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by Sofi
Thu Feb 11, 2021 7:54 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Polyamorous
Replies: 2
Views: 125

Re: Polyamorous

You're right, it's not fair to judge poly relationships or poly people. It's definitely 'normal' to want that, and isn't wrong at all. The importance here is that this must be communicated clearly to any and all partners. If you're not crystal clear about your wants and needs, it could easily lead t...
by Sofi
Wed Feb 10, 2021 10:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth Control Fear
Replies: 9
Views: 1016

Re: Birth Control Fear

That makes sense, and it's valid for you to want to be extra careful. It's good you're using double contraceptive methods, but it also means you should ease the anxiety over your mishap in September. You are doing great and are protected, so try to worry less about what happened back then!
by Sofi
Wed Feb 10, 2021 9:52 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Gay Energy
Replies: 3
Views: 82

Re: Gay Energy

I'm sorry you've been feeling targeted from several sides, for both your sexual orientation and your political views. I want you to try to ignore people who say things like "you emulate gay energy" because that is not worth giving your attention and time to. You don't have to lie to people...
by Sofi
Wed Feb 10, 2021 9:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Always Come Back
Replies: 10
Views: 192

Re: Always Come Back

You're not wrong that it might end up that way, of course it might seem like that to them. However, they might also appreciate you opening up and being honest and vulnerable in a way. You can make sure you reitirate that you're not blaming them for it at all, this is simply you sharing so they know ...
by Sofi
Wed Jan 20, 2021 10:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: STDs
Replies: 1
Views: 799

Re: STDs

Hi there, welcome to the boards. When you engage in physical intimacy involving genitals, especially unprotected sex specifically, there is always a risk of getting STIs. The risk exists even when you're in a relationship, and even if you're not having penetrative sex. That being said, always use pr...
by Sofi
Wed Jan 20, 2021 9:39 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares
Replies: 39
Views: 1517

Re: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares

I want to invite you to consider being vulnerable with him and either letting him see you cry during your favorite episode, or even letting your friend tell him about some goofy things you two have done. Most times if someone likes you, they will not care and even will appreciate you being open and ...
by Sofi
Mon Jan 18, 2021 10:39 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares
Replies: 39
Views: 1517

Re: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares

I understand being sort of 'weirded out' by our fantasies or desires, or ones we didn't realize we perhaps had, coming to life. However, what you're describing is definitely not weird or crazy, so I'm glad you enjoyed it and are glad it happened. I know you still have some reservations about it, is ...
by Sofi
Mon Jan 18, 2021 10:31 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: How is Everyone?
Replies: 9
Views: 2240

Re: How is Everyone?

I'm sorry it's been hard, and you're not alone in feeling overwhelmed by 2020. Glad this thread is back to life. I hope you, and everyone reading this, have a wonderful 2021 <3
by Sofi
Wed Jan 13, 2021 11:30 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 928

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

If you're feeling hesitant, like maybe he's struggling more than he's telling you, it might be a good idea to give it another week or so (if you feel you're able to wait more). You can also ask him - something along the lines of, "I know things are tough right now so I don't want to add any str...
by Sofi
Tue Jan 12, 2021 6:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unable to orgasm
Replies: 1
Views: 306

Re: Unable to orgasm

Hi Lozza223, and welcome to the boards! I want to start off by saying there is definitely nothing wrong with you and what you're experiencing is more common than you'd think. Now, I know that won't necessarily make you feel better right away, but I think it's important for you to keep in mind. To sp...
by Sofi
Tue Jan 12, 2021 5:00 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 928

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

It's definitely a good idea to talk to him about it so it's not heavy on your mind anymore and it should ease a lot of the stress. Also, as you said, it's important he understands the 'why' behind some things that may affect him so that he can support you as best as he can. I want to give you props ...
by Sofi
Wed Jan 06, 2021 4:41 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Sex drive in a COVID winter
Replies: 2
Views: 228

Re: Sex drive in a COVID winter

These are awesome suggestions! I tried some of these with my partner as well and they definitely helped. It also just helps knowing so many of us are feeling this way and are in this together.<3
by Sofi
Sat Jan 02, 2021 5:07 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Something missing?
Replies: 4
Views: 580

Re: Something missing?

