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by Carly
Mon Jan 17, 2022 9:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 150
Views: 3647

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hey sky -- it can feel embarrassing when we make mistakes, I'm sorry this made you feel so discouraged. Whenever I make a mistake like that, I try to remember that I'm surely not the only one who has ever messed it up. And sometimes it's not even our fault at all. Were you able to get information or...
by Carly
Mon Jan 17, 2022 8:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't really get crushes
Replies: 5
Views: 191

Re: I don't really get crushes

Hey BeepBoop -- I'm sorry it's been feeling difficult recently. There have been times in my life where I felt the exact same way: I was just out of a relationship, I wanted to date and be intimate with other people, but I wasn't really attracted to anyone I knew or meeting anyone I wanted that with....
by Carly
Mon Jan 17, 2022 7:20 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: How do I know if my email sent?
Replies: 10
Views: 339

Re: How do I know if my email sent?

Hi thr0waway456 -- I'm sorry it's taking us so long to get back to you via email. There's a chance there's still an issue with it. I personally do not have access to the account so I'm unable to confirm we got your email or answer it there. I'm assuming because you emailed it you're uncomfortable ou...
by Carly
Sat Jan 15, 2022 3:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 150
Views: 3647

Re: Just need some reassurance

Aw, thank you, Sky. I'm glad I can make you feel comfortable. :) Anyway, yes, I understand what you mean. I ask about it because you had asked if you could not want to be with men and still call yourself bi or queer; I think what I'm not fully following here is why you would be concerned about this ...
by Carly
Sat Jan 15, 2022 2:49 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 150
Views: 3647

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hey sky -- sometimes it can feel like there's some pressure to have the right words to describe your sexuality as accurately as possible. There's nothing wrong with being on a quest for those words or labels that feel right, and finding them may be very validating. The words we have are not one-size...
by Carly
Sun Jan 09, 2022 7:06 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 63
Views: 1375

Re: Unwanted crush

Hey Theansweris42 -- up top I wanted to say that therapy is generally always worth considering, even if you feel like you're happy most of the time and things aren't that bad. Therapy isn't always for when life is at its worst and can be used to gain other skills outside of a crisis or maintain good...
by Carly
Sun Jan 09, 2022 5:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 150
Views: 3647

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hey sky -- I'm really glad you decided to talk to your therapist about this. It sounds like you trust her, and even though you may feel a little weird describing how you feel, I think you'll be able to learn a lot about yourself from the situation. Whenever I have a therapy session coming up that ma...
by Carly
Sun Jan 09, 2022 5:18 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Gynecologist
Replies: 4
Views: 213

Re: Gynecologist

Hey Lucy4 -- I'm glad that helped! When you talk about making a decision, what are you deciding between? Making an appointment and not making one? Just want to make sure I understand. If you want to weigh your options and hear more advice, let us know.
by Carly
Wed Jan 05, 2022 6:40 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Gender Euphoria and Dysphoria Lately
Replies: 9
Views: 400

Re: Gender Euphoria and Dysphoria Lately

Hey transfemandgay -- there might be some therapy or counselling resources near you that offer sliding-scale services or may even have a program that provides it at no cost. Have you ever tried looking for those?
by Carly
Wed Jan 05, 2022 6:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First Vibrator
Replies: 3
Views: 269

Re: First Vibrator

Hey sunsatellite -- I've got some good news and I've got some bad news. Bad news first: folks who are under 18 cannot legally purchase sex toys, and I'm pretty sure this might extend to using a parent's credit card to do so even if you're pretty sure your mom would be okay with the purchase generall...
by Carly
Wed Jan 05, 2022 5:29 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Gynecologist
Replies: 4
Views: 213

Re: Gynecologist

Hey Lucy4 -- happy to give you some more information on this! Though I'm not a gynecologist myself, I can tell you that the reason routine pap smears and pelvic exams are generally recommended at 21 because they check for concerning physical issues and abnormal cells that are less common in those wh...
by Carly
Wed Dec 29, 2021 9:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I just need to vent
Replies: 1
Views: 102

Re: I just need to vent

Hey Digdawg - I'm sorry you're so preoccupied by this right now, I imagine it's not any easier with your boyfriend going off to basic. For what it's worth, I think you can put some confidence in how diligent you and your boyfriend have been preventing pregnancy. Scarleteen's Pregnancy Panic Companio...
by Carly
Wed Dec 29, 2021 8:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing virginity
Replies: 9
Views: 266

