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by Carly
Tue Dec 06, 2022 11:15 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I Letf My Pills In a Hot Car
Replies: 6
Views: 145

Re: I Letf My Pills In a Hot Car

Hey Juliapf -- welcome to the boards! So, about your pills... we can't guarantee that the pills haven't been damaged, but keep in mind that the appearance of birth control pill packs does tend to noticeably change if there's heat damage. So if the blister pack looks the same as usual, then odds are ...
by Carly
Tue Dec 06, 2022 10:35 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: are there alternatives to things like latex gloves for diy toys?
Replies: 1
Views: 48

Re: are there alternatives to things like latex gloves for diy toys?

Hey somerandomteen -- welcome to the boards! Typically we start folks with these kinds of questions with D.I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition , which has some ideas for improvising a masturbation sleeve like you're already doing. I'm wondering if a sock might be good option? Does anything in there seem...
by Carly
Sun Dec 04, 2022 7:15 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Exploring myself?
Replies: 1
Views: 89

Re: Exploring myself?

Hey elemd11 -- welcome to the boards! What you're feeling is very common, even if it might not feel that way a lot. I think our resource Why Does Masturbation Feel Weird? will resonate a lot with you, as it's all about the awkwardness of exploring new territory with yourself. I also think Going Solo...
by Carly
Sun Dec 04, 2022 6:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depo Provera question
Replies: 1
Views: 82

Re: Depo Provera question

Hey 55 -- it's my understanding that what the nurse told you is more relevant to the first few days after injection. Also, keep in mind that a bang or bump is a lot different than a massage, with the latter being really focused on manipulating muscles and the former being a quick and usually unrepea...
by Carly
Sun Dec 04, 2022 6:08 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How can I stop cumming when I think about my bf?
Replies: 8
Views: 158

Re: How can I stop cumming when I think about my bf?

Hey Bethanie -- this is quite a unique situation. I'm wondering... is there a particular reason why you want to stop this from happening? Is it getting in the way of everyday activities?
by Carly
Fri Dec 02, 2022 8:50 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm 13 and struggling with kink/BDSM
Replies: 7
Views: 260

Re: I'm 13 and struggling with kink/BDSM

Hey awhiskandalamp -- welcome to the boards! There's a lot here that we can talk about with your post, let's first address the main question. We frequently see what you're describing with other young people interested in BDSM on our boards, which is knowing what you want or want to try, but not bein...
by Carly
Tue Nov 29, 2022 10:50 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Need help with relationship
Replies: 1
Views: 111

Re: Need help with relationship

Hey hnnhlk -- ultimately the answer is with you, we're unable to tell you how you feel. We can, however, help you sort out those feelings and give you some resources. If you're feeling hurt, communicating this is always the way to go. What I'm hearing is a lack of understanding of consent and bounda...
by Carly
Sun Nov 27, 2022 7:49 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: how to stop being horny
Replies: 5
Views: 249

Re: how to stop being horny

Hey purple_triangle -- can you explain a little more about when you feel awkward or guilty looking at non-sexual content while you're having these feelings? Does that compare or have any connection at all with having intrusive thoughts?
by Carly
Sun Nov 27, 2022 7:16 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
Replies: 17
Views: 518

Re: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that

Hey Anne -- maybe we can start by hearing what hobbies you have already that need supplies? I think what would help with our brainstorming. Something that doesn't require any supplies that I've really relied on the last few years has been going on nice long walks to relax. Do you live in an area tha...
by Carly
Sun Nov 27, 2022 7:04 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My bf broke up with me but not really?
Replies: 5
Views: 4304

Re: My bf broke up with me but not really?

Hey YellowPamonha -- it sounds like you're on the right track to move on. Is there anything else that you'd like to talk through with us about this?
by Carly
Sun Nov 27, 2022 5:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fetish/kink
Replies: 21
Views: 843

Re: Fetish/kink

Hey Mop -- I just wanted to take a second to acknowledge the bravery of sharing this information with us, especially because it's been making you feel distressed. As far as acceptance goes, I think the first thing to maybe start with is thinking about why it makes you feel so bad. When you first tal...
by Carly
Fri Nov 25, 2022 9:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Possible HiV exposure
Replies: 12
Views: 387

Re: Possible HiV exposure

Hey Samuel B -- the chance of getting HIV in this scenario hinges on whether or not the person you were having sex with also has HIV. If both of you are HIV negative, then transmission simply cannot occur. If this person did have HIV, vaginal sex is a pretty high risk activity. Though the risk is re...
by Carly
Fri Nov 25, 2022 9:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fetish/kink
Replies: 21
Views: 843

