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by Carly
Sat Dec 04, 2021 1:00 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 16
Views: 100

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Hey Crow -- this sounds like a difficult situation all-around, but I'm grateful you're finding some comfort with your neurodiverse friends. It doesn't sound like the counselor at school was helpful at all, but would you have any interest in trying therapy with someone else? If you think it would hel...
by Carly
Tue Nov 30, 2021 7:03 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Cant get out of this friendship, dont know if i even want to
Replies: 1
Views: 43

Re: Cant get out of this friendship, dont know if i even want to

Hi miskosou -- I'm glad that you had a space to write all that down, I imagine feeling all of these conflicting emotions in this situation is really hard for you. We'll do out best to help you sort how you feel out, and hopefully that will help you figure out how you want to go about this situation ...
by Carly
Sun Nov 28, 2021 2:07 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 67
Views: 1101

Re: Masterbating

Hey Kyleg2007 -- I'll third what Elise and Sofi have explained: there's no way we can guarantee how your body would react to vaginoplasty, and this includes the ability to squirt or feel more pleasure. If those are the only reasons you'd be interested in the procedure, I don't think getting a vagino...
by Carly
Wed Nov 24, 2021 4:31 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: bdsm at 14
Replies: 3
Views: 191

Re: bdsm at 14

Hey Sam526687 -- I'm so glad to know that you feel comfortable sharing all of this with us here at Scarleteen. I totally understand having a sexual interest you want to explore and not having a lot of outlets in your life for it. Can you say more about what you mean when you say that you know "...
by Carly
Sat Nov 20, 2021 10:00 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Help with Anusol Cream
Replies: 5
Views: 190

Re: Help with Anusol Cream

Hey GS_6 -- you're right, the anus can be restrictive and it may be difficult to put something inside. One thing to note up top here is that this was likely considered in the design of the applicator, and the applicator is likely much thinner than something like a sex toy or penis. You may have an e...
by Carly
Sat Nov 20, 2021 9:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Im not sure whats wrong with my body
Replies: 8
Views: 213

Re: Im not sure whats wrong with my body

It sounds like you get a lot of sex-negative messaging at home - not quite someone telling you directly that it's bad, but doing things that restrict the ways you could possibly learn more about it or be exposed to it. It could maybe have an impact on how you feel. Other than banning stuff, has your...
by Carly
Sat Nov 20, 2021 8:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Im not sure whats wrong with my body
Replies: 8
Views: 213

Re: Im not sure whats wrong with my body

Hey miskosou -- I'm so sorry this is has been so frustrating. You've done a good job of explaining what happens and how it feels when you try to masturbate. I'm not sure if there's something we can say that will make it easier immediately, but we can try to talk more about how you're feeling and see...
by Carly
Sat Nov 20, 2021 7:41 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 67
Views: 1101

Re: Masterbating

Hey Kyleg2007 -- yep, it is possible for some people with penises to suck their own penis. Some is a very important word here; there is no one "correct" way to do it (besides "don't hurt yourself!") because factors like height or erect penis length may play into someone's ability...
by Carly
Sun Nov 14, 2021 5:43 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: GF is ace, unsure of what to do
Replies: 17
Views: 319

Re: GF is ace, unsure of what to do

Hey Spider_Queen -- that conversation sounded like it was really hard, but I think your honesty shows how much you care. It sounds like both of you need some time to process. In the meantime, how are you taking care of yourself? Do you have someone in your life that is supportive? How or where do yo...
by Carly
Sun Nov 14, 2021 4:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: bf issues
Replies: 7
Views: 214

Re: bf issues

Hey lycheefan -- so what's interesting about love languages is that how one prefers to receive love may not be they way they most give it most often. I, for example, took the test and got "acts of service" - which is totally true - but I tend to express my love in words of affirmation or g...
by Carly
Sun Nov 14, 2021 4:20 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 67
Views: 1101

Re: Masterbating

Hey Kyleg2007 -- unfortunately we do not have a doctor amongst our staff or volunteers so we would be unable to tell you exactly what you are experiencing, especially like this. As Sam mentioned before, they could possibly be sweat glands or hair follicles; those do occasionally get blocked and may ...
by Carly
Wed Nov 10, 2021 12:28 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?
Replies: 20
Views: 328

Re: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?

Hi rahrah300 -- it sounds like this situation has been really confusing for you. Having your trust broken is very difficult and it can throw us for a loop to say the very least. Now, I may be totally off the mark here, but... reading that you posted in a few different places and also talked to frien...
by Carly
Sun Nov 07, 2021 1:05 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 67
Views: 1101

Re: Masterbating

Hey Kyleg2007 -- testicles are pretty sensitive and some people with testicles may feel pleasure when the area is touched, so I'd say what you experienced is pretty common.
by Carly
Sun Nov 07, 2021 12:53 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love Triangle? Try Octagon.
Replies: 6
Views: 262

Re: Love Triangle? Try Octagon.

