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by Carly
Fri Jun 18, 2021 9:43 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Controversy surrounding 'bi lesbians'?
Replies: 1
Views: 37

Re: Controversy surrounding 'bi lesbians'?

Hey BishoneninBloom! Up top I wanted to say that I felt you explained your confusion and curiosity well and I don't think you were disrespectful in any way. I'm glad you're comfortable asking questions on Scarleteen - remember we're here to not only help answer questions, but also moderate discussio...
by Carly
Tue Jun 15, 2021 11:19 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Disappointed in my bf
Replies: 7
Views: 139

Re: Disappointed in my bf

Hi Hel! I'm sorry you're having such a hard time right now. I remember a while ago you mentioned that your boyfriend was dealing with some issues at home and he seemed to be taking it out on you and mutual friends. I think you mentioned you talked to him about this behavior - has he been doing okay?...
by Carly
Wed Jun 09, 2021 9:10 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling guilty about wanting to break up
Replies: 4
Views: 439

Re: Feeling guilty about wanting to break up

Hi futurefaeking, I believe you got some assistance with this situation via our SMS chat (and vambrace offered some great peer support!), but I wanted to also offer a few things here. I noticed you said you said didn't have "any good reason except for my own issues" - your feelings are a g...
by Carly
Sun Jun 06, 2021 7:50 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: URGENT PLEASE HELP
Replies: 6
Views: 604

Re: URGENT PLEASE HELP

Hey idk anymore -- I am so sorry you're going through this. Has any literature or reporting on this policy said there's a reason why its needed? I'm trying to figure out why the ACLU would support a policy like this because it's my understanding they believe outing students is a civil rights violati...
by Carly
Sun Jun 06, 2021 5:03 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 8
Views: 2068

Re: Clit problems

Hey kdksksk! I'm glad to see my first answer helped, and some other folks were able to help with a few more things. Stress is definitely something that can make it harder to feel aroused and it's very common. I think it will be easier after finals. Good luck with your exams!
by Carly
Thu Jun 03, 2021 1:15 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling Guilty
Replies: 3
Views: 740

Re: Feeling Guilty

Hey VocaFan62 -- I just wanted to offer you some support in what you're working through right now. I have struggled really bad with my self-esteem my whole life, and in recent years have really come to terms with how down-right mean I am to myself. It's often lead me to totally push my needs aside b...
by Carly
Sat May 29, 2021 9:28 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How effective are condoms?
Replies: 14
Views: 3409

Re: How effective are condoms?

Hi Juliaho90! No worries at all, we're here to help and happy to answer anything.

Having sex can't effect your withdrawal bleeding any more than it can your period unless you're pregnant.
by Carly
Tue May 25, 2021 12:29 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condoms when sharing sex toys, and first time with a specific partner
Replies: 3
Views: 2830

Re: Condoms when sharing sex toys, and first time with a specific partner

Awesome! I'm so happy this was helpful for you! I think reading through the consent article together is a great idea. It's long, but I think it runs through a lot of different tips and scenarios that are all super insightful. We're here if you have any more questions or want chat anything else throu...
by Carly
Sun May 23, 2021 7:54 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condoms when sharing sex toys, and first time with a specific partner
Replies: 3
Views: 2830

Re: Condoms when sharing sex toys, and first time with a specific partner

Hey ebbyebby! Multiple questions in one thread is totally okay - we're happy to answer! Hopefully this gives you some insight, I have a feeling others will chime in as well -- Question #1 - I think you're on the right track here! It would be best practice to use condoms on the toys you plan to use, ...
by Carly
Sun May 23, 2021 6:26 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 58
Views: 5639

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hey sandpiper! It looks like you've been talking with a few Scarleteen folks throughout the thread and I'm sure they'll chime in too, but! I think you should bring these concerns up with your gynecologist, if for no other reason than it sounds like you may experience pain or discomfort during your e...
by Carly
Sun May 23, 2021 4:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any other contraceptive methods?
Replies: 15
Views: 3067

Re: Any other contraceptive methods?

