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by Carly
Sat Jan 14, 2023 11:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Horny often but sooo not sensitive
Replies: 5
Views: 261

Re: Horny often but sooo not sensitive

Hey candikelp -- welcome to the boards! It sounds like there's a lot you're trying to sort out about masturbation in general. Happy to help! If there's something I missed that you want to talk about, just let us know in your reply. For what it's worth, I don't think your relationship with masturbati...
by Carly
Wed Jan 11, 2023 8:32 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: just want to talk about me being a trans girl
Replies: 21
Views: 1027

Re: just want to talk about me being a trans girl

Hey Estobawk -- I think you did a really good job explaining how intertwined this all is for you. I'm sorry this is all feeling so fraught and hard right now. What I'm hearing is that your discomfort expressing your femininity the way you'd like to or wish you could is a mental blockage to having th...
by Carly
Wed Jan 11, 2023 7:59 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Heavy bleeding after losing virginity
Replies: 9
Views: 366

Re: Heavy bleeding after losing virginity

Hey sen -- I do think it would be a good idea to see a doctor sooner than later. 6 pads in 3 hours is indicating the kind of excessive bleeding more aligned with an internal injury. That's also quite a lot of bleeding for a period too, to put it into perspective. I'd advise the same thing in that sc...
by Carly
Sat Dec 31, 2022 9:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: just want to talk about me being a trans girl
Replies: 21
Views: 1027

Re: just want to talk about me being a trans girl

Hey Estobawk -- I'm sorry this is so frustrating. You mentioned your parents and step-mom have been generally accepting and supportive. I also saw you said that you're not comfortable asking them for help with getting stuff like this. Are you able to pinpoint why that might be? For example, are you ...
by Carly
Sat Dec 31, 2022 8:52 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 203
Views: 34350

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hey 42 -- happy new year to you as well! I'm sure Heather will chime in if they have more thoughts on what you asked, in the meantime I'll jump in. I'm glad you've been able to identify some stuff to unlearn/learn, I feel like this is half the battle most of the time. As for what the approach is lik...
by Carly
Tue Dec 27, 2022 11:18 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously
Replies: 21
Views: 3448

Re: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously

Hey dependantdragon -- I let Heather know you answered some of their questions. Because I don't know what resources they had in mind, I want to talk about what you said about your boyfriend and your frustration with your friend. I see a lot of connections here. First of all, I want to assure you tha...
by Carly
Fri Dec 23, 2022 12:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dealing with mixed feelings after being dumped
Replies: 5
Views: 512

Re: Dealing with mixed feelings after being dumped

Hey alwayssnape -- I've been in this situation a few times, both ends of it actually. I can see how this would feel especially bad too. Being dumped is one thing, but it being someone you had a really deep and quick connection with is a whole other thing especially if you haven't always been able to...
by Carly
Fri Dec 23, 2022 11:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: A question for Nicole and anybody else who wants to chime in.
Replies: 9
Views: 517

Re: A question for Nicole and anybody else who wants to chime in.

Hey again Rubie -- I'm wondering if it might be helpful to take a look at our Sexual Inventory Checklist. It might be good to, after this experience, revisit your boundaries and what you're willing or not willing to try. Just a thought!
by Carly
Fri Dec 23, 2022 11:20 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: End of year fears
Replies: 6
Views: 586

Re: End of year fears

Hey Raffles -- I just wanted to chime in and tell you I'm feeling a lot of the same feelings. 2022 was one of the hardest years of my life and I also had lot of plans for myself that simply did not happen. One thing I can relate to heavily is struggling to get on your feet with a career change. I gr...
by Carly
Fri Dec 23, 2022 9:53 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I want to talk about this before I change my mind and run off.
Replies: 5
Views: 586

Re: I want to talk about this before I change my mind and run off.

Hey Rubie -- I want to first start by saying that this is a space for you. There's nothing wrong about posting this two days before Christmas, and it will not cause any problems for others here. Your thoughts and feelings are valid and in the right place. We're here to listen and support any way tha...
by Carly
Fri Dec 23, 2022 9:07 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex with a coworker
Replies: 20
Views: 1063

Re: Sex with a coworker

Hey Rubie -- I'm glad you're viewing this as a learning experience and taking some lessons about communication away from it. What are your thoughts about having sex and/or relationships at work? Have your opinions changed on that? If someone you know was in the same situation, what would you tell th...
by Carly
Wed Dec 21, 2022 3:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Difficulty talking to my mom about my body
Replies: 3
Views: 217

Re: Difficulty talking to my mom about my body

Hey again crowcaw73 -- you're so right, this is just one of those things that is fixed best with talking about it and letting them know how you feel. In conversations like this, I always recommend using "I" statements like "I feel" and "I think" to make you are expressi...
by Carly
Wed Dec 21, 2022 3:30 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Vulva pain
Replies: 7
Views: 561

