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by Carly
Mon Jan 24, 2022 10:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to go about minor forms of patriarchy resistance
Replies: 1
Views: 61

Re: How to go about minor forms of patriarchy resistance

hey iloveeveryone -- my answer is simple but true: you simply cannot make everyone happy. It is especially hard to stick with your convictions when you know that you will disappoint people. At the end of the day, how you feel is the most important... even though it can be hard to guide yourself on t...
by Carly
Mon Jan 24, 2022 8:30 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Healing wrong
Replies: 11
Views: 375

Re: Healing wrong

Hey Acacia_04 -- welcome to Scarleteen. I feel comfortable sharing with you that I have had a very similar experience coping and healing from my own childhood sexual abuse that went on for years. Because I never really felt uninterested in sex, it made me question if what happened was all that bad i...
by Carly
Mon Jan 24, 2022 7:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unhealthy relationship?
Replies: 23
Views: 818

Re: Unhealthy relationship?

Thanks for clarifying, waterhyacinth. In that case, I also don't think getting tested for STIs and pregnancy (not sure if you're using birth control at the moment) would hurt. It doesn't sound like you're especially concerned, so I encourage you to keep this at medium-low priority while you primaril...
by Carly
Sun Jan 23, 2022 4:27 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 1003

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

hey spottedowl -- I think there are definitely things you can do to make it less weird in class, but I think it's important to remember that it might not make it go away completely. The first thing I suggest is letting the teachers in your shared classes know that you would not like, if its possible...
by Carly
Sun Jan 23, 2022 2:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unhealthy relationship?
Replies: 23
Views: 818

Re: Unhealthy relationship?

Hi waterhyacinth -- I don't think it's too soon to split, it sounds like you've taken in a lot of resources about the situation and your gut reaction is telling you it's time to leave. I imagine this may feel impulsive, especially because you've been with him for a while, but consider how much you'v...
by Carly
Mon Jan 17, 2022 9:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hey sky -- it can feel embarrassing when we make mistakes, I'm sorry this made you feel so discouraged. Whenever I make a mistake like that, I try to remember that I'm surely not the only one who has ever messed it up. And sometimes it's not even our fault at all. Were you able to get information or...
by Carly
Mon Jan 17, 2022 8:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't really get crushes
Replies: 5
Views: 254

Re: I don't really get crushes

Hey BeepBoop -- I'm sorry it's been feeling difficult recently. There have been times in my life where I felt the exact same way: I was just out of a relationship, I wanted to date and be intimate with other people, but I wasn't really attracted to anyone I knew or meeting anyone I wanted that with....
by Carly
Mon Jan 17, 2022 7:20 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: How do I know if my email sent?
Replies: 10
Views: 388

Re: How do I know if my email sent?

Hi thr0waway456 -- I'm sorry it's taking us so long to get back to you via email. There's a chance there's still an issue with it. I personally do not have access to the account so I'm unable to confirm we got your email or answer it there. I'm assuming because you emailed it you're uncomfortable ou...
by Carly
Sat Jan 15, 2022 3:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

Aw, thank you, Sky. I'm glad I can make you feel comfortable. :) Anyway, yes, I understand what you mean. I ask about it because you had asked if you could not want to be with men and still call yourself bi or queer; I think what I'm not fully following here is why you would be concerned about this ...
by Carly
Sat Jan 15, 2022 2:49 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hey sky -- sometimes it can feel like there's some pressure to have the right words to describe your sexuality as accurately as possible. There's nothing wrong with being on a quest for those words or labels that feel right, and finding them may be very validating. The words we have are not one-size...
by Carly
Sun Jan 09, 2022 7:06 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 64
Views: 1607

Re: Unwanted crush

Hey Theansweris42 -- up top I wanted to say that therapy is generally always worth considering, even if you feel like you're happy most of the time and things aren't that bad. Therapy isn't always for when life is at its worst and can be used to gain other skills outside of a crisis or maintain good...
by Carly
Sun Jan 09, 2022 5:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hey sky -- I'm really glad you decided to talk to your therapist about this. It sounds like you trust her, and even though you may feel a little weird describing how you feel, I think you'll be able to learn a lot about yourself from the situation. Whenever I have a therapy session coming up that ma...
by Carly
Sun Jan 09, 2022 5:18 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Gynecologist
Replies: 4
Views: 252

