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by Emily N
Fri Jul 23, 2021 10:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: question
Replies: 1
Views: 61

Re: question

It looks like last time you wrote in, you also asked whether you could be pregnant after 8 negative pregnancy tests. My answer is the same as Sofi's - 8 negative tests that were done according to the directions means that you aren't pregnant. Because you've asked about pregnancy scares a few times, ...
by Emily N
Wed Jul 14, 2021 10:54 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Into BDSM at 13, worried about damaging myself
Replies: 3
Views: 184

Re: Into BDSM at 13, worried about damaging myself

Hi Sam526687, It makes sense that ignoring your interests and desires isn’t a great strategy. Reading erotica is a great place to start exploring your interest in BDSM. But I also really appreciate Carly’s note about using sexual media and erotica for entertainment, not as a “how-to” guide for sex. ...
by Emily N
Fri Jul 09, 2021 11:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 49
Views: 903

Re: I don't know what to do

Hi jenny01, It sounds like at least both you and your mom want you to have more independence, but it certainly is frustrating if you don’t feel you are getting the support you need to get there. Are there any life skills that you want to learn now? Would you consider asking your siblings to help you...
by Emily N
Wed Jul 07, 2021 11:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 49
Views: 903

Re: I don't know what to do

Hi jenny01, I understand the desire and need to be loved by someone else, and it can be really disheartening to feel like no one is attracted to you in this way. But I want you to know that this is NOT a reflection on your attractiveness or desirability. As Heather mentioned, the process of finding ...
by Emily N
Tue Jul 06, 2021 9:40 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: My Subconscious Fear of Male Sexuality
Replies: 3
Views: 4768

Re: My Subconscious Fear of Male Sexuality

Hey PowerPup! No need to apologize, we are here whenever you want to write in! I’m glad you have been able to process a lot of your feelings and that you are in a better place. Sometimes taking time to process is the most helpful, even if it can be really uncomfortable to sit with some of those feel...
by Emily N
Fri Jul 02, 2021 8:44 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 2583

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

Of course! Feel free to ask more questions if they come up :)
by Emily N
Fri Jul 02, 2021 8:22 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 2583

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

Hi bikinksterboy, I’m sorry to hear about your girlfriend’s insensitive therapist and difficulty gaining autonomy over her healthcare, that sounds so frustrating and painful. I don’t have too much specific knowledge about finding a therapist within the bounds of insurance, but I’ll share what I can!...
by Emily N
Fri Jul 02, 2021 7:10 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Validity of identity?
Replies: 7
Views: 421

Re: Validity of identity?

Hi Raffles, I’m so sorry that coming out has been difficult and that some people haven’t embraced your identity the way you deserve. Coming out can definitely be energy draining at times, and you aren’t alone in feeling this! But we also want coming out to be overwhelmingly liberating and validating...
by Emily N
Fri Jun 25, 2021 8:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is my withdrawal bleed colour normal?
Replies: 7
Views: 3491

Re: Is my withdrawal bleed colour normal?

There hasn't been much research about the effect of the vaccine on periods or withdrawal bleeds, but it seems like any reported changes are minor or could be caused by many other factors. But if you do experience changes or a little unexpected bleeding, it's not too surprising!
by Emily N
Fri Jun 25, 2021 7:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: QUESTION
Replies: 8
Views: 582

Re: QUESTION

I'm sorry to hear that pregnancy anxiety is affecting you so hard, and that you don't have access to therapy. You deserve a supportive environment, but I'm glad that you are giving yourself space to think about how you can help yourself feel calmer or direct away from your anxiety <3
by Emily N
Fri Jun 25, 2021 7:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: QUESTION
Replies: 8
Views: 582

Re: QUESTION

Bleeding during early pregnancy is generally light/spotting, and isn't considered a period. It also starts after a person has missed their period, as well, which doesn't sound like what you are experiencing.
by Emily N
Fri Jun 25, 2021 7:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: QUESTION
Replies: 8
Views: 582

Re: QUESTION

Hey Aarushi257, It sounds like you are thinking about when taking a pregnancy test will only increase your anxiety surrounding pregnancy instead of helping you feel more at ease, and that's really important. I'm glad you are checking in with yourself! Because it isn't possible to have a period while...
by Emily N
Mon Jun 21, 2021 11:55 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Uhhh I don't know what to call this
Replies: 3
Views: 957

Re: Uhhh I don't know what to call this

Hi jenny01! First, I want to share this article, Reciprocity Reloaded , which discusses the way we can reframe “giving and receiving” during sex . Rather than framing engaging in sexual activities as a transactional proposal “I’ll give you A if you give me B”, how would you feel about framing it to ...
by Emily N
Mon Jun 21, 2021 11:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex
Replies: 1
Views: 958

