There are a few articles or advice columns that have helpful info; none are specifically only about romantic loneliness, but they touch on that subject. This one was written by Mo: Are relationships really as complicated as people make them out to be? This one is about being a lesbian and lonely, bu...

This definitely makes sense. It's normal for people to want to be single yet feel lonely, and miss things such as physical intimacy, both romantic and sexual. You know it's good not to suppress them, but it's also not good to act on them. Coping mechanisms (healthy ones) are important to keep under ...

Hi BuddyBoi21! I'm sorry to hear about the breakup, I know it had been something floating in the back of your mind for a bit but it was hard to make that final decision. My opinion is always that if a relationship doesn't feel all the way 'right', and you're having lots of doubts about it, it's not ...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! The good thing about labels regarding sexuality is that only WE can determine which ones to use. It sounds like you could certainly identify as queer or bi/pansexual, but if you feel like that doesn't apply, it's entirely up to you what to use instead. I personally f...

Something I started implementing a few years ago, and have practiced more during the pandemic, is letting my loved ones know that if I don't have the emotional capacity to support them at a specific time, I will simply say so, with the promise to come back to them when I do. So when they come to me ...

I'm so sorry you dealt with all of that, especially at such a young age when being picked on matters a lot. You shouldn't feel gullible for not knowing your best friend was lying to you, that could happen to anyone and it isn't your fault! Also as a side note, arachnophobia is serious and people of ...

Hi there, I want to begin with a gentle reminder that labels for our sexuality exist to make things easier for us and provide space and community. They should feel like they fit, and provide comfort. If you don't feel that connection to a label (aromantic in this case), you don't have to use it and ...

You're welcome!

Hi there, welcome to the boards. I understand break-ups can be hard, especially with someone who is also a close friend. Remember you have to put your own well-being first, so as much as you're trying to avoid hurting her (which is good and a sign you do care!), you also need to take care of your ow...

Hi Hedvig, I am so sorry to hear you went through that experience and are now feeling this way. I'm also super glad to hear your new partner is caring and respects your boundaries. You are definitely not damaged or dirty. It is, however, normal for people who have been through sexual assault or coer...

Hi belled, Honestly, I don't think this is "weird" or out of line. First of all, you are clearly aware of this being a crush and not an actual relationship, and also you're respectful of boundaries. Sure, you spend a lot of time thinking about her, but you respect her when you do talk to h...

Putting in my 2 cents: movies/TV shows. She might be a bit young for some of them right now, that's up to you of course, but as she enters her pre-teens and teens it's important she has access to a wide variety of Queer cinema. When I was younger, my parents wouldn't let me watch media that had same...

Honestly, I will suggest talking to your mom about getting a new healthcare provider, particularly a new gynecologist. It isn't recommended to have your own family member be your doctor, for several reasons, and in this case it worries me that her machine isn't working so you're experiencing a delay...

You're right, it's not fair to judge poly relationships or poly people. It's definitely 'normal' to want that, and isn't wrong at all. The importance here is that this must be communicated clearly to any and all partners. If you're not crystal clear about your wants and needs, it could easily lead t...

That makes sense, and it's valid for you to want to be extra careful. It's good you're using double contraceptive methods, but it also means you should ease the anxiety over your mishap in September. You are doing great and are protected, so try to worry less about what happened back then!

I'm sorry you've been feeling targeted from several sides, for both your sexual orientation and your political views. I want you to try to ignore people who say things like "you emulate gay energy" because that is not worth giving your attention and time to. You don't have to lie to people...

You're not wrong that it might end up that way, of course it might seem like that to them. However, they might also appreciate you opening up and being honest and vulnerable in a way. You can make sure you reitirate that you're not blaming them for it at all, this is simply you sharing so they know ...

Hi there, welcome to the boards. When you engage in physical intimacy involving genitals, especially unprotected sex specifically, there is always a risk of getting STIs. The risk exists even when you're in a relationship, and even if you're not having penetrative sex. That being said, always use pr...

I want to invite you to consider being vulnerable with him and either letting him see you cry during your favorite episode, or even letting your friend tell him about some goofy things you two have done. Most times if someone likes you, they will not care and even will appreciate you being open and ...

I understand being sort of 'weirded out' by our fantasies or desires, or ones we didn't realize we perhaps had, coming to life. However, what you're describing is definitely not weird or crazy, so I'm glad you enjoyed it and are glad it happened. I know you still have some reservations about it, is ...

I'm sorry it's been hard, and you're not alone in feeling overwhelmed by 2020. Glad this thread is back to life. I hope you, and everyone reading this, have a wonderful 2021 <3

If you're feeling hesitant, like maybe he's struggling more than he's telling you, it might be a good idea to give it another week or so (if you feel you're able to wait more). You can also ask him - something along the lines of, "I know things are tough right now so I don't want to add any str...

Hi Lozza223, and welcome to the boards! I want to start off by saying there is definitely nothing wrong with you and what you're experiencing is more common than you'd think. Now, I know that won't necessarily make you feel better right away, but I think it's important for you to keep in mind. To sp...

It's definitely a good idea to talk to him about it so it's not heavy on your mind anymore and it should ease a lot of the stress. Also, as you said, it's important he understands the 'why' behind some things that may affect him so that he can support you as best as he can. I want to give you props ...

These are awesome suggestions! I tried some of these with my partner as well and they definitely helped. It also just helps knowing so many of us are feeling this way and are in this together.<3