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by Sofi
Mon May 23, 2022 3:07 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 81

Re: My sexuality

Hi there, welcome to the boards! We're not here to tell you what your sexuality or sexual orientation is, because only you can decide that. We can help point you in the right direction to get more clarity and make that decision. That being said, sexuality is fluid and can change throughout your life...
by Sofi
Wed May 18, 2022 3:00 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is there something wrong with me
Replies: 7
Views: 282

Re: Is there something wrong with me

Hi Opal, Have you tried all the suggestions in the article? What works for some doesn't work for all and for many people, visual media doesn't arouse them. Music, closing your eyes and letting your imagination run wild, or even engaging yourself in dirty talk are all options lots of people use inste...
by Sofi
Wed May 18, 2022 12:59 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 5
Views: 172

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

Hi Raffles, would it be practical to write down what you plan on saying beforehand, perhaps? Also, I know in-person is best, but maybe you could meet with B over the phone instead. This way you can even have your points in front of you in case you get too anxious, and it will also be easier to diffu...
by Sofi
Mon May 16, 2022 12:53 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Crossdresser Is A Loaded Label
Replies: 1
Views: 119

Re: Crossdresser Is A Loaded Label

Hi DiverDoubt, welcome to the boards! What you're going through can be confusing at times, leaving you feeling like your gender identity is weird or rare. Truth be told, it isn't as rare as you'd think (and not weird at all)! How you label or classify yourself is entirely up to you, as you know, and...
by Sofi
Mon May 16, 2022 12:21 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Polyam Relationship Advice
Replies: 73
Views: 980

Re: Polyam Relationship Advice

So, I'm wondering, do you feel that if she acknowledges her actions you can get back together and all the other problems will be solved? If you believe she can change AND you can move past what she did without it being a constant cloud over the relationship, then maybe the answer is yes. I ask so yo...
by Sofi
Wed May 11, 2022 2:57 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know I'm not missing red flags?
Replies: 16
Views: 618

Re: How do I know I'm not missing red flags?

Glad to hear it went well for you and he didn't get defensive, that's a good sign. It's always okay for couples to talk about issues in the relationship such as specific things they're unhappy with or that concern them, as long as you're doing it with respect and transparency.
by Sofi
Mon May 09, 2022 1:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: scared of STI testing
Replies: 1
Views: 159

Re: scared of STI testing

Hi there, welcome to the boards! The thought of pap smears can be scary for many people, especially if tampons are painful or uncomfortable. I'm not going to lie and say you absolutely will not feel any discomfort, because most physical discomfort people experience during a pap smear comes from bein...
by Sofi
Sun May 08, 2022 12:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Polyam Relationship Advice
Replies: 73
Views: 980

Re: Polyam Relationship Advice

Oof, that's a really rough conclusion to come to, for both you of course and your ex. I can imagine it's hard because you don't want her to go through an abusive relationship, but it seems like even if you tell her she might not believe you at this time. Do you think there's any other way you can he...
by Sofi
Sun May 08, 2022 12:39 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Condom slip with sex worker, HIV risk ?
Replies: 3
Views: 186

Re: Condom slip with sex worker, HIV risk ?

Hi Phantompains, welcome to the boards. I'm sorry this is causing you some anxiety, I'll start with talking about the condom incident because we don't want that to keep happening. Condoms slipping off like that sometimes happens because the condom is too large or doesn't fit properly, so I'd recomme...
by Sofi
Sun May 08, 2022 12:18 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Light withdrawal bleed
Replies: 3
Views: 1393

Re: Light withdrawal bleed

Yep, it's not uncommon for them to be lighter some months and heavier other months. If your symptoms are the same as common menstruation symptoms, that would explain that.
by Sofi
Sun May 08, 2022 12:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to recognize mean behavior vs playful joking
Replies: 1
Views: 109

Re: How to recognize mean behavior vs playful joking

Hi vidvoop. You know, these are both actually quite common questions people have, especially if it's one of their first relationships ever. Right now we see the whole "red flag" thing all over the internet, often as a joke but sometimes not, and while I think it's super important to educat...
by Sofi
Fri May 06, 2022 2:01 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: peeing while masturbating
Replies: 1
Views: 417

Re: peeing while masturbating

Hi there, welcome to the boards! What you experienced could've been ejaculation, sometimes it can be quite a lot and can smell like pee, too. It could've also been urine, but there's no way to tell. It's more common than you'd think, for both of those, and since they're pretty similar it's hard to t...
by Sofi
Fri May 06, 2022 1:42 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Polyam Relationship Advice
Replies: 73
Views: 980

