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by Lyle Lanley
Sun Mar 03, 2024 12:52 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: uncertainty & making a move
Replies: 3
Views: 1472

Re: uncertainty & making a move

so, with M, things went horribly wrong. he had a clashing political opinion with me which i just couldn't forgive, and he's horribly egocentric and pretentious. also, he says that he thinks dating as a teenager is a waste of time and he prefers to focus on serious things. i don't know whether to fee...
by Lyle Lanley
Tue Feb 27, 2024 9:23 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: can't finger myself. vaginismus?
Replies: 7
Views: 2134

Re: can't finger myself. vaginismus?

hello, i started reading the article, but it says Some people feel no pain at all, while others, with a thicker vaginal corona, have reported some pains. There may be minor ruptures in the mucous folds that hurt, and sometimes there may be a little bleeding. and that is what i'm afraid of. you say t...
by Lyle Lanley
Sat Feb 24, 2024 2:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: uncertainty & making a move
Replies: 3
Views: 1472

uncertainty & making a move

hi scarleteam, here's the sitch. i have crushes on two people at once. one is this girl who i met a few weeks ago (i'll call her F) and we instantly "clicked" in a way? i managed to cuddle with her while watching a movie, we held hands and she did the thumb rub thing, i've kissed her foreh...
by Lyle Lanley
Sat Feb 24, 2024 2:31 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: can't finger myself. vaginismus?
Replies: 7
Views: 2134

Re: can't finger myself. vaginismus?

i've told my mum about the issue. i told her about trying to finger myself and she said that she can't tell if it's normal or not as she never fingered herself when she was still a virgin. when i told her about the tampons she said it might be wrong insertion and/or inexperience of the first few tim...
by Lyle Lanley
Thu Feb 22, 2024 7:20 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: received nudes from an older guy
Replies: 1
Views: 1231

received nudes from an older guy

so, there's this young man (about 22/23yo) who i met once, we both were with our parents so we all met together. this is important as my mum knows this guy. once on instagram, kind of jokingly, i put a note saying "who wants to model for my art ;)" as my art tends to be artistic nudes with...
by Lyle Lanley
Tue Feb 20, 2024 11:40 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: can't finger myself. vaginismus?
Replies: 7
Views: 2134

Re: can't finger myself. vaginismus?

no i have not, besides i'm not sure if the gynecologists in my country can do those sorts of exams yet for someone who is still a "virgin". and i'm too ashamed to tell my parents about what's going on, as i can't go to a gyno autonomously
by Lyle Lanley
Fri Feb 16, 2024 8:35 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: is it still SA with no penetration or nudity?
Replies: 9
Views: 12363

Re: is it still SA with no penetration or nudity?

sorry for the late reply. yes, i think that or something similar could work.

if i see him and i'm alone i can easily avoid him, while if i'm with my family i already know how to act.
this reminded me, i'll ask them to warn me whether he'll be present at some occasions so i can avoid him.
by Lyle Lanley
Fri Feb 16, 2024 8:18 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: can't finger myself. vaginismus?
Replies: 7
Views: 2134

can't finger myself. vaginismus?

i am once again talking about this problem. ever since i started masturbating i've only ever used external stimuli. my attempts at fingering were never successful, yesterday i tried again with my middle finger after i felt aroused and wet enough. with some pressure and initial discomfort, i could on...
by Lyle Lanley
Sun Nov 05, 2023 3:41 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: wanting to publish a story with a sex scene
Replies: 1
Views: 2837

wanting to publish a story with a sex scene

so, i've seen there already was a thread about a teenager who had previously posted smut fanfiction. but my issue is a bit different. there is an original story that i am writing, and it's complicated to explain right now but for now i plan to just write various short stories from that universe. in ...
by Lyle Lanley
Sun Oct 22, 2023 9:03 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: have i been emotionally abused?
Replies: 1
Views: 6065

have i been emotionally abused?

a thread about me trying to get some clarity about the SA i suffered has left me thinking about the relationship i shared with this guy. i was close to him during most of my life. we'd been dating on-off until he did that (but there have been other instances of him touching me inappropriately before...
by Lyle Lanley
Thu Oct 12, 2023 12:52 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: is it still SA with no penetration or nudity?
Replies: 9
Views: 12363

Re: is it still SA with no penetration or nudity?

yes, yes i would.
i'm still thinking of the possibility of seeing him somehow, and i don't know how i would get out of it. i've now realised how fucked up he acted, and i hope that i don't fall into the trap again.
but i'd need some help
by Lyle Lanley
Thu Oct 05, 2023 8:34 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: male friend crushes on me
Replies: 7
Views: 5910

Re: male friend crushes on me

hello scarleteam, an update: I CUT HIM OFF FINALLY!!! i had contemplated just letting it fade, but he was always reaching out for an interaction, even a lowkey one. so on one of those times i asked to discuss about the situation, and told him all about how this has happened to me, and how i felt unc...
by Lyle Lanley
Sat Sep 23, 2023 9:53 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: male friend crushes on me
Replies: 7
Views: 5910

Re: male friend crushes on me

nicole thank you so much for the answer.

