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by spottedowl
Mon May 02, 2022 1:01 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Jealous of a 13 year old
Replies: 4
Views: 290

Re: Jealous of a 13 year old

Thanks for the advice-it’s really great!
Yeah I do agree that taking a pause when I notice a fight brewing is something I really need to do.
I will ask my therapist about adjusting my goals to take some pressure off me, I’m a premed so that is also causing a lot of stress.
by spottedowl
Mon May 02, 2022 10:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Jealous of a 13 year old
Replies: 4
Views: 290

Re: Jealous of a 13 year old

I have a therapist appointment in a few days so I’ll ask then and see what she says. The expectations are definitely coming from me and where I think I should be with my life right now. Also, I think a lot of it is coming out of grad school and “school life” in general, and moving to the working wor...
by spottedowl
Sun May 01, 2022 3:34 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Jealous of a 13 year old
Replies: 4
Views: 290

Jealous of a 13 year old

Hi- Quick background, I had pretty bad break with reality a couple months ago and am on an anti psychotic and anti depressant to deal with the symptoms. I’m also seeing a therapist to talk things out. The problem-I’m jealous of my 13 year old sister. I snap at her a lot, and we fight. I regularly ge...
by spottedowl
Wed Mar 09, 2022 8:07 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Moving on after Hospitalization
Replies: 1
Views: 382

Moving on after Hospitalization

So…turns out the hot guy amnesia I was talking about? This came at a time when school was stressful etc. End of story I behaved in a way which worried the people around me and landed me in the hospital very confused and threatening to self harm. I didn’t do anything but that’s not a good thing to do...
by spottedowl
Mon Jan 24, 2022 6:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

I should have specified that my teachers already know-they promised to keep us in separate groups, and not to seat us next to one another. They even said they wouldn’t refer to her by name when talking with me about my issues-which helped. I understand the awkwardness almost certainly won’t go away,...
by spottedowl
Sat Jan 22, 2022 6:19 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

Questions in final 2 paragraphs I agree that the heartbreak and messy emotions have value that’s true :) Yes-I meant emotionally turned on, and I actually did try to focus on pleasure more generally, taking beginner swing dance lessons and bubble baths, and exploring my favorite perfumes. It worked-...
by spottedowl
Tue Jan 18, 2022 5:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

Third paragraph is the question-thanks! That does make sense about the grief. I suppose if someone invented something that could cure a broken heart then life might be easier for everyone. :lol: It’s a process going through the emotions but I am feeling a whole lot better about everything now, more ...
by spottedowl
Fri Jan 14, 2022 9:11 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

Kindly requesting a response: :) So I’m reminiscing for like 2 hours a day-which is a good amount of time to go through the memories and still do normal life things like prepare for school, hang out with family etc. But it’s another question for the therapist I guess it’s that I’m mourning forgotten...
by spottedowl
Fri Jan 14, 2022 8:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

Don’t need a response here: So I’ve read the article and here’s my viewpoint...for now (also just remembered I did this back in freshman year of college) :lol: “I don’t really care about race, diet, different interests, etc. I don’t even care about porn use. (I feel like my family traditions are way...
by spottedowl
Thu Jan 13, 2022 9:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

Just to clarify-those 3 relationships were one after the other. My main problem was not my strict mom or cultural expectations-I kinda saw through those. My main issue was I could not mentally accept that I was basically dating my friends and/or found my guy friends very sexy and hot. The line after...
by spottedowl
Thu Jan 13, 2022 6:05 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

I agree with the grieving time could probably make time once a week, and should clarify that I am seeing a counselor with my parents-but split time, so about 50 min with me and final 10-15 min with my parents. The 4 year old relationships coming back aren’t the main concern for my parents, they were...
by spottedowl
Sun Jan 09, 2022 2:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

Kinda a rant So since I last posted, I failed my college semester because the relationship memories were too weird and distracted me. I also had memories of all the paranoia and confusion that made me go to therapy for the first time cause the school counselor wasn't enough, 4 years ago. Was there a...
by spottedowl
Mon Dec 27, 2021 3:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

What I want is closure with all but one guy. Because see, I’m already over them. The issue isn’t them. It’s the positive impact they had on me (telling me I could do whatever I wanted with whoever and not have to tell anyone if I didn’t want to), that I really could not handle because of parents and...
by spottedowl
Sun Dec 26, 2021 1:11 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

