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by Emily N
Wed Nov 24, 2021 9:35 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 8
Views: 102

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

That sounds like a good plan, talking about it with your therapist could be really helpful! It’s okay (probably even helpful) to start slowly with reconnecting with them to get a sense of where you both are first. You don’t have to jump into the hardest conversation! (I wish there was a less vulnera...
by Emily N
Wed Nov 24, 2021 8:57 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 8
Views: 102

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Also, I expressed how I appreciated them letting me know how they felt, but I didn’t express to them why I wasn’t okay with how things ended… but maybe I should at some point? I’m not sure. Oh gotcha! If you don't think it's helpful to share, you aren’t obligated to express your feelings with how t...
by Emily N
Wed Nov 24, 2021 8:08 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I being too dramatic or was it sexual assault?
Replies: 1
Views: 37

Re: Am I being too dramatic or was it sexual assault?

Hi carson_meow, From this article , “It is sexual assault ANY time one person does not want to be engaging in any kind of sex and another person does it to them anyway without their consent and against their will.” So no, you are NOT being too dramatic, and I’m so sorry you had this experience. In t...
by Emily N
Wed Nov 24, 2021 7:43 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 8
Views: 102

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Hi MusicNerd, Ahh it feels so good to have connections like the one you’re describing! It’s understandable that you didn’t feel great about how things ended with this person, and I’m glad you were able to communicate these feelings to them. It’s also really important and admirable that you took time...
by Emily N
Fri Nov 19, 2021 9:57 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Celebrating Small Victories
Replies: 3
Views: 75

Re: Celebrating Small Victories

I love this question! It can be so easy to get caught up in the everyday scheduling, planning, and stresses that it feels good to remember the everyday wins too. I tutor chemistry, and yesterday, for the first time this semester, my study group was really engaged and I felt actually helpful!
by Emily N
Wed Nov 17, 2021 9:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just a quick question
Replies: 3
Views: 71

Re: Just a quick question

That's amazing, I'm so glad that you have a supportive physician! Do you have any other questions for Scarleteen?
by Emily N
Wed Nov 17, 2021 7:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just a quick question
Replies: 3
Views: 71

Re: Just a quick question

It sounds like your obgyn isn’t too concerned with the fluctuations in your period, and it is common for periods to be irregular in their timing and duration. Unless you are experiencing other abnormal symptoms, you probably don’t have to worry! That being said, you know your body best, and if it wo...
by Emily N
Fri Nov 12, 2021 8:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Porn and hair
Replies: 14
Views: 305

Re: Porn and hair

I’m glad you are doing what feels normal and pleasurable for you with your body, that’s great! Many people are aroused by certain photos or videos and enjoy looking at them while they masturbate and there’s no reason to feel guilty about doing that! Like Sofi said, even if something turns you on, yo...
by Emily N
Fri Nov 12, 2021 7:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I hate feeling like this
Replies: 5
Views: 140

Re: I hate feeling like this

Hi Digdawg, I’m so sorry you are carrying all this anxiety! We have quite a few people post on the boards about pregnancy anxiety, so you’re not alone. I’m glad that you are using some tools from past therapy, but I’m sorry that you can’t access a therapist right now. And if using multiple methods o...
by Emily N
Wed Nov 10, 2021 10:03 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?
Replies: 20
Views: 233

Re: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?

What you don’t need to do is “treat it as no big deal and something that didn’t mean anything”. Your feelings are valid - it hurts to be lied to and the situation is particularly painful! But it sounds like there was some good progress made for both of you. It doesn’t sound like there was intentiona...
by Emily N
Wed Nov 10, 2021 9:31 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 61
Views: 796

Re: Masterbating

Hi Kyleg2007, how are things going for you?
by Emily N
Wed Nov 10, 2021 9:30 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?
Replies: 20
Views: 233

Re: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?

I’m glad you were able to have that conversation with him! It’s good that you identified the part about it that damaged your trust most - do you feel like he understands now how important transparency is for building trust in your relationship? Do you want to work on forgiving him? If you are still ...
by Emily N
Wed Nov 10, 2021 8:20 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masturbating But Can’t Finish.
Replies: 7
Views: 119

Re: Masturbating But Can’t Finish.