Re: Polyam Relationship Advice

I, too, am really proud of you, Mixxes. Like Sam said, I'm sort of relieved because you were clearly struggling and your partner wasn't being good to you, and you deserve better. I'm glad you know that and you have a plan moving forward to work on yourself. We're always here for support, venting, et...
by Sofi
Fri May 06, 2022 12:54 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: sick of being a virgin
Replies: 9
Views: 452

Re: sick of being a virgin

Oh, this is amazing! I'm so so glad you're feeling better about the whole situation and it sounds lke you have a really healthy perspective now. Your singleness absolutely does not affect your self-worth, and I'm proud of you for recognizing that! Thanks for the kind words, too. <3
by Sofi
Wed May 04, 2022 2:46 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: masturbating with issues maintaining focus?
Replies: 5
Views: 464

Re: masturbating with issues maintaining focus?

Do you mind sharing what city/country you're in so we can make some suggestions on finding a provider?
by Sofi
Wed May 04, 2022 1:58 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Polyam Relationship Advice
Replies: 73
Views: 980

Re: Polyam Relationship Advice

Oh, good! I'm really glad to hear she seems to really understand now how her behavior and actions were hurtful and unfair, and I hope therapy can keep y'all on a good path of healing and moving forward. I'll say, because I care about you and your wellbeing, please keep putting yourself first when it...
by Sofi
Wed May 04, 2022 12:36 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation worries
Replies: 7
Views: 199

Re: Masturbation worries

Is it possible to have a trash bin in your room?
by Sofi
Mon May 02, 2022 12:34 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Polyam Relationship Advice
Replies: 73
Views: 980

Re: Polyam Relationship Advice

I think that's a good idea, sometimes we just need a little distance to work through our emotions about someone. It's best to step away while you process then to end up blowing up or saying something you might regret. Like you said, it isn't her fault because she didn't know. But it's also valid tha...
by Sofi
Fri Apr 29, 2022 2:08 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Thinking About My Relationship Never Feels Good
Replies: 11
Views: 216

Re: Thinking About My Relationship Never Feels Good

Hi sandpiper. hope it's okay that I jump in! I'm caught up on the thread. What you're describing can be labeled as asexuality if you're comfortable with the label, which it sounds like you are, but as a footnote of sorts (great way to describe it!) and it can change. I personally know someone who ha...
by Sofi
Fri Apr 29, 2022 1:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know I'm not missing red flags?
Replies: 16
Views: 618

Re: How do I know I'm not missing red flags?

If you were friends before you started dating then I don't think there's emotional manipulation or any red flags going on. It makes sense that since you had a friendship already, you'd get close faster as a couple.
by Sofi
Fri Apr 29, 2022 12:55 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Polyam Relationship Advice
Replies: 73
Views: 980

Re: Polyam Relationship Advice

Oh, that's a tough one, and not very fair to put you in that position. If she knew you wanted a kid, it really isn't cool to say she wants to have a kid and let you be involved but not be a parent to the kid. You're right she is acting in a selfish way and that's unfair to you. Given that she's not ...
by Sofi
Wed Apr 27, 2022 3:10 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I need help unpacking a personality-related and society-related problem of mine
Replies: 6
Views: 143

Re: I need help unpacking a personality-related and society-related problem of mine

Hi iloveeveryone! I'm sorry you've had to stop hanging out with your friend, it sounds like you were pretty close. You definitely aren't being dramatic and your feelings are valid. It isn't fair that because the people around you don't understand the physical affection, you can't display it. Did you...
by Sofi
Wed Apr 27, 2022 1:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know I'm not missing red flags?
Replies: 16
Views: 618

Re: How do I know I'm not missing red flags?

What you're describing doesn't sound like gaslighting, although I have no way to know for sure, but it sounds like simple misunderstandings that happen between people. Same with the amount of time you spend together - spending a lot of time together, and "a lot" is relative, isn't inherent...
by Sofi
Wed Apr 27, 2022 1:27 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Polyam Relationship Advice
Replies: 73
Views: 980

Re: Polyam Relationship Advice

Hi Mixxes, I hope it's okay if I jump in. I'll be honest, what you're going through is something I can relate to quite a bit, so I hope I have some good advice but also my greatest advice here is to follow your heart (as corny as that sounds). I also want to just give you space to vent, if that's wh...

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