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by Carly
Wed Aug 16, 2023 7:07 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What does “readiness” even mean when you have an anxiety disorder?
Replies: 34
Views: 16979

Re: What does “readiness” even mean when you have an anxiety disorder?

Totally feel you on that, Jay! I think you've been doing a great job working through this.

Have you been feeling stuck on anything else about it?
by Carly
Wed Aug 16, 2023 7:03 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Squirting or something else?
Replies: 1
Views: 3169

Re: Squirting or something else?

Hey Curiousgirly -- welcome to the boards! It sounds like you are experiencing female ejaculation aka squirting. Regarding your experience vs. what you see in videos (presumably porn?) and where it comes from, I think this advice column can help.

Is there anything else we can help with?
by Carly
Wed Aug 16, 2023 6:21 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vent/advise about sexual shame
Replies: 11
Views: 12944

Re: Vent/advise about sexual shame

hey there -- yes, it sounds like your dad could have dealt with finding out about your masturbation a lot differently. It sounds like it could have been a conversation rather than a situation that made you feel shame. Also, what it's worth, the masturbation habits you're describing seem pretty norma...
by Carly
Wed Aug 16, 2023 5:33 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: i feel like somethings wrong with me
Replies: 3
Views: 4986

Re: i feel like somethings wrong with me

Hey pyc -- welcome to the boards! I know this can feel kind of isolating, but it's actually one of the most common genres of questions we see on the board. We typically find that it's never anything physically wrong with someone and more often an issue with exactly what you said, the pressure of wan...
by Carly
Wed Aug 16, 2023 4:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: masturbation
Replies: 5
Views: 11707

Re: masturbation

Hey cuteduck -- welcome to the boards! This is something we can help talk you through, but something that's important to understand first is that everyone's body is different. Different things work for different bodies. We're not going to be able to tell you exactly what to do because there are infi...
by Carly
Sat Aug 12, 2023 4:27 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What does “readiness” even mean when you have an anxiety disorder?
Replies: 34
Views: 16979

Re: What does “readiness” even mean when you have an anxiety disorder?

Hey Jay -- can you say more about feeling overstimulated and the communication you two have had around it? What does it feel like? Do you ever feel a difference between "bad" overstimulation and "good" overstimulation, or does it all feel the same?
by Carly
Wed Aug 09, 2023 8:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Wondering if I have voice dysphoria?
Replies: 12
Views: 59507

Re: Wondering if I have voice dysphoria?

Hey Berkeley -- I'm sorry this is causing you so much stress right now. Something I want to point out is that it sounds like you're still sorting out what you're feeling - coming up with a solution before you can fully articulate or name what's going on is going to spin you out into a lot of "w...
by Carly
Wed Aug 09, 2023 6:28 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I kinda need help with everything
Replies: 24
Views: 90599

Re: I kinda need help with everything

Hey ellie -- sorry to hear that this person has been hard to communicate with. Hate to say it, but the only two options I'm seeing are 1) double text anyway or 2) try to talk about it at the party. You're not going to be able to state your boundaries or discuss her expectations unless one of these t...
by Carly
Sun Aug 06, 2023 12:48 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: If painful periods aren’t normal, why do so many people have them?
Replies: 24
Views: 48951

Re: If painful periods aren’t normal, why do so many people have them?

Hmmm... well, I don't think you're in the minority here. I know a lot of people who are very anxious about phone calls and emails. But! It sounds like there's something about phone calls and emails that we haven't quite hit on yet that might give us some insight on a bigger issue you're struggling w...
by Carly
Sun Aug 06, 2023 12:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: what is this substance??
Replies: 7
Views: 914

Re: what is this substance??

Hey naurmi008 -- has it happened since?
by Carly
Wed Aug 02, 2023 7:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can barely feel any pleasure
Replies: 11
Views: 5692

Re: Can barely feel any pleasure

Hey meleep -- have you ever masturbated in a way where you didn't directly touch your genitals, like humping a pillow? It sounds like what you've been doing hasn't been feeling great to begin with, but sometimes that can also help with dysphoria while masturbating.
by Carly
Wed Aug 02, 2023 6:24 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Bi or lesbian?
Replies: 5
Views: 6580

Re: Bi or lesbian?

Hey Yukkish -- welcome to the boards! There's a lot we can talk about here, and I'm going to start to chisel away at it. Something I want to say up top is that we're not going to be able to tell you how you feel. You're going to be the #1 authority on your own sexuality, words that feel good, etc. A...
by Carly
Sat Jul 29, 2023 1:06 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: both of us BI-curious but maybe more?
Replies: 3
Views: 8592

Re: both of us BI-curious but maybe more?