Re: Losing virginity

Thanks for clarifying, Bubblegumkid. I was asking because brown discharge commonly indicates that one's period (or withdrawal bleed if they're on birth control) is starting - usually that's called "spotting." Usually that won't have an unusual smell either. Though your periods are irregula...
by Carly
Wed Dec 29, 2021 7:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trust Issues
Replies: 3
Views: 271

Re: Trust Issues

Hey Somesh -- I don't think there's anything wrong with you. Making decisions like this and maintaining our boundaries can be stressful on its own, but I imagine there is even more added stress because pregnancy is often quite altering. We can help you sort how you're feeling out. It sounds like som...
by Carly
Wed Dec 29, 2021 7:20 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 106
Views: 2356

Re: Masterbating

Yep! (btw, no need to ask permission on the forum - it's an open discussion!)
by Carly
Tue Dec 28, 2021 7:10 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Learning to open up
Replies: 9
Views: 254

Re: Learning to open up

Hi Raffles -- I see where your concerns are coming from. Something I do want to offer is that from what I can tell from your posts in this thread and in others is that you are very self-aware and often pretty in touch with how you're feeling with something or where your limits are. I think because o...
by Carly
Tue Dec 28, 2021 6:23 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 106
Views: 2356

Re: Masterbating

Hey Kyleg2007 -- I'm glad what Elise sent helped! I really like that resource. I also wanted to add, just in case it crossed your mind, that the size of your penis will not impact your ability to feel pleasure or your ability to pleasure a partner.
by Carly
Tue Dec 28, 2021 4:46 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing virginity
Replies: 9
Views: 266

Re: Losing virginity

Hey Bubblegumkid -- welcome to Scarleteen! We're happy to help sort this out with you. Are you by chance near the time you usually have your period? Are you on any hormonal birth control?
by Carly
Sun Dec 26, 2021 10:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Learning to open up
Replies: 9
Views: 254

Re: Learning to open up

Hey Raffles -- up top I wanted to say that I really related to some stuff in your post and I'm sorry it can feel like such a struggle to be vulnerable with even people you trust. The questions you're asking are subjective to one's own experience and may be tougher to answer, but I hope what I have d...
by Carly
Sun Dec 26, 2021 8:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: is this normal T_T
Replies: 7
Views: 240

Re: is this normal T_T

Hey lycheefan -- I think it is pretty normal for someone to have a bad reaction to external stimuli that scares/bothers/annoys/discomforts them. I, for example, am very scared of centipedes and get very upset when I see them, but my boyfriend isn't bothered when there's one in the house at all. It's...
by Carly
Sat Dec 18, 2021 8:29 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can I take Yasmin with Amoxicillin tablets?
Replies: 3
Views: 120

Re: Can I take Yasmin with Amoxicillin tablets?

Hey Juliaho90 -- Because you're supposed to start it today, I would give it another day to determine if your discharge has actually stopped or your withdrawal bleed is affected somehow, just to be sure.
by Carly
Tue Dec 14, 2021 7:10 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 40
Views: 1075

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Hey MusicNerd -- you're totally right, and I think you're on the cusp of learning something really important about anxiety and how it plays out interpersonally. Sometimes our own overthinking makes us believe we do know what will happen, because we've quite possibly thought of every way it could. Of...
by Carly
Sun Dec 12, 2021 9:14 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I want to have sex but im 15. Is it normal to feel this way
Replies: 4
Views: 297

Re: I want to have sex but im 15. Is it normal to feel this way

Hey Draconiquist -- your mom is right, this is totally a space where you can talk about things like this as freely as you like. Up top I just want to assure you that our staff and volunteers would not find this awkward and I can confidently speak for everyone when I say that we aren't making assumpt...
by Carly
Sun Dec 12, 2021 8:50 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 35
Views: 785

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Hey again Crow -- can you clarify what you mean by that? Do you have any limitations of your physical mobility, or are you not sure what kind of physical activity you have space/equipment/etc to do? This will help us brainstorm some ideas with you.
by Carly
Sun Dec 12, 2021 8:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Going off the pill
Replies: 9
Views: 309

Re: Going off the pill

Hey neni -- don't worry, we're volunteers because we like helping with questions like this! Yep, having late periods after stopping hormonal birth control is pretty common. It may take up to 3 months for it to completely stabilize again.

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