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by Carly
Fri Aug 12, 2022 8:13 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: A long ramble
Replies: 15
Views: 252

Re: A long ramble

Hey Raffles -- up top I wanted to say that I think you're a very good communicator and I don't think your recent posts were argumentative. Sometimes disagreements can feel that way, especially online, but I think you're being clear. Something else I wanted to bring up is that you originally created ...
by Carly
Tue Aug 09, 2022 8:27 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: A long ramble
Replies: 15
Views: 252

Re: A long ramble

Hey Raffles -- Something I'm seeing in your recent posts here is that though you don't want to be your friend's live-in therapist, you're also willing to do that because you feel bad she can't talk to her own therapist. Something I have noticed from all of your threads and posts is that you are very...
by Carly
Fri Aug 05, 2022 7:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: A little concerned
Replies: 8
Views: 180

Re: A little concerned

Hey Edhelraen -- believe it or not, the clearer your urine is the better your body is doing most of the time! Urobilin/urochrome is what turns urine the yellow-y colors we're all used to, and it dilutes the more water you drink. When your urine is clear or close to it, this is a sign your body is we...
by Carly
Mon Jul 25, 2022 9:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I can't masturbate, short of
Replies: 7
Views: 380

Re: I can't masturbate, short of

Ah, I see. I do think getting distracted by anything - especially anxious thoughts - can lead to some some difficulties feeling pleasure. Again, the brain does so much for us during sexual activity that wandering away from the task at hand mentally can make a huge difference. Something that we see h...
by Carly
Mon Jul 25, 2022 8:05 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: menstrual cup sterilization machine
Replies: 5
Views: 137

Re: menstrual cup sterilization machine

Hey iloveeveryone -- the steamer machines are relatively newer to the market so I'm leaning a little bit heavier on the information I can find online to answer your question and weeding out sources that are clearly biased towards their own product. It sounds like these little machines do work pretty...
by Carly
Mon Jul 25, 2022 7:30 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously
Replies: 7
Views: 238

Re: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously

Hey dependantdragon -- I'm not totally sure what the resources Elise shared can offer, but telehealth appointments might be an option for your boyfriend. He can be wherever he needs to be to receive treatment. This medium took off during the roughest parts of the pandemic and has been continued by a...
by Carly
Mon Jul 25, 2022 7:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I can't masturbate, short of
Replies: 7
Views: 380

Re: I can't masturbate, short of

Hey mangomangomango -- welcome to the boards. And no worries about grammar or anything, I think you did great! What you're describing is one of the most common things users write in to us to talk about on the boards. Our bodies are all so different, so sometimes it can be hard to tell someone exactl...
by Carly
Mon Jul 25, 2022 6:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I lost my virginity and now i’m bleeding
Replies: 1
Views: 134

Re: I lost my virginity and now i’m bleeding

Hi slipperys1ope -- welcome to the board. I wanted to check in about the bleeding first - if blood is literally gushing out like you've been injured, you absolutely need to seek medical attention. Especially if you're feeling pain in any way. We are unable to diagnose what's happening online, but if...
by Carly
Sat Jul 23, 2022 7:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Are my masturbation habits normal?
Replies: 9
Views: 465

Re: Are my masturbation habits normal?

Hey RowleinL -- welcome to the boards. I'm happy to help answer some of these questions. It sounds like you are describing edging, is that right? There no serious health risks associated with that. Occasionally, it can cause epididymal hypertension, aka "blue balls." This will feel like pa...
by Carly
Sat Jul 23, 2022 7:21 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Masturbation guilt and fear
Replies: 1
Views: 197

Re: Masturbation guilt and fear

Hi yadiq -- I'm glad you've recognized that your anxiety about pregnancy is serious enough to see a psychologist. The first thing I'm going to tell you here is that you cannot get pregnant after touching something sperm might have been on and then masturbating. Sperm do not survive on surfaces for v...
by Carly
Sat Jul 23, 2022 6:52 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 25
Views: 6312

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

Hi Raffles -- I agree, it sounds like we're at a logistical end of the thread. We don't have to continue talking about it, but I wanted to chime in and say that it's normal and ok to feel hurt after being vulnerable and someone being unable to engage back. I don't think you need to ever feel bad abo...
by Carly
Fri Jul 15, 2022 9:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Struggling to finish
Replies: 6
Views: 230

Re: Struggling to finish

I hear what you're saying, happymonk13. I also want to say that, based on how you're talking about it, it does sound like you're experiencing from frustration. You're talking about feeling annoyed and what you think should be happening, maybe some mild resentment for your body doing something you're...
by Carly
Fri Jul 15, 2022 7:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Struggling to finish
Replies: 6
Views: 230

Re: Struggling to finish

Hey happymonk13 -- welcome to the boards! Struggling to orgasm is a really common issue our users bring here. The first thing I always bring up to folks is how being aware of the struggle itself can get in the way of finishing, both with a partner or by yourself. Frustration, confusion, or pressure ...
by Carly
Fri Jul 15, 2022 6:55 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: I accidentally used flavored lube while masturbating?
Replies: 3
Views: 1138

Re: I accidentally used flavored lube while masturbating?