Hey Kari! I hear you, buying sex toys can be ridiculously expensive! But you actually can use “household items”. It is important that whatever you are using is 1) clean, 2) can be covered by a condom or dental dam, 3) doesn’t have an electrical current, and 4) isn’t too fragile so that it will break...
by Emily N
Wed Nov 10, 2021 7:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: birth control questions (part two)
Replies: 5
Views: 156

Re: birth control questions (part two)

You could experience some side effects within the first few days (like nausea - but this should get better quickly!) Other side effects might not show up for a week or a few weeks.
by Emily N
Wed Nov 10, 2021 7:36 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?
Replies: 20
Views: 233

Re: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?

Hi rahrah300, It’s definitely understandable how your boyfriend masturbating to a picture of someone you may both know could cause you to feel hurt. You ask if it’s still “right” for you to date him, but I don’t think there’s an explicit “right” or “wrong” here. It depends a lot more on how you are ...
by Emily N
Thu Nov 04, 2021 6:40 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Masturbation tips for young teen boys
Replies: 3
Views: 272

Re: Masturbation tips for young teen boys

Hi Datboi, People of any age can fantasize about a wide, wide variety of things. For the most part, as long as our fantasizes don't harm others, they are perfectly fine and an exciting way to explore our sexuality! We try not to label things as "normal" because "normal" is hard t...
by Emily N
Thu Nov 04, 2021 6:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: birth control questions (part two)
Replies: 5
Views: 156

Re: birth control questions (part two)

Are you taking a combination pill or progestin only? According to this Planned Parenthood article , if it's the combination pill, the pill is still effective regardless of whether you take it consistently at the same time of day. For progestin only pills, it's recommended to take the pill within the...
by Emily N
Thu Nov 04, 2021 6:21 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 57
Views: 785

Re: Just need some reassurance

It sounds like you are having an unfortunate string of downright mean and disrespectful interactions, I’m sorry! Consent is necessary not just for physical sexual experiences, but with sexual conversations and “sexting”, as well. Even if you “knew you shouldn’t have been doing it”, it’s not at all o...
by Emily N
Thu Nov 04, 2021 4:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Wanted: Libido
Replies: 3
Views: 136

Re: Wanted: Libido

Hi tinygoblin, I have also struggled with a change in my libido from a few years ago, it can be really disconcerting and frustrating. I’m glad you have been kind to yourself about this, that’s the biggest thing we can do for ourselves sometimes. Sometimes our body’s response to stress (and different...
by Emily N
Thu Nov 04, 2021 4:11 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex on period?
Replies: 1
Views: 105

Re: Sex on period?

Hi Holly55! I'm sorry to hear about the constant bleeding! Is this new, and are you able to talk to your doctor about it? Yes, as long as you have had the Nexplanon for more than a week, it is effective and you can have sex on your period.
by Emily N
Wed Nov 03, 2021 6:39 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 61
Views: 796

Re: Masterbating

Ah okay I’m glad it was with friends. Is there anywhere you want to start the conversation? Do you want to talk more about how you feel about what happened today (in the present)?
by Emily N
Wed Nov 03, 2021 5:51 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: birth control questions (part two)
Replies: 5
Views: 156

Re: birth control questions (part two)

Hey lycheefan! I'm glad to hear you are excited! Many types of birth control can lead to withdrawal bleeds, including the pill, vaginal rings, and IUDs. For the pill, for example, the last week of the pack are placebo pills and don’t contain hormones. As a response to the drop in hormone levels, you...
by Emily N
Wed Nov 03, 2021 5:35 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 61
Views: 796

Re: Masterbating

That sounds difficult and painful, I’m sorry that happened to you. I’m glad you felt comfortable telling an adult, but it’s also not okay that your classmates knew about it if you didn’t want to share that information with them. Do you want to talk more about this?
by Emily N
Thu Oct 28, 2021 5:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Finding ways to express myself sexually
Replies: 3
Views: 298

Re: Finding ways to express myself sexually

Hi campyglitterlex, welcome to Scarleteen! It’s understandable that you don’t want to share everything with your mom, privacy is important! Are you looking for more ways to access privacy? In regards to worrying if people can hear you masturbating, 1) are you able to keep a fan in your room for whit...
by Emily N
Thu Oct 28, 2021 4:42 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness
Replies: 10
Views: 554

Re: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness

Hi kokoPeg, I’m sorry that masturbation is so difficult right now. Because it’s something that is supposed to be so pleasurable, it’s extra confusing when it causes pain and frustration. Like Urna said, it’s okay to take a step back from masturbation if it doesn’t feel good to you right now. Luckily...

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