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by Sofi
Wed Mar 13, 2024 9:24 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Overcoming feelings of sexual shame
Replies: 4
Views: 332

Re: Overcoming feelings of sexual shame

I really don't think we can give you an average time frame because like you said it's different for everyone, and we would just be either setting you up for disappointment or making you rush the process. Yes, you can think of it that way if it helps. We don't really share our personal religious beli...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 13, 2024 9:13 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What to do if I never feel aroused
Replies: 2
Views: 93

Re: What to do if I never feel aroused

Hi kasra2000, welcome to the boards! You know, this is one of the most common questions we receive. Which means, a LOT of people go through this. It's not uncommon to feel this way and for it to create frustration, but there's nothing wrong with you, and it doesn't have to be due to anything in part...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 13, 2024 8:51 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: vibrator use and frequency
Replies: 1
Views: 117

Re: vibrator use and frequency

Hi there,

This is a valid question because as you said there are a lot of people who think this, but it is in fact a myth. There's no evidence that vibrators numb or desensitize people's genitals in any way.

We have a longer post about it here: Do vibrators cause a loss of sensitivity?
by Sofi
Wed Mar 13, 2024 8:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex positive but not?
Replies: 9
Views: 239

Re: Sex positive but not?

You could start with having that kind of conversation 1:1 with someone you trust or feel less shy around. That will make you feel more comfortable talking about the topic in general. Remember, you don't HAVE to talk about anything you're not comfortable with. But if you're just feeling shy, it would...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 13, 2024 8:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Testicular self examination
Replies: 2
Views: 130

Re: Testicular self examination

Hi Anonyme2324goat, welcome to the boards! To answer your main question, yes, many folks do feel comfortable touching and occassionally self examining their testicles. That being said, it's understandable that you're a bit nervous about it. Testicles can be sensitive, but try to remember that they'r...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 06, 2024 5:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fantasy issues
Replies: 21
Views: 1741

Re: Fantasy issues

It does sound like for now you'll have to find moments and places when you're able to explore and experiment, rather than sticking to a routine per se. I want you to take some pressure off it though so when those opportunities come up, it doesn't feel like you HAVE to, or if you do and it's not as s...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 06, 2024 5:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I selfish?
Replies: 7
Views: 265

Re: Am I selfish?

That's great news that you were able to talk to them about it. I'm proud of you for doing that. <3
by Sofi
Tue Mar 05, 2024 6:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I selfish?
Replies: 7
Views: 265

Re: Am I selfish?

Ah, yeah, if it's something you've brought up more than once but it keeps getting danced around, it makes even more sense why you're frustrated. Have you expressed this to them clearly? If so, what did they say?
by Sofi
Tue Mar 05, 2024 5:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bath tub fingering questions(s) - Help?
Replies: 11
Views: 334

Re: Bath tub fingering questions(s) - Help?

It could be, but we don't have enough information to say nor can we diagnose you. It would be worth talking to a mental health professional about this since the anxiety seems to be causing you a lot of distress, and they can help you ease your anxiety.
by Sofi
Tue Mar 05, 2024 5:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I selfish?
Replies: 7
Views: 265

Re: Am I selfish?

Hi Skybushh, I'm sorry you're feeling hurt and disconnected from your partner, as well as (it seems) emotionally exhausted from trying. It sounds like you both really care about each other and want to make it work, but keep missing each other in those attempts. The end goal here is to get on the sam...
by Sofi
Wed Feb 21, 2024 5:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Possibly pregnant?
Replies: 3
Views: 584

Re: Possibly pregnant?

Both of those are great options - here's each one's detailed info to help you make an informed decision that's best for you:
Depo-Provera
IUD
by Sofi
Wed Feb 21, 2024 5:21 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can't ignore social stigma
Replies: 7
Views: 718

Re: Can't ignore social stigma

I'm glad the article seems helpful - was there any particular part of it that helped, or that you want to discuss? It can be very hard to focus on pleasure when we have these strong outside influences telling us to feel guilt and shame. Sometimes it's good to slow down and work on that guilt and sha...
by Sofi
Wed Feb 21, 2024 4:22 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Guilt!
Replies: 1
Views: 539

Re: No Guilt!

Glad to hear the articles and other board posts helped, and you're able to masturbate guilt and shame free. I encourage you to keep exploring our site as questions come up. :)
by Sofi
Wed Jan 24, 2024 2:12 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: friendships in the way?
Replies: 6
Views: 1474

Re: friendships in the way?

