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by spottedowl
Sat Feb 17, 2024 6:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Will the hotness ever end?
Replies: 6
Views: 27382

Re: Will the hotness ever end?

Adding to my previous post, he’s an international student who’s still working on his English. I only speak English. We met through mutual friends who translated back and forth when they saw we were falling in love. There are language barriers for me on the websites people use to communicate in his c...
by spottedowl
Sat Feb 17, 2024 6:31 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Will the hotness ever end?
Replies: 6
Views: 27382

Re: Will the hotness ever end?

So my boyfriend is going away to the military. 18 months of little to no contact soon await. I miss him to pieces already and he’s for sure coming back to me. Any ideas on how to pass the time of a long separation? I was thinking of writing him a love letter in my journal every single day. My parent...
by spottedowl
Fri Feb 09, 2024 4:58 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Will the hotness ever end?
Replies: 6
Views: 27382

Re: Will the hotness ever end?

So the problem was solved, I just talked to him about it, and we just texted more, dated more and embraced all the feelings and love surrounding us. Now I have an amazing boyfriend, am on the way to getting my own independent life, and everything is okay. New problem: I still don’t feel close to my ...
by spottedowl
Wed Dec 27, 2023 12:36 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Will the hotness ever end?
Replies: 6
Views: 27382

Will the hotness ever end?

So…I’m finally dating someone. He’s a guy from college and we’ve been going on dates regularly for 3 months. He is just the sweetest guy, always complimenting me. We’ve fought and always make up like adults in a mature way and talk about our problems. We’re both independent enough to make our own ch...
by spottedowl
Sat Oct 14, 2023 10:12 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations
Replies: 17
Views: 9283

Re: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations

Thanks for the reminder of different ways of processing bad things that happened. I know that my grandma learned a lot of classical music, likes meditation, dancing, and was close with her family, so it’s nice to remind myself that she healed from the bad stuff that way. How do I communicate with fa...
by spottedowl
Mon Sep 25, 2023 3:36 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations
Replies: 17
Views: 9283

Re: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations

Watching movies together is a good idea, I’ll try to do that. It’s not that she stops wanting to participate, she participates but she spends like 20-30 minutes sort of bashing the therapist and the process. She’s actually more respectful about the psychiatrist and the medication given to me than th...
by spottedowl
Fri Sep 22, 2023 8:09 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations
Replies: 17
Views: 9283

Re: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations

So it’s been a month since I messaged V, and I realized this week that I don’t really care about that anymore. I finally have the closure I need, because now I’ve received a diagnosis of generalized anxiety and have really started working on my independence (stopped avoiding becoming independent), w...
by spottedowl
Fri Aug 18, 2023 9:31 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations
Replies: 17
Views: 9283

Re: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations

So it’s been 2 weeks after I contacted V about P and no response. It took 3 months for him to respond the first time though, so it’s not unusual. But I don’t feel like I need V or P to process and get closure anymore. I guess I am finally at the light at the end of the tunnel in terms of my depressi...
by spottedowl
Thu Aug 03, 2023 8:21 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations
Replies: 17
Views: 9283

Re: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations

Hi Nicole, Thanks for the long response-it all made sense. I should clarify though, the female friend, I was friends with her all throughout high school. We met in 3rd grade. We also didn’t talk at all for 4 years of college, so your advice still stands-people change a lot in college. I have seen he...
by spottedowl
Wed Aug 02, 2023 9:28 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations
Replies: 17
Views: 9283

Re: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations

Hi, so I have a small problem again. About a year and a half ago, I made contact again with 2 of my friends, one since elementary school, the other since high school. I kinda started using them as therapists even though I already had one at the time. The female friend knew about my mom’s cancer, var...
by spottedowl
Sun Jul 16, 2023 9:26 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations
Replies: 17
Views: 9283

Re: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations

There’s not a question here, just processing. Hello, Thanks for the articles, that last one did help and give me a point of view I had not considered before. I remember having conversations with one of my guy friends to the effect of “am I your zucchini”, or something asexual people would use to des...
by spottedowl
Sun Jul 09, 2023 9:51 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations
Replies: 17
Views: 9283

Re: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations

Taking the whole thing slowly does sound like good advice, thanks! As far as dating goes, I haven’t tried anything yet, I just got my masters and graduated from college :mrgreen: about a month ago, so I’ve been too busy searching for a job to do much on that. I also wasn’t very social in college, it...
by spottedowl
Thu Jul 06, 2023 6:51 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex, Relationships, and Expectations
Replies: 17
Views: 9283