Hi Juliaho90! Though I haven't found anything that suggests that ginseng will interact with Yasmin's ability to prevent pregnancy, I would strongly recommend reaching out to your doctor directly just to be sure there is no risk. The lack of information on this online may be linked to a lack of study...
by Carly
Thu May 13, 2021 10:02 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Breakups while Bipolar
Replies: 2
Views: 1055

Re: Breakups while Bipolar

Hey Buddyboi 21 -- I know you've talked about seeing a therapist in a different thread, but I also wanted to check in about other care and care providers. Is your therapist the person prescribed you the medication you mentioned before? Did you end up trying that medication again, or talking to a doc...
by Carly
Thu May 13, 2021 8:56 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues
Replies: 5
Views: 1264

Re: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues

Hi Hel! I agree, your boyfriend needs to understand that he hurt your feelings and that it's out of line to treat you and his friends the way he did. While I do think you should confront him as soon as possible, it does sound like he's having a hard time right now, especially because he is strugglin...
by Carly
Thu May 13, 2021 8:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 8
Views: 2068

Re: Clit problems

Hey kdksksk! I think the first step to figuring out what's going on is to take a break from rubbing your clitoris for a couple of days, just like you read. You said you're able to still feel some pleasure, so I'm thinking taking a few days off will help regain the ability to masturbate for a longer ...
by Carly
Thu May 13, 2021 7:57 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Too sensitive to orgasm
Replies: 7
Views: 1551

Re: Too sensitive to orgasm

Hey sweet-lemonade! Yep, I think all the information you've given us here is appropriate to share with a doctor. Marisha suggested seeing a gynecologist, and I agree that they would likely be the best fit for what you're experiencing. Have you ever been to one?
by Carly
Tue May 11, 2021 8:33 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Knocked nexplanon?
Replies: 7
Views: 2245

Re: Knocked nexplanon?

Hey Holly55, Your implant is made to be sturdy and flexible! An itch or a bump or other similar everyday occurrences and will not cause damage to your implant or its effectiveness. If you have ever have any intense, direct impact near/on where it is in your arm, I would recommend checking in with yo...
by Carly
Sun May 02, 2021 4:25 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I was emotionally abusive. Should I carry my guilt?
Replies: 1
Views: 883

Re: I was emotionally abusive. Should I carry my guilt?

Hi Springflower! Thank you for sharing all of this with us. Sometimes it can be hard to be vulnerable and open about past behavior we aren't proud of. It sounds like you've taken your growth very seriously, and I think you should be really proud of the progress you made in not only getting to a heal...
by Carly
Sun May 02, 2021 3:11 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my guilt is eating me up alive
Replies: 25
Views: 2509

Re: my guilt is eating me up alive

Hey haikyufan123! I think Marisha is touching on some great point here, one of the most important being that it sounds like you did not intentionally violate your boyfriend's boundaries and you do not want to do it again. In order to not do it again I think you need to keep communication about sex a...
by Carly
Fri Apr 30, 2021 1:29 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 1904

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

Hey BuddyBoi! Just catching up on your thread since I last chimed in. I totally get what you're saying about feeling like you can't win with this - like I said before, I was in a similar situation not too long ago. I realized that the more I tried to get back out there, the more pressure I felt from...
by Carly
Fri Apr 30, 2021 12:19 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Changed my mind
Replies: 5
Views: 818

Re: Changed my mind

Hi Hel! Just wanted to link to one of my fave resources about communication on Scarleteen: Be A Blabbermouth! This a great guide to communication in general, but especially for the kinds of changes you want to talk to your boyfriend about. There's also a related resource with some sample conversatio...
by Carly
Fri Apr 23, 2021 9:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 1904

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

Hey BuddyBoi21 -- I'm so impressed with how honest and vulnerable you've been in this thread. It sounds like you are having a super rough time right now. I'm so sorry to hear that you're having some difficulty eating, sleeping, and feeling lonely. You mentioned before that at one point you were talk...
by Carly
Wed Apr 21, 2021 1:06 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: boyfriend just wants to sleep
Replies: 2
Views: 851

Re: boyfriend just wants to sleep

Hi eli.ja! I'm glad you reached out - sometimes it can be hard to communicate what you want and need, even if the relationship makes you happy. Be a Blabbermouth! has a lot of great tips on expressing yourself in conversations about sex and relationships. Here are some that I think would be especial...
by Carly
Sat Apr 10, 2021 12:19 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 1115

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

Hi Hel! You're right, sex drive is different for everyone! Environment and age can be factors in how often someone wants to have sex. Another common factor could be mental health or stress level. If your body has a period, you may also feel an extra surge in your sex drive around the time you ovulat...
by Carly
Wed Apr 07, 2021 1:23 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 22
Views: 7453

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

I! Love! Jumpsuits! These are very trendy at the moment where I live, but I'll be wearing these for the rest of my life. Sometimes I get really overwhelmed by getting dressed and choosing what to wear, and I find that articles of clothing that are nearly a complete outfit with just one piece (like d...
by Carly
Wed Apr 07, 2021 1:13 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confused about sexuality and masturbation
Replies: 4
Views: 706

Re: Confused about sexuality and masturbation

Hey Nia Ray! What I'm hearing in your post is that you've done some research on sexuality and are comfortable identifying as bi, but also have some concerns about the terms you're using because of your feelings about your desire to have penetrative sex. Sofi is totally right - the labels and terms y...

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