Re: Vulva pain

Hey crowcaw73 -- I'm personally don't think it's a good idea to take medication without a diagnosis, especially if it's advising not to without a diagnosis specifically. Can you say a little more about the difficulty seeing a doctor? Also, I just want to confirm -- have you had any unusual discharge...
by Carly
Tue Dec 20, 2022 10:37 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex with a coworker
Replies: 20
Views: 1063

Re: Sex with a coworker

Hey Rubie -- do you want to talk about those mixed feelings you're having about not walking away? To be frank with you, the way you're describing this sexual encounter is making me wonder if you didn't actually want to engage in his fetish but agreed to it for another reason. Am I on to something he...
by Carly
Tue Dec 20, 2022 9:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't feel sexual pleasure.
Replies: 7
Views: 624

Re: I don't feel sexual pleasure.

Hey Mantis -- welcome to the boards! What you're describing is one of the most common things users write in to us to talk about on the boards. Our bodies are all so different, so sometimes it can be hard to tell someone exactly what will help in cases like this. One trend I do notice though is that ...
by Carly
Tue Dec 20, 2022 8:27 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Exploring myself?
Replies: 18
Views: 1192

Re: Exploring myself?

Hey elemd11 -- I'm sorry no one was online when you added this to your thread. Is there something you want to talk about now? I'm not sure when you'll see this so I can't guarantee someone will be able to respond quickly. If you add your questions to your thread, someone will be able to get to them ...
by Carly
Sun Dec 18, 2022 10:47 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fingerings
Replies: 1
Views: 213

Re: Fingerings

Hey Diegosa -- welcome to the boards! Have you ever masturbated in any other way? All bodies are different, and it's definitely possible that this isn't the more pleasurable thing for yours.
by Carly
Sun Dec 18, 2022 10:43 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex with a coworker
Replies: 20
Views: 1063

Re: Sex with a coworker

Hey Rubie -- there could be a lot of reasons why he wants to keep the relationship between you two. One of them could be workplace policies and internal drama, which is something we suggested before. But! And this is a major but! I want to point out that you feel like this is a red flag. There's som...
by Carly
Sun Dec 18, 2022 10:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I froze when my girlfrined wanted to pleasure me
Replies: 1
Views: 252

Re: I froze when my girlfrined wanted to pleasure me

Hey DDLC_18 -- welcome to the boards! It sounds like you and your girlfriend have a pretty solid line of communication about sex, both during and talking about things you're interested in. Based on what you said, I'm not thinking the issue is approaching the topic or communicating needs directly. I'...
by Carly
Fri Dec 16, 2022 10:55 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex with a coworker
Replies: 20
Views: 1063

Re: Sex with a coworker

Hey Rubie -- thanks for more context for your question. When you were going through orientation, did they talk about what the policies are for employee relationships at your workplace? Often employers have very specific rules about this and violating them could have serious consequences. When you sa...
by Carly
Fri Dec 16, 2022 10:32 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Inability to be organized
Replies: 7
Views: 333

Re: Inability to be organized

Hey OddEggplant859 -- welcome to the boards! When there's a reoccurring problem in a relationship, it's important that both people understand what they're bringing to the situation. I think you did a very good job of identifying that on your end and you seem very clear about you'd like to change. To...
by Carly
Fri Dec 16, 2022 8:35 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex with a coworker
Replies: 20
Views: 1063

Re: Sex with a coworker

Hey Rubie -- welcome to the boards! Yep, you're in the right place even at 19. There's definitely a lot we can talk about here, but first I wanted to ask a little bit more information. How old is your coworker? If you don't know, how much would you guess? I also wanted to ask about the hints you've ...
by Carly
Tue Dec 13, 2022 10:49 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Is this ok?
Replies: 16
Views: 1235

Re: Is this ok?

Hey JuliaHo90 -- the time range you take your pill in is fine. If you don't take it at exactly the same time but still take it on the day you're supposed to your pills will not become ineffective. If you want to be as close as you can to "perfect-use" effectiveness, you'll want to try and ...
by Carly
Tue Dec 13, 2022 9:41 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Exploring myself?
Replies: 18
Views: 1192

Re: Exploring myself?

Hey again elemd11 -- you're not out of place, actually. Our services are for adolescents and young adults, and 16 is right in the appropriate age range. This also means you're in an appropriate age range for these kinds of worries, so there's no need to be embarrassed. I understand struggle to descr...
by Carly
Tue Dec 13, 2022 9:13 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Exploring myself?
Replies: 18
Views: 1192

Re: Exploring myself?

Hey elemd11 -- I'm checking in on your thread and I just wanted to say that I actually think you are very brave. You made an account on our site, you reached out about a sensitive problem you're facing, you tried to read some resources, and you're continuing to talk about it. This is what brave peop...

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