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by Carly
Fri Jul 01, 2022 7:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to Know if I'm Ready
Replies: 3
Views: 251

Re: How to Know if I'm Ready

Hey queenoftask -- I can see how this is bringing up a lot of conflicting, confusing feelings for you. I think it can also be really easy to try to figure it all out on our end, which can lead to a lot of assumptions that may or may not be true. I often tell users that the best way to approach a sit...
by Carly
Wed Jun 29, 2022 7:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why is precum under "no risk"
Replies: 3
Views: 168

Re: Why is precum under "no risk"

Hey Nox -- do you remember what article on our site you were reading? Was it by chance You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You Think You Are? This article does not say that pre-cum does not have any risk, because you are correct, it does. But this only applies to vaginal sex. What this article says is that ...
by Carly
Wed Jun 29, 2022 6:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Did I pee or orgasm?
Replies: 1
Views: 125

Re: Did I pee or orgasm?

Hey lucidity -- I'd say the general rule of thumb is if it smells like pee, it's pee. I think it's good idea to throw any cloth items that were on, under, or over you in the wash, especially because it can stain. When you say "or orgasm" in your question, are you by chance referring to squ...
by Carly
Sun Jun 26, 2022 5:23 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I (male) have a crush on a lesbian and i don't know what to do with it
Replies: 3
Views: 183

Re: I (male) have a crush on a lesbian and i don't know what to do with it

Hey Sam526687 -- I don't think there's a way you could forcibly and deliberately change the way I think about her, but I think something that would be useful is experimenting with what would help you most in letting some of those more intense feelings fade a little. Perhaps taking a bit of space, ev...
by Carly
Sun Jun 26, 2022 5:15 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unsure if I’m ready for intimacy
Replies: 9
Views: 249

Re: Unsure if I’m ready for intimacy

Hey coppersof -- I agree with you, it sounds like you like to make people happy and feel guilty when you don't. We of course want to make people we care for happy, but it sounds like you're understanding the importance of not doing that at your own expense. I think this is especially hard to learn i...
by Carly
Sun Jun 26, 2022 4:03 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Gyn appointment
Replies: 3
Views: 146

Re: Gyn appointment

Hey Raffles -- happy to help with these questions. I'll go number by number. 1. When they ask, I think it's ok if you describe that to them to see what they think. They may also want to add that to your records with them and check in later with you about it. Typically, periods occur every 21 to 35 d...
by Carly
Fri Jun 24, 2022 8:42 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I feel left behind
Replies: 3
Views: 118

Re: I feel left behind

Hey acorns0-0 -- I'm so glad to hear Scarleteen has helped you find some answers in the past. Welcome to the board! I can totally see how you're feeling right now - feeling "behind" other people can be distracting and make us question ourselves. Something that I've learned over time is tha...
by Carly
Wed Jun 22, 2022 8:37 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How to finger your vagina by yourself
Replies: 1
Views: 586

Re: How to finger your vagina by yourself

Hey peles - we're happy to talk with you about this but need you to clear something up first. There is an age discrepancy between what you said in your post and what your put in your profile. Can you clear that up for us?
by Carly
Wed Jun 22, 2022 7:34 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: My sister told my mom that I am a lesbian. Please help!
Replies: 21
Views: 1252

Re: My sister told my mom that I am a lesbian. Please help!

I think these are great suggestions on how to keep a journal private, everyone! I hope these are helpful ideas for you, shypixie. To answer your other questions -- If you're curious about public transportation in your area or if community colleges offer online courses, that information could probabl...
by Carly
Wed Jun 22, 2022 7:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trying to orgasm consistently
Replies: 3
Views: 230

Re: Trying to orgasm consistently

Hey Dagame99 -- being frustrated can definitely play into it for some folks, it's a pretty common problem we see on the boards. If she doesn't have an orgasm, how does it make you both both feel about the experience overall? It might be helpful to change your perspective and reframe things a little ...
by Carly
Wed Jun 22, 2022 6:47 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Confused
Replies: 1
Views: 74

Re: Confused

Hi Aurora222 -- welcome to Scarleteen! Truth is we won't really have an answer as to why he acted this way because we can only assume things here, which may end up being incorrect. The best way to understand his motivation is to ask him directly, especially if you feel that he's acting in a way that...
by Carly
Sat Jun 18, 2022 8:42 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 817

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

I think this is a good perspective to have, Raffles! B might just need some space, for whatever reason.
by Carly
Sat Jun 18, 2022 8:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: IS THE CHANCES OF GETTING PREGNAT HIGH?
Replies: 1
Views: 170

Re: IS THE CHANCES OF GETTING PREGNAT HIGH?

