yes, i stopped when i felt pain, i only took what i was comfortable with.
and yes, i was reassured because i previously thought nothing at all could be inserted, and it also felt sort of nice at some point?

and thank you for the resources!!

PS: also last night i got aroused enough and could fit a bit more than the first phalange of my middle finger, i even attempted to put another finger in. it hurt but i felt that it was stretching.
at a point it was physically painful but mentally reassuring, in a way? is all of this normal?

hi Sam w, you have also been a big help to me. opening this thread has gradually made me less ashamed of this issue and talking about it. the other day i showed that to my mum with a mirror (we do have the kind of relationship where if there's something wrong or confusing with my vulva i can tell or...

thank you so much for the replies willa and heather.
my main hypothesis for it is indeed a septate hymen, but i can't know for certain until i see a gyno, i'll ask my mother to and from the way we talked about it this morning i can tell she is not against it

hi, i have an update. i inspected myself with the mirror and found that there's a piece of flesh blocking the entrance, and that there seems to be two or three holes instead of one. i don't mean the urethra, i mean that this piece of flesh has two or three openings, of which in the bigger one i can ...

thanks for the answer latha. i'm not sure now if i should pursue the girl, i want both our needs to be met. i need to think about it.

before i get into it: i know there is no rush and things will happen when they are due, but that does not stop me from desiring to begin sexual experience like i would desire to get into a school or go to a place. i have had a crush on this girl for at least a month or so, it is slightly fading thou...

so, with M, things went horribly wrong. he had a clashing political opinion with me which i just couldn't forgive, and he's horribly egocentric and pretentious. also, he says that he thinks dating as a teenager is a waste of time and he prefers to focus on serious things. i don't know whether to fee...

hello, i started reading the article, but it says Some people feel no pain at all, while others, with a thicker vaginal corona, have reported some pains. There may be minor ruptures in the mucous folds that hurt, and sometimes there may be a little bleeding. and that is what i'm afraid of. you say t...

hi scarleteam, here's the sitch. i have crushes on two people at once. one is this girl who i met a few weeks ago (i'll call her F) and we instantly "clicked" in a way? i managed to cuddle with her while watching a movie, we held hands and she did the thumb rub thing, i've kissed her foreh...

i've told my mum about the issue. i told her about trying to finger myself and she said that she can't tell if it's normal or not as she never fingered herself when she was still a virgin. when i told her about the tampons she said it might be wrong insertion and/or inexperience of the first few tim...

so, there's this young man (about 22/23yo) who i met once, we both were with our parents so we all met together. this is important as my mum knows this guy. once on instagram, kind of jokingly, i put a note saying "who wants to model for my art ;)" as my art tends to be artistic nudes with...

no i have not, besides i'm not sure if the gynecologists in my country can do those sorts of exams yet for someone who is still a "virgin". and i'm too ashamed to tell my parents about what's going on, as i can't go to a gyno autonomously

sorry for the late reply. yes, i think that or something similar could work.

if i see him and i'm alone i can easily avoid him, while if i'm with my family i already know how to act.
this reminded me, i'll ask them to warn me whether he'll be present at some occasions so i can avoid him.

i am once again talking about this problem. ever since i started masturbating i've only ever used external stimuli. my attempts at fingering were never successful, yesterday i tried again with my middle finger after i felt aroused and wet enough. with some pressure and initial discomfort, i could on...

so, i've seen there already was a thread about a teenager who had previously posted smut fanfiction. but my issue is a bit different. there is an original story that i am writing, and it's complicated to explain right now but for now i plan to just write various short stories from that universe. in ...

a thread about me trying to get some clarity about the SA i suffered has left me thinking about the relationship i shared with this guy. i was close to him during most of my life. we'd been dating on-off until he did that (but there have been other instances of him touching me inappropriately before...

yes, yes i would.
i'm still thinking of the possibility of seeing him somehow, and i don't know how i would get out of it. i've now realised how fucked up he acted, and i hope that i don't fall into the trap again.
but i'd need some help

hello scarleteam, an update: I CUT HIM OFF FINALLY!!! i had contemplated just letting it fade, but he was always reaching out for an interaction, even a lowkey one. so on one of those times i asked to discuss about the situation, and told him all about how this has happened to me, and how i felt unc...

nicole thank you so much for the answer.

yes i still need to process it all.
besides his interactions continue being passive, and i keep having these doubts: when and what will i tell him? and should i block him?

yes that would be good thanks.

and i do have friends and family to support me.

hi heather. thank you for the answer. i don't really think that i want to be friends with this guy anymore: i feel things can no longer be the same and somewhat... betrayed? if that word is suitable. i thought that i could trust him, i thought i was wrong about him, but i was right all along. we are...

it has happened again to me, a boy who i thought i could just be friends with is crushing on me. and he doesn't even respect my queer identity, still calling me by my dead name although i told him at least twice that i don't like it. i am serious when i say this is the fourth time it happens with di...

hi Latha. and nevermind about ovulation, my discharge today is red and brown which indicates that i'm about to begin menstruating. although i thought that you only get cramps *during* the bleeding, not a few days before? and the discharge and feelings were just random. but yes, they are painful but ...

lately i've been getting symptoms of ovulation when it should be my PMS days. i've always had a very regular cycle so this seems odd to me. ever since i started school, sometimes nearly every day i'll get strong uterine cramps that i usually get when i ovulate. one day i even had the typical dischar...

hi latha and thank you for your answer and insight too. yes there definitely was some sort of pressure from both our families, including his family. and there's my younger brother who is still a kid and is friends with this guy since they share a passion for video games, and my brother knows that th...