Re: Sex

Hi Pavonis! This question isn’t weird! It’s normal to be curious about having sex, and who you want to have it with (it’s also normal not to want to have sex). You say you “still” haven’t had sex, but I want to reassure you that there is no timeline to have sex, either! Sex is most enjoyable when it...
by Emily N
Wed Jun 16, 2021 11:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Disappointed in my bf
Replies: 9
Views: 1603

Re: Disappointed in my bf

Hi Hel, I’m so sorry to hear that you’re in pain, going through a break up can be so difficult! But I also hear so many positives from you, that you both feel like this is the right decision, and it allows you both space to do some “soul-searching” while still being friends. But I hear you when you ...
by Emily N
Tue Jun 15, 2021 10:31 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Wanting Sexual Connection Underage
Replies: 5
Views: 1437

Re: Wanting Sexual Connection Underage

Hi Valentin0, Your feelings are so valid, it can be really painful to crave human affection and/or sex, and not have someone to share it with. But I think it’s really admirable and important that you already have expectations for future partners in that they will embrace you and your disability rath...
by Emily N
Wed Jun 09, 2021 3:14 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: is sex supposed to hurt this much/be this uncomfy? how can i stop that? + another other quick question about bc
Replies: 1
Views: 2720

Re: is sex supposed to hurt this much/be this uncomfy? how can i stop that? + another other quick question about bc

Hi ax, I’m so sorry to hear that you have had painful experiences with sex! You wrote - “I know it’s “supposed” to hurt the first time but i don’t know how long it hurts before it feels good.” But sex does not have to and should not be painful, even if it’s your first time! The blood on your underwe...
by Emily N
Sun Jun 06, 2021 10:57 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My nonbinary girlfriend wants to get a beard
Replies: 4
Views: 2822

Re: My nonbinary girlfriend wants to get a beard

Hey vambrace! Moving in with your girlfriend sounds exciting! You say - “And I want to be a good partner to him and encourage his transition and the things that will make him feel happy and more fulfilled in his gender”. I think it’s awesome that you are addressing your discomfort with beards from t...
by Emily N
Sun Jun 06, 2021 10:17 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Volunteering
Replies: 1
Views: 2380

Re: Volunteering

Hi there! Here is a link to more information on volunteering with Scarleteen and the application process - Scarleteen Volunteer Application
by Emily N
Fri Jun 04, 2021 8:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How effective are condoms?
Replies: 14
Views: 9258

Re: How effective are condoms?

Lube is a wonderful resource for making sure that the vulva and vagina are protected! It also helps reduce the chance of the condom breaking. It’s also helpful to communicate with your partner if sex feels painful or uncomfortable - this is a great indicator to try slowing down or trying something d...
by Emily N
Fri Jun 04, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: QUESTION
Replies: 7
Views: 2486

Re: QUESTION

Hey Aarushi257! The short, fast answer is that it is - no, you cannot get pregnant from that. This article, Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? , gives a more detailed response to your question (and outlines other scenarios you can reference). It notes that “oral sex - fellatio”,...
by Emily N
Fri Jun 04, 2021 8:00 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Do I need to have a gynecologist appointment if (long-winded, slightly graphic context)
Replies: 4
Views: 2098

Re: Do I need to have a gynecologist appointment if (long-winded, slightly graphic context)

Hi vambrace, you are very welcome to post here! It is totally understandable to have anxiety surrounding gynecologist appointments and pelvic exams! I have a few articles I can share with you, and I’ll talk through my thoughts to hopefully address some of your concerns. It is generally recommended t...
by Emily N
Fri Jun 04, 2021 6:55 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How effective are condoms?
Replies: 14
Views: 9258

Re: How effective are condoms?

Hi Juliaho90, To me, it also seems like it could be spotting or residual blood if you've had your period recently. (Sometimes sex also causes small abrasions in the vagina -f you are worried about this, we can talk more about it!) If you aren't experiences pain or other physical symptoms and the ble...
by Emily N
Fri Jun 04, 2021 6:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fear of orgasm and all things sexual
Replies: 1
Views: 1949

Re: Fear of orgasm and all things sexual

Hi rinpin_05! I want to start by letting you know that it is very normal to both experience arousal without a specific “prompt”, especially as our bodies are going through puberty. Orgasming during sleep is also totally normal and common for people of many ages. (When we sleep, our bodies are very r...
by Emily N
Thu May 27, 2021 9:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is it possible to have a period while pregnant and on birth control?
Replies: 2
Views: 7699

Re: Is it possible to have a period while pregnant and on birth control?

Hi Digdawg! You are correct that people who experience a period while taking hormonal birth control, particularly oral contraceptives and the vaginal ring, have a different period than those without birth control. Different from menstrual periods, periods with birth control are called withdrawal ble...

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