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by Carly
Sat Oct 16, 2021 8:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Rushing masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 20

Re: Rushing masturbation

Hey Arasyil -- I'm sorry to hear that you haven't been able to enjoy masturbating as much. Having to make time to masturbate and wash normally all in the same short shower sounds like a difficult situation. Why does it make you feel bad about yourself? To me, it sounds like you're doing the best you...
by Carly
Sat Oct 16, 2021 7:33 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Did I squirt?
Replies: 2
Views: 36

Re: Did I squirt?

Hey Elias -- because we're not able to see or smell for ourselves, I'm not sure if we'd know for sure if you peed or not. But! I'd say the general rule of thumb is that if it was pee it would smell like pee, and there would likely be a lot of it that came out at once as it does when you pee intentio...
by Carly
Tue Oct 05, 2021 11:32 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Imbalance in friendships
Replies: 13
Views: 397

Re: Imbalance in friendships

Hey Raffles -- I'm coming in a little late to this conversation, but I just wanted to chime in and say that nothing you've said here sounds terrible. I don't you're giving up on the friendship at all, in fact I think it shows how much you do care about this friend because you're being very thoughtfu...
by Carly
Tue Oct 05, 2021 11:21 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation troubles
Replies: 14
Views: 273

Re: Masturbation troubles

Hi hello_world -- do you want to say more about your anxiety or your privacy problems? It sounds like this has pretty large impact on you right now.
by Carly
Tue Oct 05, 2021 10:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation questions
Replies: 13
Views: 319

Re: Masturbation questions

Hey Otter8 -- welcome to Scarleteen! I don't think you need to be concerned about how much you're masturbating right now. There really isn't such a thing as a "normal" amount of masturbation, as long as you aren't hurting yourself and it isn't getting in the way of things you need to do or...
by Carly
Sun Oct 03, 2021 12:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Shocked and surprised yet comfortable
Replies: 1
Views: 166

Re: Shocked and surprised yet comfortable

Hey Korey -- we learn so much about ourselves by leaving our comfort zones, but I think it's also important to honor your boundaries, even if you're not totally sure what they are yet. It sounds like what happened was consensual, but did you want to do it? It might be helpful to think about those as...
by Carly
Sun Oct 03, 2021 11:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: period questions t_t
Replies: 9
Views: 194

Re: period questions t_t

Hey lycheefan -- Good question! What is considered "late" can be a little different per person because how long a menstrual cycle is can differ. Generally speaking, a period that hasn't come at least five days after it was expected is considered late. A missed period is a period that doesn...
by Carly
Sun Sep 26, 2021 9:49 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Too busy to take care of myself sexually
Replies: 4
Views: 240

Re: Too busy to take care of myself sexually

Hi belled -- I'm glad to hear that college is off to a good start for you. I also have ADHD, and I'm glad you're finding ways to cope and work well. I'm comfortable sharing with you that I'm graduate student, and I also don't have a lot of free time for myself. I feel a lot of pressure to use it str...
by Carly
Sun Sep 26, 2021 9:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 24
Views: 410

Re: Penis Size

Hi dq15 -- I'm so sorry you're feeling like this right now. Puberty is a confusing and stressful time - particularly because we may know what's "supposed to" happen during this period and what it's "supposed to" be like, and if that isn't what's happening it can feel like there's...
by Carly
Fri Aug 20, 2021 4:05 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Are there different ways to masturbate?
Replies: 13
Views: 933

Re: Are there different ways to masturbate?

Hey Hunter14 -- there are many different ways to masturbate, it's all about finding what works and feels best for you. Because of that, sometimes it can be difficult to recommend different masturbation techniques that feel good for everyone. Our resource Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation goes o...
by Carly
Fri Aug 20, 2021 2:00 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Masturbating does not feel good at all??
Replies: 15
Views: 917

Re: Masturbating does not feel good at all??

Hey venus -- is that the only thing that is different between these two scenarios? Does your boyfriend do something differently than how you would do it if you were by yourself?
by Carly
Fri Aug 20, 2021 1:27 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Modern Love
Replies: 1
Views: 135

Re: Modern Love

Hey girlplayer34 -- this sounds extremely frustrating, I'm sorry you're feeling this way right now. I think a lot of people share the same sentiment; I know I did when I was on dating apps. Especially in 2020, before people were vaccinated. Can you see any benefits to meeting people on apps? One thi...
by Carly
Mon Aug 16, 2021 7:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Infected... Lumps? In labia
Replies: 1
Views: 182

Re: Infected... Lumps? In labia

Hey AmnesicSorcerer -- So glad to hear that you're feeling affirmed in what we have to offer content-wise! It means a lot to us to hear that. <3 A limitation we have is that we do no have a doctor on staff or amongst our volunteers; we would be unable to diagnose this condition for you. I'm aware of...
by Carly
Wed Aug 11, 2021 8:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Uncomfortable stomach cramps after masturbation (afab)
Replies: 3
Views: 907

