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by Emily N
Mon Jun 21, 2021 11:55 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Uhhh I don't know what to call this
Replies: 3
Views: 799

Re: Uhhh I don't know what to call this

Hi jenny01! First, I want to share this article, Reciprocity Reloaded , which discusses the way we can reframe “giving and receiving” during sex . Rather than framing engaging in sexual activities as a transactional proposal “I’ll give you A if you give me B”, how would you feel about framing it to ...
by Emily N
Mon Jun 21, 2021 11:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex
Replies: 1
Views: 795

Re: Sex

Hi Pavonis! This question isn’t weird! It’s normal to be curious about having sex, and who you want to have it with (it’s also normal not to want to have sex). You say you “still” haven’t had sex, but I want to reassure you that there is no timeline to have sex, either! Sex is most enjoyable when it...
by Emily N
Wed Jun 16, 2021 11:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Disappointed in my bf
Replies: 9
Views: 1131

Re: Disappointed in my bf

Hi Hel, I’m so sorry to hear that you’re in pain, going through a break up can be so difficult! But I also hear so many positives from you, that you both feel like this is the right decision, and it allows you both space to do some “soul-searching” while still being friends. But I hear you when you ...
by Emily N
Tue Jun 15, 2021 10:31 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Wanting Sexual Connection Underage
Replies: 5
Views: 1032

Re: Wanting Sexual Connection Underage

Hi Valentin0, Your feelings are so valid, it can be really painful to crave human affection and/or sex, and not have someone to share it with. But I think it’s really admirable and important that you already have expectations for future partners in that they will embrace you and your disability rath...
by Emily N
Wed Jun 09, 2021 3:14 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: is sex supposed to hurt this much/be this uncomfy? how can i stop that? + another other quick question about bc
Replies: 1
Views: 897

Re: is sex supposed to hurt this much/be this uncomfy? how can i stop that? + another other quick question about bc

Hi ax, I’m so sorry to hear that you have had painful experiences with sex! You wrote - “I know it’s “supposed” to hurt the first time but i don’t know how long it hurts before it feels good.” But sex does not have to and should not be painful, even if it’s your first time! The blood on your underwe...
by Emily N
Sun Jun 06, 2021 10:57 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My nonbinary girlfriend wants to get a beard
Replies: 4
Views: 836

Re: My nonbinary girlfriend wants to get a beard

Hey vambrace! Moving in with your girlfriend sounds exciting! You say - “And I want to be a good partner to him and encourage his transition and the things that will make him feel happy and more fulfilled in his gender”. I think it’s awesome that you are addressing your discomfort with beards from t...
by Emily N
Sun Jun 06, 2021 10:17 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Volunteering
Replies: 1
Views: 827

Re: Volunteering

Hi there! Here is a link to more information on volunteering with Scarleteen and the application process - Scarleteen Volunteer Application
by Emily N
Fri Jun 04, 2021 8:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How effective are condoms?
Replies: 14
Views: 4222

Re: How effective are condoms?

Lube is a wonderful resource for making sure that the vulva and vagina are protected! It also helps reduce the chance of the condom breaking. It’s also helpful to communicate with your partner if sex feels painful or uncomfortable - this is a great indicator to try slowing down or trying something d...
by Emily N
Fri Jun 04, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: QUESTION
Replies: 2
Views: 893

Re: QUESTION

Hey Aarushi257! The short, fast answer is that it is - no, you cannot get pregnant from that. This article, Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? , gives a more detailed response to your question (and outlines other scenarios you can reference). It notes that “oral sex - fellatio”,...
by Emily N
Fri Jun 04, 2021 8:00 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Do I need to have a gynecologist appointment if (long-winded, slightly graphic context)
Replies: 4
Views: 651

Re: Do I need to have a gynecologist appointment if (long-winded, slightly graphic context)

Hi vambrace, you are very welcome to post here! It is totally understandable to have anxiety surrounding gynecologist appointments and pelvic exams! I have a few articles I can share with you, and I’ll talk through my thoughts to hopefully address some of your concerns. It is generally recommended t...
by Emily N
Fri Jun 04, 2021 6:55 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How effective are condoms?
Replies: 14
Views: 4222

Re: How effective are condoms?

Hi Juliaho90, To me, it also seems like it could be spotting or residual blood if you've had your period recently. (Sometimes sex also causes small abrasions in the vagina -f you are worried about this, we can talk more about it!) If you aren't experiences pain or other physical symptoms and the ble...
by Emily N
Fri Jun 04, 2021 6:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fear of orgasm and all things sexual
Replies: 1
Views: 734

Re: Fear of orgasm and all things sexual

Hi rinpin_05! I want to start by letting you know that it is very normal to both experience arousal without a specific “prompt”, especially as our bodies are going through puberty. Orgasming during sleep is also totally normal and common for people of many ages. (When we sleep, our bodies are very r...
by Emily N
Thu May 27, 2021 9:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is it possible to have a period while pregnant and on birth control?
Replies: 2
Views: 3823

Re: Is it possible to have a period while pregnant and on birth control?