To answer your question directly, as I think I have but not sure: All of these high school guys conversed and stopped contact. There were other guys in college who either conversed or did not but they stopped contact. All the reasons boiling to down to: I forgot them. This makes them feel sad/confus...
by spottedowl
Sun Dec 26, 2021 12:47 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

So all my guy friends who are angry at me? All ex boyfriends 95% close close friends, some moved on in life, a few engaged now (happy for them),some concerned and broke off relationship because I was forgetting them. And I actually was forgetting them with a black wall. As soon as platonic/random du...
by spottedowl
Sun Dec 26, 2021 12:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

So this is part of a long and kinda complicated story filled with all of my friends from high school. Nothing really out of the ordinary happened, but everything happened because it was just a time in my life that was important just like college is still important. But the one sentence answer is all...
by spottedowl
Fri Dec 10, 2021 11:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

I've been trying to work my way out of family/school issues and thought it would be a good idea to revisit old friends from high school, (because to be honest, college sucked for lots of reasons and I wanted people that understood me from when I was little) This has been a fantastic idea 98% of the ...
by spottedowl
Fri Dec 10, 2021 4:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 2155

Think I have hot guy amnesia

Preface by saying memory is fine, and already taking this to professional counseling. Sorry for posting so much but all the journaling brings back weird stuff sometimes. I’m in college now and know how to deal with love for guys. In high school I did not know how to deal with it in a healthy way. En...
by spottedowl
Wed Dec 08, 2021 2:18 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: South Asian Indian Identity
Replies: 3
Views: 2232

Re: South Asian Indian Identity

Hello!
Yeah I do have a journal and a bunch of really close friends to talk too. Thank you!
by spottedowl
Tue Dec 07, 2021 11:51 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: South Asian Indian Identity
Replies: 3
Views: 2232

South Asian Indian Identity

So I just had the weird discovery that I’ve been feeling weird about my identity for like 4 freaking YEARS now...and now I’m FINALLY confident and proud of my Indian heritage and able to be proud of relating to others. :o Gotta go back to middle school when I decided (as an Indian)-that I liked Boll...
by spottedowl
Sun Nov 28, 2021 7:54 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: How do you deal with change?
Replies: 2
Views: 1574

Re: How do you deal with change?

Hi Urna, Everything you are saying does make sense. :) I relate to your story of your job-even though it’s different it’s a lot of the same feelings. I think the old bridges I’m burning now were separating me from who I really was and who I want to be. It does feel really freeing not to have to worr...
by spottedowl
Fri Nov 26, 2021 5:29 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: How do you deal with change?
Replies: 2
Views: 1574

How do you deal with change?

So I just came out of a really rough period in my life. People in my family got cancer (mom,aunt, cousins, uncle) during the COVID lockdown which lead to a lack of opportunities in healthcare aka my chosen career field (cause mom didn’t want COVID at home) had to deal with poor grades and extreme la...
by spottedowl
Wed Nov 10, 2021 5:11 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love Triangle? Try Octagon.
Replies: 6
Views: 821

Re: Love Triangle? Try Octagon.

Hi Val, Thanks for the response. Everything you said really resonated with me and you didn’t misinterpret anything! I have decided not to date anyone in my friend group yet. We’ve met up after a long time since everyone was busy with college and are just enjoying each other’s company as friends for ...
by spottedowl
Tue Nov 09, 2021 11:00 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love Triangle? Try Octagon.
Replies: 6
Views: 821

Re: Love Triangle? Try Octagon.

Hi Carly, ( super long post sorry about that) Well you’re definitely right about one thing-it’s so complicated. I’m taking my own sweet time thinking before I act though-I care too much about myself and my friends to not be sure about what I want first. As for why it’s the perfect situation, I think...
by spottedowl
Sat Nov 06, 2021 10:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love Triangle? Try Octagon.
Replies: 6
Views: 821

Re: Love Triangle? Try Octagon.

VENT POST I basically WAS NOT dating- full stop, in any capacity all throughout high school and before. This stance I think made me the girl to go to when the guys in my life were having relationship issues or just wanted a friend-because I would never try to get with them. I think our immediate fri...

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