Re: Uncomfortable stomach cramps after masturbation (afab)

Hey Flo04 - welcome to Scarleteen! Sometimes AFAB folks get cramps after orgasm because during an orgasm muscles in the pelvis and pelvic floor contract involuntarily, as does the uterus. Continued contracting after orgasming could result in cramps for a little while afterward. Also, as you pointed ...
by Carly
Mon Aug 02, 2021 9:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Anal sex question
Replies: 5
Views: 1390

Re: Anal sex question

Hey Sunland05 -- I'm not sure if I have a better answer than other than it's likely money motivated. If there are people who want to see it, there are porn directors and producers who are willing to make it and porn actors willing to try it. Pretty similar to other hazardous jobs. Porn is a space wh...
by Carly
Mon Aug 02, 2021 8:21 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I had some guy grab me this morning
Replies: 6
Views: 1813

Re: I had some guy grab me this morning

Hey TNGirl -- I was about 25 when this specific incident happened, I'm 29 now. I was walking alone in my neighborhood, but I was on my way to meet friends so I was able to talk to someone about how I felt pretty much right away. There were also some witnesses on the street who asked if I was okay. I...
by Carly
Sat Jul 31, 2021 12:43 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I had some guy grab me this morning
Replies: 6
Views: 1813

Re: I had some guy grab me this morning

What kinds of things help you feel calm? It sounds like venting here is helping a little bit, but are there other things that help you ease tension or cheer you up? After the experience I mentioned I needed some extra self-care to recover emotionally. Here's a big list of examples and ideas if you'r...
by Carly
Sat Jul 31, 2021 11:17 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Anal sex question
Replies: 5
Views: 1390

Re: Anal sex question

Hey Sunland05 -- Heather already answered your question about bacteria and the safety of switching between an anus and a vagina, but I wanted to offer information about porn in general that I think might be also helpful going forward. It's okay to watch porn and enjoy it, but the most important to t...
by Carly
Sat Jul 31, 2021 10:33 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I had some guy grab me this morning
Replies: 6
Views: 1813

Re: I had some guy grab me this morning

Hi TNGirl -- I just wanted to offer you some additional support. Sadly, street harassment and assault is a common experience. A couple of years ago I was walking down the street (a busy street with a lot of folks around no less) and a man on a bike rode up behind me and put his hand up my skirt. My ...
by Carly
Fri Jul 23, 2021 3:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Testing for Pregnancy
Replies: 15
Views: 637

Re: Testing for Pregnancy

If you are taking your pills correctly (one pill every day without skipping or missing), you likely were not going to ovulate in the first place and may not have needed to take the Plan B. It's my understanding that the pill and Plan B do not counteract and you will not ovulate. Plan B is most helpf...
by Carly
Fri Jul 23, 2021 2:53 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Testing for Pregnancy
Replies: 15
Views: 637

Re: Testing for Pregnancy

I'm not sure exactly which article that was, but there's a good chance it was Who's Afraid of Sperm Cells? . Here's everything we've sent you so you have another place to reference it: Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With...
by Carly
Fri Jul 23, 2021 2:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Testing for Pregnancy
Replies: 15
Views: 637

Re: Testing for Pregnancy

Totally okay to take stuff to the boards even if you've talked to us on another platform - in fact, I'd say a lot of us prefer the message board! :mrgreen: I just wanted to check in about what we sent before because I didn't want to resend stuff you'd seen already. I'm hearing some anxiety in your q...
by Carly
Fri Jul 23, 2021 1:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Testing for Pregnancy
Replies: 15
Views: 637

Re: Testing for Pregnancy

Hey Kourt1996! Happy to help! At-home pregnancy tests are specifically designed to detect high levels of human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) in urine. hCG is a hormone that occurs naturally in bodies of people who can get pregnant at a low levels but spikes noticeably in early pregnancy. The hCG in y...
by Carly
Wed Jul 14, 2021 8:14 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Into BDSM at 13, worried about damaging myself
Replies: 3
Views: 1003

Re: Into BDSM at 13, worried about damaging myself

Hey Sam526687! Up top I wanted to address your concern about pornography -- I think it's great that you're thinking critically about this topic, but I don't think you need to worry as much. Pornography alone cannot cause the "damage" you described; there are a lot of people who have health...
by Carly
Mon Jul 12, 2021 3:08 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: My confusion about the penis
Replies: 6
Views: 1791

Re: My confusion about the penis

Hey OtherAngel! Make sure to get active consent from your partner before deepthroating (or any sexual activity)! It's important to remember that not everyone likes or is comfortable with the same things; building your confidence in communicating your sexual needs and desires is just as important as ...

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