Hey harmless -- welcome to the boards! There's a lot we can talk about here, and I'm not going to be able to touch everything, so let's just start with the communication between you. It sounds like you were uncomfortable from the start with what she wanted to do. What made it hard for you in those m...
by Carly
Sat Jul 29, 2023 12:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 808399

Re: unsure what to make of this

Hey sky -- is Planned Parenthood the only option you know of near you? It's been a while since we talked and I don't remember where you live, but sometimes county health departments do STI testing for little or no cost as a public health measure. You might have already done this as well, but in the ...
by Carly
Sat Jul 29, 2023 12:32 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: worried?
Replies: 39
Views: 7178

Re: worried?

Hey naurmi -- Sperm are not strong enough to survive that long outside of the body. If your boyfriend masturbated 1-2 hours before you met up, the sperm would definitely not be alive and capable of getting you pregnant.
by Carly
Wed Jul 26, 2023 6:54 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Worried
Replies: 1
Views: 1434

Re: Worried

Hey Thelmaokm -- first and foremost, you cannot get pregnant from semen on toilet paper or any other surface in a shared space. There is a huge misconception out there about strength and intelligence of sperm, which you can read about here . In order for pregnancy to be a possibility, there needs to...
by Carly
Wed Jul 26, 2023 6:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Cocsa TW
Replies: 7
Views: 2279

Re: Cocsa TW

Hi Cursed -- welcome to the boards. Thank you so much for trusting us with so much of your story. There's a lot we can talk about here, but I want to start to with the main topic in your post. Because you've given a lot of information, I want to make sure I'm understanding correctly. When you apolog...
by Carly
Wed Jul 26, 2023 5:25 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I want to get comfortable with wearing revealing clothes
Replies: 5
Views: 3587

Re: I want to get comfortable with wearing revealing clothes

Hey Jay -- it might be good to start by thinking backwards. What would make you feel uncomfortable about wearing clothing that felt more revealing? It sounds like the fit itself might be something you'd need to get used to, but what else (if anything)?
by Carly
Wed Jul 26, 2023 5:06 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: awkward question..
Replies: 4
Views: 2182

Re: awkward question..

Hey 26beanbags -- welcome to the boards! None of this is TMI. So, what I'm hearing is you're asking us if this changes anything about your sexuality. Truth is, you'd know better than we could. But we can try to help guide you through sorting this out. Can you explain what identifying as a lesbian me...
by Carly
Wed Jul 26, 2023 4:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can She be pregnant!!
Replies: 17
Views: 3369

Re: Can She be pregnant!!

Hey nono_nono -- I know you're feeling very anxious about this, but we've given a lot of information in this thread about why pregnancy cannot happen in this case. Please read and review those responses and the resources in them before asking additional questions on this topic. Are you having a hard...
by Carly
Sun Jul 16, 2023 12:49 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What is an orgasm?
Replies: 1
Views: 4033

Re: What is an orgasm?

Hey mcc_ready08 -- welcome to the boards! I'm happy to help and start on your questions. Something I want to emphasize up top here though is that bodies are all very, very different so it can be hard to pinpoint exact answers to some of what you've written. I'll do my best, and I'll also link you to...
by Carly
Sun Jul 16, 2023 11:47 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sexting with my GF
Replies: 3
Views: 3616

Re: Sexting with my GF

I'm sorry to hear you guys have been so frustrated, but I'm glad you've been able to talk about it in the context of your relationship. Unfortunately, I'm not sure if we'll have a solution for you about the texting aspect specifically. I'm wondering if focusing on finding a way to see each other mor...
by Carly
Wed Jul 12, 2023 7:15 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Did I have sexual OCD or sexual compulsive behaviours as a child? If not, is there a name for the cluster of behaviours,
Replies: 18
Views: 22834

Re: Did I have sexual OCD or sexual compulsive behaviours as a child? If not, is there a name for the cluster of behavio

Hey UnicornKitty -- thanks for explaining that so thoroughly. When you think about your persona as an "innocent person", is this something you feel like your sort of slot into naturally given your experiences or is this something you actively curate? What has that process been like in the ...
by Carly
Wed Jul 12, 2023 4:26 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: I had two meltdowns today
Replies: 23
Views: 28216

Re: I had two meltdowns today

Hey Jay -- I'm sorry to hear things haven't been feeling great. Something I want to point out is that minimizing the amount of time you spend at home doesn't have to be tied to being out with friends. What kinds of things do you like to do when you're alone? The same goes for developing coping metho...
by Carly
Wed Jul 12, 2023 4:21 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I talk to my mam about sexual stuff
Replies: 5
Views: 6011

Re: How do I talk to my mam about sexual stuff

Good luck, Lucy! Let us know how it goes and if you need help having a follow-up convo. :)

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