Hi spottedowl -- this sounds like a really complicated situation, and I'm sorry to hear that it's been source of confusion and stress. You're totally right, sometimes dating within a friend group - especially friend group that sounds as close as yours - can cause tension. The very first thing that j...
by Carly
Sun Nov 07, 2021 11:20 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: How is Everyone?
Replies: 11
Views: 6262

Re: How is Everyone?

I'm having a nice day! I'm a graduate student and my program is a little intense, and I look forward to volunteering on the weekends for Scarleteen. My boyfriend is over and doing some other small projects for me. I often don't have time during the week to do these kinds of things and I have little ...
by Carly
Fri Oct 29, 2021 3:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Finding ways to express myself sexually
Replies: 3
Views: 335

Re: Finding ways to express myself sexually

Hey campyglitterlex -- sounds like there's still a lot on your mind, and we're happy to help talk through whatever you need us for. Being yourself is hard, but I think trying to hide who you really hard and what you really feel is almost harder sometimes. I think a lot of people you know are also ha...
by Carly
Sat Oct 23, 2021 8:17 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Where is my withdrawal bleed?
Replies: 4
Views: 283

Re: Where is my withdrawal bleed?

Hey Juliaho90 -- I would say it is a little early to test if you're concerned specifically about sex you had in October. At-home pregnancy tests are designed to detect high levels of human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) in urine. hCG is a hormone that occurs naturally in bodies of people who can get p...
by Carly
Sat Oct 23, 2021 6:45 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can caffeine and sugar make you horny?
Replies: 3
Views: 366

Re: Can caffeine and sugar make you horny?

No problem, happy to help!
by Carly
Mon Oct 18, 2021 8:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anal fingering
Replies: 1
Views: 402

Re: Anal fingering

Hey Fluffy_elephant -- it's common for some to experience light bleeding (a few drops, lighter in color) after anal penetration, and this is due to the fact that anal issue is a little more sensitive and fingernails or friction can irritate it. Can you be a little more specific about what you mean b...
by Carly
Mon Oct 18, 2021 7:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Unhealthy Infatuation?
Replies: 11
Views: 487

Re: Unhealthy Infatuation?

So glad to hear that helped, idkanymore. I feel comfortable sharing with you that I had a few bouts with what you're feeling when I was high school myself. I totally get what you're saying with "it's always been a problem that I've sort of enjoyed." You might know what the relationship is ...
by Carly
Mon Oct 18, 2021 7:04 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can caffeine and sugar make you horny?
Replies: 3
Views: 366

Re: Can caffeine and sugar make you horny?

Hi belled -- this sounds like the main culprit impacting your ability to sleep last night was having a lot of caffeine and sugar too close to bedtime, which is a normal reaction to those kinds of substances. As for caffeine and sugar making you horny specifically, that's a bit of a toss up. A lot of...
by Carly
Sun Oct 17, 2021 8:09 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Unhealthy Infatuation?
Replies: 11
Views: 487

Re: Unhealthy Infatuation?

Hey idkanymore -- I think it's really cool that you're in touch with yourself enough to identify this situation as something that will be hard for you to navigate. Up top I wanted to just acknowledge that, everything else about the situation aside, it just down-right sucks to have a crush you can't ...
by Carly
Sun Oct 17, 2021 6:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Rushing masturbation
Replies: 4
Views: 301

Re: Rushing masturbation

Thanks for explaining what you meant by it making you feel bad, Arasyil. I don't think it sounds silly! You're right - masturbation is totally a form of self-care and you definitely deserve to feel special. What you said reminds me of the Scarleteen article How to Date Yourself . I'm glad assuring y...
by Carly
Sat Oct 16, 2021 8:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Rushing masturbation
Replies: 4
Views: 301

Re: Rushing masturbation

Hey Arasyil -- I'm sorry to hear that you haven't been able to enjoy masturbating as much. Having to make time to masturbate and wash normally all in the same short shower sounds like a difficult situation. Why does it make you feel bad about yourself? To me, it sounds like you're doing the best you...
by Carly
Sat Oct 16, 2021 7:33 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Did I squirt?
Replies: 4
Views: 611

Re: Did I squirt?

Hey Elias -- because we're not able to see or smell for ourselves, I'm not sure if we'd know for sure if you peed or not. But! I'd say the general rule of thumb is that if it was pee it would smell like pee, and there would likely be a lot of it that came out at once as it does when you pee intentio...

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