Sex, Relationships, and Expectations

Sorry if this is in the wrong section. So about 1.5 years ago I had a depressive/mildly psychotic episode involving sex and relationships, and basically making past romantic encounters and mild crushes more than they were and losing my connection with what actually happened. After therapy, becoming ...
by spottedowl
Wed Feb 22, 2023 7:40 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex life reminds me of mental health issues
Replies: 5
Views: 4378

Re: Sex life reminds me of mental health issues

So I've tried a new perfume, new fanfic, new shampoo etc. It's helping and not exactly bad, but not exactly all good. My last crush was just before my mental breakdown and I was having paranoid thoughts about fake relationships and boys that I knew. The thoughts came out of nowhere and were kind of ...
by spottedowl
Mon Feb 06, 2023 9:04 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex life reminds me of mental health issues
Replies: 5
Views: 4378

Re: Sex life reminds me of mental health issues

Yeah, the medication is mostly impacting my masturbation. It is kind of a let down since masturbation was one of my self care activities before the mental health scare. I try to take it slow though and be patient like you said, and sometimes it can still end up being pleasurable which is nice. I don...
by spottedowl
Mon Feb 06, 2023 6:14 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex life reminds me of mental health issues
Replies: 5
Views: 4378

Sex life reminds me of mental health issues

So a year ago now I had a mental health scare that ended with me on anti psychotic and anti depressant medication. I broke down in front of my family and started screaming and crying etc.-just not a very good look. Since then, I have made a full recovery and been able to get back to school and frien...
by spottedowl
Thu Nov 03, 2022 4:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 25
Views: 14349

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

Hello, Thanks Sam yes that does make sense. On to my question. Is there a text service/message board service for people with mental health issues? I seem to still have some repressed memories/amnesia that I would like to discuss with a qualified therapist but don't have much proof that they are not ...
by spottedowl
Fri Oct 28, 2022 7:47 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Too many people in my sex life
Replies: 1
Views: 4337

Too many people in my sex life

So in the past its always been relatively easy to imagine myself as some cool "sex goddess" while I take part in sex fantasies or solo masturbation. But lately it's been really hard to get out of my own head while I'm trying to get in the mood. Either I'm worrying about my physical appeara...
by spottedowl
Mon Oct 10, 2022 3:21 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Getting over a special ex
Replies: 6
Views: 1920

Re: Getting over a special ex

Keeping my expectations low would be a good strategy, thank you. As for how we lost contact, that would be a few months after the stepdad was out of the picture and him and his mom moved into a new apartment. They went to the store for furniture and I happened to be there too. He caught me up on how...
by spottedowl
Mon Oct 10, 2022 10:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Getting over a special ex
Replies: 6
Views: 1920

Re: Getting over a special ex

No I haven't raised the question with my therapist yet, mostly because I want to avoid saying or doing anything that might make it seem like those paranoid thoughts are coming back, plus it seemed like a question where the answer was pretty cut and dry, do I want to move on from him or not? Actually...
by spottedowl
Mon Oct 10, 2022 9:32 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Getting over a special ex
Replies: 6
Views: 1920

Getting over a special ex

My ex was very special to me. We had an unconventional relationship mostly because we were friends but he had an abusive stepdad, so I'd always be worried about his safety at home. Our friendship involved tense but ultimately helpful encounters with police and doctors. The main problem is, my parent...
by spottedowl
Mon May 02, 2022 1:01 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Jealous of a 13 year old
Replies: 4
Views: 2395

Re: Jealous of a 13 year old

Thanks for the advice-it’s really great!
Yeah I do agree that taking a pause when I notice a fight brewing is something I really need to do.
I will ask my therapist about adjusting my goals to take some pressure off me, I’m a premed so that is also causing a lot of stress.
by spottedowl
Mon May 02, 2022 10:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Jealous of a 13 year old
Replies: 4
Views: 2395

Re: Jealous of a 13 year old

I have a therapist appointment in a few days so I’ll ask then and see what she says. The expectations are definitely coming from me and where I think I should be with my life right now. Also, I think a lot of it is coming out of grad school and “school life” in general, and moving to the working wor...
by spottedowl
Sun May 01, 2022 3:34 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Jealous of a 13 year old
Replies: 4
Views: 2395

Jealous of a 13 year old

Hi- Quick background, I had pretty bad break with reality a couple months ago and am on an anti psychotic and anti depressant to deal with the symptoms. I’m also seeing a therapist to talk things out. The problem-I’m jealous of my 13 year old sister. I snap at her a lot, and we fight. I regularly ge...
by spottedowl
Wed Mar 09, 2022 8:07 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Moving on after Hospitalization
Replies: 1
Views: 763

Moving on after Hospitalization

So…turns out the hot guy amnesia I was talking about? This came at a time when school was stressful etc. End of story I behaved in a way which worried the people around me and landed me in the hospital very confused and threatening to self harm. I didn’t do anything but that’s not a good thing to do...

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