Hey Tery -- yep! I wouldn't say they're harmful outright, you just need to use flavored lube for its intended purposes.
by Carly
Tue Jul 12, 2022 9:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sorry this is long
Replies: 11
Views: 537

Re: Sorry this is long

Hey amberrobert -- it's totally ok to vent here, I'm so sorry this situation is so complicated. It sounds like you know A's tendencies well - though I think it's good to check up on her and be there for her as much as you can, it's important to also understand her boundaries as well. Is she self-awa...
by Carly
Tue Jul 12, 2022 7:42 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: questions about parents' masturbation/sex shame
Replies: 3
Views: 280

Re: questions about parents' masturbation/sex shame

Hey iloveeveryone -- ultimately you're the expert on your parents here, not us. If your gut feeling is not to discuss it with them, that's totally ok! There are some issues in my life I've chosen to not confront my parents about because I know they won't be receptive to hearing my feedback and won't...
by Carly
Fri Jul 08, 2022 9:07 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hello
Replies: 24
Views: 3686

Re: Hello

Hey Oynx -- Based on what you've said, I do not believe just talking to this general/"body" doctor is enough to sort through how you're feeling. I do believe she can help with some preliminary things, but at the end of the day you would be better matched with someone who has a deeper speci...
by Carly
Fri Jul 08, 2022 8:58 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Arousal response from fear
Replies: 4
Views: 3274

Re: Arousal response from fear

Hey JT_B -- up top I want to thank you for trusting us with your story, it sounds like this is a deeply personal topic for you. There can be so much stigma around this, and I know how hard it can be to open up sometimes. Your doctor isn't just trying to comfort you, this is definitely something that...
by Carly
Fri Jul 08, 2022 8:02 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hello
Replies: 24
Views: 3686

Re: Hello

Hey Oynx -- Thanks for clarifying what the doctor said, I just misunderstood what she said and wanted to make sure. It sounds like she offered you a great deal of autonomy, which is great. Would you like to see a therapist? If you do, maybe you can get some help from this doctor to help advocate for...
by Carly
Fri Jul 08, 2022 7:04 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Partner With Different COVID-19 Threat Model?
Replies: 1
Views: 2426

Re: Partner With Different COVID-19 Threat Model?

Hey quoteromantic -- I see where your concerns are. I think the best next step is to talk to him directly about what you've said here, I think you did a really good job of laying it all out. Though he seemed dismissive before, it sounds like he is generally pretty mindful of safety. Telling him dire...
by Carly
Fri Jul 08, 2022 6:31 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hello
Replies: 24
Views: 3686

Re: Hello

Hi Oynx -- it's ok to not feed totally comfortable with a doctor at first. Even though they are doctors, they need to earn our trust like everyone else does. You mentioned this was a doctor for physical health, so I'm not sure what her options are for helping you with emotional concerns. Have you ev...
by Carly
Thu Jul 07, 2022 9:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why don't I feel pleasure from fingering myself?
Replies: 4
Views: 3230

Re: Why don't I feel pleasure from fingering myself?

Hey LotusGlow -- so the first thing I notice here is you're feeling some pressure based on what you think you're supposed to like and what you think everyone else is doing. Believe it or not, there are some things - like fingering - that seem "universal" but actually aren't. There are many...
by Carly
Thu Jul 07, 2022 8:17 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hello
Replies: 24
Views: 3686

Re: Hello

I can see how that would be a very hard situation, it sounds like you wanted to protect yourself and that's ok. What did they mean by "monster unicorn gay we love you"? What kind of homophobic comments (if you feel comfortable repeating it)?
by Carly
Thu Jul 07, 2022 7:57 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hello
Replies: 24
Views: 3686

Re: Hello

Hi Oynx -- I believe Siân meant talking more about that on our boards, this is how we help most of our users. Typically the schedule for our chat service is decided in advance and we're not typically able to open it by request. It sounds like your parents are pushing some boundaries here, if they're...
by Carly
Thu Jul 07, 2022 7:27 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?
Replies: 25
Views: 15197

Re: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?

Hey Imveryconfused -- we love when our users get help from each other, but sometimes they don't return to their old threads. If you want to talk to us about the situation you're in, start your own thread and we'll offer advice where we can.

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