 200

Re: Feeling being rude and offensive

Hi Mika.m, It is not bad or immoral to see someone and notice a physical feature that you like. But when we're in public, it is important to make sure we're not creating significant discomfort for other people. For example, it would be a little rude to stare, because it might make her feel self-cons...
by Latha
Sun Mar 24, 2024 3:00 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Is double vaginal penetration even possible?
Replies: 2
Views: 111

Re: Is double vaginal penetration even possible?

Hi Coreylore, welcome to the boards! Double vaginal penetration is biologically possible, but it is not for everyone, and requires a great deal of patience and preparation to do without pain. There are a couple of things that impact how difficult double penetration is, including the size of the obje...
by Latha
Sat Mar 23, 2024 2:51 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I am scared of having sex with my girlfriend but I really want to!
Replies: 2
Views: 148

Re: I am scared of having sex with my girlfriend but I really want to!

Hi there, Unr3alun3arth! Oof, these types of anxieties can be such strange creatures. You know that you're ready, you have a partner that you care about, it doesn't seem like she is putting pressure on you, and you know that you can get better with practice. Yet, you're worried. You value your relat...
by Latha
Fri Mar 22, 2024 1:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why can’t I orgasm?
Replies: 9
Views: 487

Re: Why can’t I orgasm?

Hi there, Itsmemimsey

Your description doesn't sound concerning... it could be vaginal lubrication. Do you think that sounds right?
by Latha
Fri Mar 22, 2024 1:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to find partner as an introvert and shy
Replies: 9
Views: 411

Re: How to find partner as an introvert and shy

Hi there, Mika.m Of the hobbies that you've mentioned, I think storytelling and philosophy might be most helpful for meeting other people. Maybe you could attend lectures or a writing club. If you enjoy reading as well, you could join a book club. I think you can look for offline and online options ...
by Latha
Sat Mar 16, 2024 10:38 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: How to understand?
Replies: 3
Views: 257

Re: How to understand?

Hi there, PomPom- welcome to the boards! Don't worry about any mistakes, I can understand you just fine. I can see that you're really worried about this. Before I try to address your concerns about attraction, I want to assure you of something: you can take as long as you need to figure out your sex...
by Latha
Sat Mar 16, 2024 10:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months
Replies: 9
Views: 1543

Re: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months

Hi there, PleaseHelpASAP All of this does seem so frustrating- I understand why you want that good feeling to last a little longer, and I'm sorry you're having difficulties. You've talked about trying clitoral stimulation and fingering, but have you also tried touching other parts of your body? Plea...
by Latha
Sat Mar 16, 2024 2:23 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How do I let go of intense shame surrounding my kinks?
Replies: 1
Views: 160

Re: How do I let go of intense shame surrounding my kinks?

Hi there, Hi I understand why you're worried about this, but I don't think that you are a gross person and I don't think it is particularly strange that you searched for such scenes. You said it yourself: you were looking for CBT and castratrix porn, but you didn't know how to find it. In the course...
by Latha
Sat Mar 16, 2024 12:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual discussion
Replies: 3
Views: 297

Re: Sexual discussion

Hi there, Dollybeats- welcome to the boards!

Would you tell us a bit more about what you feel when you try to finger yourself? Do you notice any pain or tightness? How is it different from when your boyfriend fingers you?
by Latha
Fri Mar 15, 2024 1:57 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Experimenting With Butt Plugs
Replies: 2
Views: 369

Re: Experimenting With Butt Plugs

Hi there, CatHaru26 Oof, I understand how that would be a bummer! I think you're doing the right thing by focusing on going slow and using lots of lube. You may just need some more time to get used to these new sensations. On that note, I'm wondering if there is anything about the sensations from th...
by Latha
Sun Mar 10, 2024 2:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I think I am omnisexual. Ways to figure out your Sexuality without being in a Relationship?
Replies: 11
Views: 581

Re: I think I am omnisexual. Ways to figure out your Sexuality without being in a Relationship?

Hi Nat! You know, there is nothing wrong with changing the words you use to describe your orientation or coming out multiple times. You can change the labels you use as many times as you want in your life. You don't have any obligation to find one word and stick to it. You can also use more than one...
by Latha
Sun Mar 10, 2024 2:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: The way my friend talks about sex makes me uncomfortable. How do I bring this up?
Replies: 3
Views: 322

Re: The way my friend talks about sex makes me uncomfortable. How do I bring this up?

Hi there, Jay27 Oof, I understand how that would feel so invalidating- PIV intercourse definitely isn't the only real sex. It is possible that your friend has some attachment to the idea of being a virgin that is keeping her from unpacking the implications of her words or properly considering how th...
by Latha
Sat Mar 09, 2024 1:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Squirting??
Replies: 9
Views: 1393

Re: Squirting??

Hi Viennakuko, I want to gently challenge this idea you have about the 'real thing'. Orgasms have a lot of great publicity, so I understand why you would want to experience strong ones. But they are not necessarily the most important part of sex- after all, they only last for a few seconds. The sati...
by Latha
Fri Mar 08, 2024 2:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Would it be possible to change my username?
Replies: 2
Views: 229

Re: Would it be possible to change my username?

Hi Bowler, I've changed your username!
by Latha
Fri Mar 08, 2024 2:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to manage Gender Dysphoria during Solitary Sexual Activities?
Replies: 9
Views: 559

Re: How to manage Gender Dysphoria during Solitary Sexual Activities?

Hi Demigirl09, I understand why you would have that thought. We live in cisnormative societies that tell us that girls must have a certain type of body. But I think you and I know that isn't true. Some girls ejaculate like you do, so girls can produce semen. I know it isn't always easy to get this k...
by Latha
Sun Mar 03, 2024 2:18 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Saddened (disproportionately) by portrayal of my favourite characters in fanfic
Replies: 11
Views: 1315

Re: Saddened (disproportionately) by portrayal of my favourite characters in fanfic

Hi Laayiv, You've touched upon this tendency of yours to fixate on things that feel wrong to you before. Do you think this might be related to the mental health difficulties that you've mentioned? I've noticed that you can be very self-deprecating, like you think very little of yourself. I understan...

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