Hi Digdawg! You are correct that people who experience a period while taking hormonal birth control, particularly oral contraceptives and the vaginal ring, have a different period than those without birth control. Different from menstrual periods, periods with birth control are called withdrawal ble...
by Emily N
Thu May 27, 2021 6:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Concerned
Replies: 3
Views: 3199

Re: Concerned

Hi jenny01, I'm so sorry to hear that it is hard for you to find privacy in your house, I can imagine that could be very difficult. Because I don't know you or your family's schedule, I can't tell you when would be the best time to masturbate, but I agree with Mo that it is important to set boundari...
by Emily N
Thu May 27, 2021 5:57 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Is it right?
Replies: 2
Views: 3063

Re: Is it right?

Hey jenny01! I want to be upfront and let you know that I am not a Christian or religious. But I do want to emphasize that masturbation is normal (for people of all ages), healthy, and very important for many people. It’s also important to recognize that you, and no one else, have the power to decid...
by Emily N
Thu May 20, 2021 6:20 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control
Replies: 16
Views: 3555

Re: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control

Hi belled, It’s great to hear that things have been going well for you!! It’s exciting that you have found writing as an outlet for your fantasies, it sounds like it allows you to be creative while also creating space for your fantasies in a way that feels comfortable. :) I hope your exams went well...
by Emily N
Wed May 19, 2021 7:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I build his confidence back up
Replies: 1
Views: 2081

Re: How do I build his confidence back up

Hi JuliaGallo, I agree that he definitely violated your privacy by going through your messages, and should not have done so. I’m glad he apologized about this. I want to check in, do you feel like your privacy is being respected now? But I can also understand that for him it could be very hurtful to...
by Emily N
Wed May 19, 2021 7:00 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: My Subconscious Fear of Male Sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 2092

Re: My Subconscious Fear of Male Sexuality

Hi PowerPup, Thanks for sharing - it seems like by writing out your thoughts and feelings about this, you’ve given yourself a good opportunity to explore. This article takes a deeper dive into masculinity and self expression: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/politics_relationships_sexual_identity_...
by Emily N
Mon May 03, 2021 8:37 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my guilt is eating me up alive
Replies: 25
Views: 3059

Re: my guilt is eating me up alive

In addition to Marisha, Carly, and my thoughts, it also sounds like your boyfriend has assured you that he is feeling fine afterwards and you didn't assault him. Do you want to talk more about how to deal with those remaining feelings of guilt, or is there something else that would be helpful to tal...
by Emily N
Mon May 03, 2021 7:18 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my guilt is eating me up alive
Replies: 25
Views: 3059

Re: my guilt is eating me up alive

It's good to hear that you are validating his experiences, as well! It sounds like you are building a supportive relationship :)
by Emily N
Mon May 03, 2021 6:29 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my guilt is eating me up alive
Replies: 25
Views: 3059

Re: my guilt is eating me up alive

Hi haikyufan123, I agree with both Marisha and Carly - it sounds like you realized immediately that it was physically uncomfortable for your boyfriend and you took good steps to apologize and check in with him about his feelings. So, this doesn't sound explicitly like assault to me, either. I unders...
by Emily N
Tue Apr 27, 2021 3:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Nexplanon Arm Implant
Replies: 13
Views: 1712

Re: Nexplanon Arm Implant

The implant should be fully effective a week after being inserted, but without knowing exactly when ovulation did/would have started and ended, I don't think we can say for sure if the implant stopped ovulation completely. Does that make sense?
by Emily N
Tue Apr 27, 2021 2:46 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Nexplanon Arm Implant
Replies: 13
Views: 1712

Re: Nexplanon Arm Implant

No need to apologize! For the first week after getting the implant, it's a good idea to use a backup method of birth control, especially if you believe you were about to begin ovulating. Does that help?
by Emily N
Tue Apr 27, 2021 2:19 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Nexplanon Arm Implant
Replies: 13
Views: 1712

Re: Nexplanon Arm Implant

I just learned about it from another person at Scarleteen, too! (Thanks, Heather!) Hopefully it's helpful :)
by Emily N
Tue Apr 27, 2021 2:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Nexplanon Arm Implant
Replies: 13
Views: 1712

Re: Nexplanon Arm Implant

Hi Holly55, of course! From what I've read, some cramping is a normal side effect, and your body might take a few weeks (or months) to adjust to the new birth control! Of course, if your pain gets worse or just want to double check any of these questions, your doctor can also help if you feel comfor...

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