Re: Gynecologist

Hey Lucy4 -- I'm glad that helped! When you talk about making a decision, what are you deciding between? Making an appointment and not making one? Just want to make sure I understand. If you want to weigh your options and hear more advice, let us know.
by Carly
Wed Jan 05, 2022 6:40 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Gender Euphoria and Dysphoria Lately
Replies: 9
Views: 460

Re: Gender Euphoria and Dysphoria Lately

Hey transfemandgay -- there might be some therapy or counselling resources near you that offer sliding-scale services or may even have a program that provides it at no cost. Have you ever tried looking for those?
by Carly
Wed Jan 05, 2022 6:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First Vibrator
Replies: 3
Views: 328

Re: First Vibrator

Hey sunsatellite -- I've got some good news and I've got some bad news. Bad news first: folks who are under 18 cannot legally purchase sex toys, and I'm pretty sure this might extend to using a parent's credit card to do so even if you're pretty sure your mom would be okay with the purchase generall...
by Carly
Wed Jan 05, 2022 5:29 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Gynecologist
Replies: 4
Views: 252

Re: Gynecologist

Hey Lucy4 -- happy to give you some more information on this! Though I'm not a gynecologist myself, I can tell you that the reason routine pap smears and pelvic exams are generally recommended at 21 because they check for concerning physical issues and abnormal cells that are less common in those wh...
by Carly
Wed Dec 29, 2021 9:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I just need to vent
Replies: 1
Views: 112

Re: I just need to vent

Hey Digdawg - I'm sorry you're so preoccupied by this right now, I imagine it's not any easier with your boyfriend going off to basic. For what it's worth, I think you can put some confidence in how diligent you and your boyfriend have been preventing pregnancy. Scarleteen's Pregnancy Panic Companio...
by Carly
Wed Dec 29, 2021 8:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing virginity
Replies: 9
Views: 281

Re: Losing virginity

Thanks for clarifying, Bubblegumkid. I was asking because brown discharge commonly indicates that one's period (or withdrawal bleed if they're on birth control) is starting - usually that's called "spotting." Usually that won't have an unusual smell either. Though your periods are irregula...
by Carly
Wed Dec 29, 2021 7:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trust Issues
Replies: 3
Views: 338

Re: Trust Issues

Hey Somesh -- I don't think there's anything wrong with you. Making decisions like this and maintaining our boundaries can be stressful on its own, but I imagine there is even more added stress because pregnancy is often quite altering. We can help you sort how you're feeling out. It sounds like som...
by Carly
Wed Dec 29, 2021 7:20 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 114
Views: 2843

Re: Masterbating

Yep! (btw, no need to ask permission on the forum - it's an open discussion!)
by Carly
Tue Dec 28, 2021 7:10 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Learning to open up
Replies: 9
Views: 288

Re: Learning to open up

Hi Raffles -- I see where your concerns are coming from. Something I do want to offer is that from what I can tell from your posts in this thread and in others is that you are very self-aware and often pretty in touch with how you're feeling with something or where your limits are. I think because o...
by Carly
Tue Dec 28, 2021 6:23 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 114
Views: 2843

Re: Masterbating

Hey Kyleg2007 -- I'm glad what Elise sent helped! I really like that resource. I also wanted to add, just in case it crossed your mind, that the size of your penis will not impact your ability to feel pleasure or your ability to pleasure a partner.
by Carly
Tue Dec 28, 2021 4:46 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing virginity
Replies: 9
Views: 281

Re: Losing virginity

Hey Bubblegumkid -- welcome to Scarleteen! We're happy to help sort this out with you. Are you by chance near the time you usually have your period? Are you on any hormonal birth control?
by Carly
Sun Dec 26, 2021 10:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Learning to open up
Replies: 9
Views: 288

Re: Learning to open up

Hey Raffles -- up top I wanted to say that I really related to some stuff in your post and I'm sorry it can feel like such a struggle to be vulnerable with even people you trust. The questions you're asking are subjective to one's own experience and may be tougher to answer, but I hope what I have d...
by Carly
Sun Dec 26, 2021 8:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: is this normal T_T
Replies: 7
Views: 250

Re: is this normal T_T

Hey lycheefan -- I think it is pretty normal for someone to have a bad reaction to external stimuli that scares/bothers/annoys/discomforts them. I, for example, am very scared of centipedes and get very upset when I see them, but my boyfriend isn't bothered when there's one in the house at all. It's...

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