Hey appropriate_ad -- We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services with users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not been otherwise directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question here. If you are seeing this te...
by Carly
Sat Jun 18, 2022 6:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing virginity
Replies: 15
Views: 604

Re: Losing virginity

I'm so glad that helped, Emm5. I told my friend yesterday that I shared her story with someone and she'll be happy to hear it helped ease some anxiety for you. :)
by Carly
Sat Jun 18, 2022 6:32 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Tingly feel in vagina
Replies: 3
Views: 122

Re: Tingly feel in vagina

Hi Afi -- though all of our bodies are different and orgasm feels a little different for everyone, to me this sounds like you're experiencing feel physical feeling of arousal itself rather than an orgasm. PS. If the tingle ever starts to feel a little painful or you're finding yourself needing to pe...
by Carly
Fri Jun 17, 2022 8:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing virginity
Replies: 15
Views: 604

Re: Losing virginity

Hey Emm5 -- This happened to a friend of mine in our early 20's, and she felt the exact same way you're feeling right now. She didn't end up marrying the person she experienced the accident with actually. It came up in conversation a few years ago and I asked her about how she felt about it now. She...
by Carly
Fri Jun 17, 2022 7:22 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I think I have phimosis
Replies: 7
Views: 261

Re: I think I have phimosis

Hey XX -- sounds like a plan! Do you want to talk about anything related to you and your girlfriend's conversation about having sex soon?
by Carly
Sun Jun 12, 2022 4:41 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I think I have phimosis
Replies: 7
Views: 261

Re: I think I have phimosis

Hey XX -- welcome to Scarleteen! We're happy to answer your questions but first I need a little more information from you. How do you know or how did you come to believe you have phimosis? Is this not being able to pull back your foresekin something you've always noticed, or is this new? In general,...
by Carly
Sun Jun 12, 2022 4:02 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 817

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

Hey Raffles - I'm happy to hear an update on the situation with A and B. I think you're being very thoughtful and deliberate about your boundaries while trying to meet someone halfway, which is amazing. I think asking for someone to be available to provide support during or after the conversation is...
by Carly
Sun Jun 12, 2022 3:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fetishes
Replies: 1
Views: 188

Re: Fetishes

Hey MaClarCa0 -- you're already on the right track here! Fetishes are usually the product of external influences (like environment), individual experiences, and sensory preferences. It can be a little difficult to generalize the origin of fetishes because each person has such different experiences a...
by Carly
Sun Jun 12, 2022 3:25 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: coming out struggles
Replies: 29
Views: 793

Re: coming out struggles

Hey harry-p59 -- a "burner" is phone or other device that's designed specifically for temporary use. Usually they're inexpensive (though lower in quality compared to the average cell phone nowadays) and use prepaid/pay-as-you go minutes versus a contract so they're easier for young people ...
by Carly
Tue Jun 07, 2022 9:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Never orgasmed
Replies: 11
Views: 463

Re: Never orgasmed

Gotcha! I ask because I'm wondering if this difficulty is mentally contributing to continued difficulty - sometimes this happens to folks. When you masturbate, what kind of environment are you in? Do you have enough privacy, or is it something you worry about?
by Carly
Tue Jun 07, 2022 6:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Never orgasmed
Replies: 11
Views: 463

Re: Never orgasmed

Hey amberrobert -- I'm curious, when you're masturbating do you ever think about the fact that it's harder for you to orgasm? Do you feel frustrated?
by Carly
Wed Jun 01, 2022 7:43 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stärker AND ANGRY
Replies: 9
Views: 372

Re: Was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stärker AND ANGRY

Hey Madasheck -- you did say you were being snide but could there be some truth or genuine concern coming through with what your grandmother said to you? Sure, there could definitely be the motive of wanting someone else to deal with your rightfully intense emotions after this experience, but could ...
by Carly
Wed Jun 01, 2022 6:31 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Came out to my parents, suddenly uncomfortable?
Replies: 3
Views: 169

Re: Came out to my parents, suddenly uncomfortable?

Hey Spider_Queen -- I think what's happening sounds pretty normal. You said that you were unable to communicate with your family about being trans for a long time, and to me this means you probably accepted them not using your name and pronouns and it became a norm. Now that it's suddenly switched, ...

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