Re: Fetish/kink

Hey Mop -- I think Heather is asking for some additional information about the fetish/kink that is distressing you; what it is, for example. We've been able to move along in the thread speaking vaguely about it but for more specific or specialized help we would need to know more from you.
by Carly
Tue Nov 22, 2022 10:55 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 151
Views: 30221

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hey 42 -- thanks for clarifying that stuff and putting it all in one post. It was definitely helpful in jogging my memory of what we've talked about in this thread. I agree, talking to your mom's friend is perhaps not the best way to address these issues. It doesn't sound like she's exactly qualifie...
by Carly
Tue Nov 22, 2022 8:53 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Grieving an identity
Replies: 9
Views: 608

Re: Grieving an identity

Hi Raffles -- before any of us dive into the advice you're looking for, I'd like to ask a few questions about how you've been feeling about this so we can understand a little more and give, hopefully, some very detailed and specific advice. You've mentioned some of this in threads before, especially...
by Carly
Wed Nov 16, 2022 11:06 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 151
Views: 30221

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hey again 42 -- remind me, what kind of mental health support do you have in your life? Do you see a therapist? I reckon I or someone else has asked this before, but we have quite a long thread going now. And, if it's been a while since we talked about it, it might be a good time for an update. I as...
by Carly
Wed Nov 16, 2022 9:30 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Choosing pronouns
Replies: 7
Views: 432

Re: Choosing pronouns

Hey Raffles -- something your post did for me was make me realize that I never really thought about my pronouns and if they're the ones I even want. I'm a cisgender woman and I use she/her - that's because it's just what everyone used to refer to me since I was born. I do think I feel the most conne...
by Carly
Sun Nov 13, 2022 8:15 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 151
Views: 30221

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hey 42 -- I remember you talking about this issue of feeling uncomfortable when a teacher asks about how you're feeling before. I think the first thing to keep in mind here is that they're likely checking in because they care about you, not because they think you're causing trouble. I can't speak fo...
by Carly
Fri Nov 11, 2022 10:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clarification Question
Replies: 13
Views: 5187

Re: Clarification Question

Hi Adam224 -- up top I want to be very frank with you about what I'm seeing in your posts here and in other threads. I know that you've said that you're asking these questions not out of anxiety but for understanding, however... something I want to point out is that we have explained why pregnancy i...
by Carly
Fri Nov 11, 2022 9:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Advice for safe sex
Replies: 9
Views: 5847

Re: Advice for safe sex

Hi Adam224 -- because your question is so similar to your own thread, I'm going to ask that we continue this conversation there instead of here so that we don't have two separate conversations going about the same thing with you. A reply to that thread is forthcoming.
by Carly
Fri Nov 11, 2022 8:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fetish/kink
Replies: 21
Views: 843

Re: Fetish/kink

Hi Mop -- welcome to the boards! I know this conversation started on our text service. As we said there, what we know actively trying to suppress or remove sexual interest in a particular thing isn't particularly effective. Would you feel comfortable explaining more about why having the fetish is di...
by Carly
Tue Nov 08, 2022 10:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have a very high sex drive but I can't enjoy sex
Replies: 11
Views: 7045

Re: I have a very high sex drive but I can't enjoy sex

Hi Henry -- thank you for being so open with us about this, it sounds very disorienting for you. Struggling with extreme dissociation and the connection to DID and false memories like you're describing is, unfortunately, out of our scope as volunteers and staff that specialize in sexual and reproduc...
by Carly
Sun Nov 06, 2022 7:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: best friend cut ties w me
Replies: 3
Views: 4465

Re: best friend cut ties w me

Hey Lyle -- I'm so sorry, I've also experienced a friend break up in my life and I know how confusing and painful it can be. I don't think there's any real timeline for being "over" what happened; you're allowed to take as much time as you need to process this. It sounds like you're coming...
by Carly
Sun Nov 06, 2022 7:21 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have a very high sex drive but I can't enjoy sex
Replies: 11
Views: 7045

Re: I have a very high sex drive but I can't enjoy sex

Hey again ReverseHivemind -- yes, totally agree that cats are amazing! Studies show that having pets has a great effect on your mental health. What other kinds of activities or things make you feel good?
by Carly
Sat Nov 05, 2022 12:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clarification Question
Replies: 13
Views: 5187

Re: Clarification Question

Hey Adam224 -- I think what you're hitting on are the differences between high risk, low risk, and no risk situations. What you're describing was taken into account in writing the article; what Heather means is that ejaculation on those places is not an immediate cause for concern because of the way...

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