This all makes sense, thanks for expanding on it. You know, overthinking is definitely a result of anxiety for a lot of people, so often when we work on managing our anxiety we can also reduce the overthinking. One way you can work on this aside from therapy is just practicing mindfulness and ground...
by Sofi
Tue Jan 23, 2024 4:07 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can’t orgasm
Replies: 23
Views: 1658

Re: Can’t orgasm

We do think it would be good to talk to a doctor about your symptons like the dizziness because they are a bit concerning as you described them, and it's always better to be safe when it comes to health. As far as masturbation not being as enjoyable, are you able to get your hands on stuff to make a...
by Sofi
Tue Jan 16, 2024 5:29 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sexually frustrated
Replies: 26
Views: 3197

Re: sexually frustrated

Would your dad be more receptive perhaps? If you approach it as Sam explained, and tell them you've tried to drink more fluids and it hasn't helped and is getting worse, that should seem important enough to see a professional. I agree with Sam that this is a pretty intense symptom of arousal and see...
by Sofi
Tue Jan 16, 2024 5:18 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship problems
Replies: 26
Views: 3603

Re: Relationship problems

So I think Nadine in your other post gave a great answer with lots of helpful advice. It's okay for you to bring this topic up to her if it's making you feel guilty and like you're hiding something, there's no set amount of truth that should or shouldn't be shared with our partners - we decide that ...
by Sofi
Tue Jan 16, 2024 4:32 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: fingering myself doesnt feel good anymore
Replies: 1
Views: 1772

Re: fingering myself doesnt feel good anymore

Hi there, welcome to the boards. We really can't give specific tips or advice on how to enjoy masturbating because everyone's body is different and everyone enjoys different things. Plus, our main sexual organ is our brain, so most pleasure starts there. What I can say is if you get too in your head...
by Sofi
Tue Oct 10, 2023 6:41 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Trimming Down There
Replies: 3
Views: 3355

Re: Trimming Down There

Hi there! I'm so sorry you're having this discomfort, that sounds like a real headache. My best advice is coconut oil, which will help make the hair a bit softer down there - but it's definitely not a magic solution, unfortunately. Since you mentioned women's underwear gives you dysphoria, I don't w...
by Sofi
Tue Oct 10, 2023 6:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Putting a tampon in for the first time
Replies: 3
Views: 1292

Re: Putting a tampon in for the first time

Hi there, welcome to the boards. I want to start by sharing a resource we have on the 'hymen' so what I say after makes sense: My Corona: The Hymen & the Myths That Surround It So, now that we got the basics out there, I'll say that for some people it does hurt a bit to use a tampon for the firs...
by Sofi
Tue Oct 10, 2023 6:23 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My girlfriend wants more than I feel ready for
Replies: 1
Views: 3995

Re: My girlfriend wants more than I feel ready for

Hi there, welcome to the boards. I want to start by saying that I can tell this is stressful for you, because you care about her and don't want to hurt her. It's valid and natural to be thinking of her needs and wants through this. That being said, when it comes to sex, if one partner isn't comforta...
by Sofi
Mon Oct 09, 2023 6:27 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Change in bleeding pattern
Replies: 6
Views: 4689

Re: Change in bleeding pattern

It could honestly be a random one-off, as that can happen with birth control, but without being medical professionals and examining you we can't give an answer. If you feel like this is a big enough change to see a medical professional, it's a good idea to make an appointment just to be safe - you k...
by Sofi
Wed Oct 04, 2023 12:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: did i almost ejaculate?
Replies: 9
Views: 3171

Re: did i almost ejaculate?

It's okay, this stuff is definitely tricky like you said, especially at your age. I think what Heather said at the end there is super important - having certain hopes when it comes to this stuff is just a recipe for disappointment. Overthinking and comparing ourselves to other people when it comes t...
by Sofi
Wed Oct 04, 2023 12:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Update: Still having pregnancy scare thoughts. Help!
Replies: 3
Views: 1405

Re: Update: Still having pregnancy scare thoughts. Help!

Hi ailel, What you describe could easily be symptoms of your menstrual cycle, and if I'm understanding you're not technically late yet, but it's of course up to you if you take a pregnancy test or not, and sometimes it's okay to do one just to really be sure and ease any anxiety. You know your body ...
by Sofi
Wed Oct 04, 2023 11:53 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How do I have a orgasm without touching myself?
Replies: 10
Views: 17768

Re: How do I have a orgasm without touching myself?

Hi Rachel 1, I want to bring up your last thread and the advice Jacob, Heather and Sam all gave you on putting less focus on what masturbation "should" be like, and more on your mental health and finding pleasure in things in general. That being said, yes, some people can orgasm without ge...

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