yes i still need to process it all.
besides his interactions continue being passive, and i keep having these doubts: when and what will i tell him? and should i block him?

yes that would be good thanks.

and i do have friends and family to support me.
by Lyle Lanley
Fri Sep 22, 2023 9:31 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: male friend crushes on me
Replies: 7
Views: 5910

Re: male friend crushes on me

hi heather. thank you for the answer. i don't really think that i want to be friends with this guy anymore: i feel things can no longer be the same and somewhat... betrayed? if that word is suitable. i thought that i could trust him, i thought i was wrong about him, but i was right all along. we are...
by Lyle Lanley
Wed Sep 20, 2023 5:22 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: male friend crushes on me
Replies: 7
Views: 5910

male friend crushes on me

it has happened again to me, a boy who i thought i could just be friends with is crushing on me. and he doesn't even respect my queer identity, still calling me by my dead name although i told him at least twice that i don't like it. i am serious when i say this is the fourth time it happens with di...
by Lyle Lanley
Sat Sep 16, 2023 5:47 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: late ovulation
Replies: 3
Views: 4132

Re: late ovulation

hi Latha. and nevermind about ovulation, my discharge today is red and brown which indicates that i'm about to begin menstruating. although i thought that you only get cramps *during* the bleeding, not a few days before? and the discharge and feelings were just random. but yes, they are painful but ...
by Lyle Lanley
Fri Sep 15, 2023 2:26 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: late ovulation
Replies: 3
Views: 4132

late ovulation

lately i've been getting symptoms of ovulation when it should be my PMS days. i've always had a very regular cycle so this seems odd to me. ever since i started school, sometimes nearly every day i'll get strong uterine cramps that i usually get when i ovulate. one day i even had the typical dischar...
by Lyle Lanley
Sat Aug 26, 2023 2:01 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: is it still SA with no penetration or nudity?
Replies: 9
Views: 12363

Re: is it still SA with no penetration or nudity?

hi latha and thank you for your answer and insight too. yes there definitely was some sort of pressure from both our families, including his family. and there's my younger brother who is still a kid and is friends with this guy since they share a passion for video games, and my brother knows that th...
by Lyle Lanley
Thu Aug 24, 2023 2:29 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: how does someone with vagina cum during sex
Replies: 1
Views: 3700

how does someone with vagina cum during sex

so i'm trying to write erotic stories (for my own enjoyment, not going to make them public until i come of age), and since i don't have much experience but i do know some things, i am wondering about this. so it is already well known that virtually no AFAB person comes with p-in-v penetration. but i...
by Lyle Lanley
Thu Aug 24, 2023 2:24 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: is it still SA with no penetration or nudity?
Replies: 9
Views: 12363

Re: is it still SA with no penetration or nudity?

thank you for your answer and support sam w. i have reflected on the time spent with the guy and truth is that we have had a complicated relationship for most of our lives, dating on-off, sometimes he'd hate me sometimes he'd be head over heels, but for the most part we were best friends, then... he...
by Lyle Lanley
Mon Aug 21, 2023 11:07 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: is it still SA with no penetration or nudity?
Replies: 9
Views: 12363

is it still SA with no penetration or nudity?

i want to ask because i don't know if it's valid that i was left traumatised from things that weren't forceful penetration or someone ripping clothes off me. so if attempting to touch someone's breast, cornering someone, dry humping someone, and initiating a kiss with someone unwilling counts as SA ...
by Lyle Lanley
Wed Aug 16, 2023 1:18 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: intrusive thoughts about someone i don't want
Replies: 1
Views: 2318

intrusive thoughts about someone i don't want

hello scarleteam, me again. i am practicing an instrument. my teacher is a guy in his 30s, average looking. i have been getting intrusive thougths about him of sexual nature, trying to convince me that i am attracted to him. during practice i would get random thoughts of him in sexual situations, an...
by Lyle Lanley
Sun Jun 18, 2023 3:27 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: when's my puberty over?
Replies: 1
Views: 1074

when's my puberty over?

i thought that my body was done growing and that i now had the phisyonomy of an adult. apparently it isn't so. i had a growth spurt last year, my body is changing shape constantly, and only recently is my acne acting up when i've had smooth skin for the rest of my life. plus, i only started to feel ...
by Lyle Lanley
Mon Apr 10, 2023 12:32 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: complicated relationship with men and masculinity
Replies: 5
Views: 5529

Re: complicated relationship with men and masculinity

sorry i come back to this after a very long time. anyways. my memory is fallatious so i don't remember exactly what he said, but a lot of it was "not all men, women rape/assault/kill men too..." and he mentioned a recent case with a celebrity couple when people thought the woman was the as...
by Lyle Lanley
Mon Mar 27, 2023 2:21 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: trying to establish an important conversation
Replies: 7
Views: 6302

Re: trying to establish an important conversation

(i am not in the new house yet but soon i will) after an embarrassing encounter, i have been allowed to lock the bathroom door anytime i don't want to be seen.
and my mum has started knocking when i was in my room and the door was closed.

i feel like i have achieved some kind of victory.

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