Hi Susan, Long distance relationships can be hard, especially during a pandemic, so it's understandable you feel something is missing since you can't see him. It's not the same being able to talk to them every day. Just know you're not alone in this and video calls where you do activities "toge...
by Sofi
Mon Dec 28, 2020 8:42 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 1609

Re: I think I'm ready

That makes a lot of sense, and I'm glad you're not pressuring yourself into doing anything you're not comfortable with. It's perfectly fine to take your time to figure out what works well for you in terms of masturbation and also how it relates to body dysmorphia. Stay focused on what gives you body...
by Sofi
Mon Dec 28, 2020 8:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Dysmorphia or Pregnancy?
Replies: 5
Views: 424

Re: Dysmorphia or Pregnancy?

That's a really great method, I can totally see that working! Everything you said is right, too, so definitely focus on those things since that helps you calm those nerves. Like Al said, staying in that limbo isn't helpful, but it sounds like you have the tools to dig yourself out sometimes. I sugge...
by Sofi
Sat Dec 26, 2020 7:08 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 3063

Re: Sexual outlets

Just wanted to echo Mo here and say I'm really glad to hear your new medication is going well and your journey in sexual self exploration is going great. <3
by Sofi
Sat Dec 26, 2020 7:05 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 1609

Re: I think I'm ready

I'm really glad to hear you have a healthy relationship with your weight now. You're so right, screw stressing about it! In regards to the body dysmorphia, I'm so sorry you're experiencing that feeling when you look in the mirror. It's good news that you're able to identify it and have a quick solut...
by Sofi
Thu Dec 24, 2020 8:39 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Question About Conctrecption
Replies: 9
Views: 770

Re: Question About Conctrecption

Using just the withdrawal method on its own is considered high risk because of the possibility of fluid exchange that could lead to pregnancy. Of course it's an even higher risk if ejaculation happens right after withdrawal, but even if withdrawal happens way before ejaculation, it's very risky with...
by Sofi
Sat Dec 12, 2020 2:22 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate
Replies: 10
Views: 1294

Re: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate

Got it. I definitely recommend sort of "getting out of your head" if possible, because once it goes away and you are no longer turned on, it might be more difficult and knowing this usually happens makes it more likely to happen, so it can turn into a cycle. Sort of like a self-fulfilling ...
by Sofi
Fri Dec 11, 2020 6:42 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate
Replies: 10
Views: 1294

Re: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate

Hi there, it does sound like you have a clitoris on the smaller side, which is normal, but you should still be able to feel it when you're aroused. It's usually a pretty distinct feeling when you come in direct contact with it. It might help to make sure you're feeling for it right between the top o...
by Sofi
Wed Dec 09, 2020 9:37 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Confused about my orientation again
Replies: 5
Views: 459

Re: Confused about my orientation again

I feel like labeling ourselves with one short term and sticking to it forever is unrealistic, since for so many of us, sexuality and gender identity change and fluctuate over time. Your sexual orientation label is entirely up to you: you can choose something broad like queer and stick to that, regar...
by Sofi
Wed Dec 09, 2020 9:08 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I'm frustrated
Replies: 2
Views: 282

Re: I'm frustrated

Hi Hel, I understand your frustration and it's totally valid to be feeling that way. Many of us have found ourselves in what is basically a long distance relationship that we didn't agree to go into. What helps me is knowing that we have all this awesome technology we can use for now to stay connect...
by Sofi
Fri Dec 04, 2020 2:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: my friend is probably bi and a little in denial
Replies: 1
Views: 1243

Re: my friend is probably bi and a little in denial

Hi confusedinlove, It seems your friend might be bisexual based off what you said, but remember how we choose to identify is up to us. If he identifies as straight, whether it be for now or forever, then he is straight for all intended purposes. However, the reason I said he might be bi is because h...
by Sofi
Wed Dec 02, 2020 7:47 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: why does it take me so long to orgasm?
Replies: 1
Views: 1589

Re: why does it take me so long to orgasm?

Hi zodiakku, It's not uncommon at all! It's far more common in people with a vulva than people with a penis, but can happen to either. It's often related to how comfortable and relaxed you are in the moment, which is partly why it is easier for most people to orgasm alone than with a partner. With m...
by Sofi
Wed Dec 02, 2020 6:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
Replies: 51
Views: 3663

Re: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?

I don't think it's fair for you to judge yourself harshly as a bad girlfriend because your requirements for time and attention are different. If you are treating her well, with respect and care, wanting boundaries doesn't make you a bad girlfriend. Unfortunately we do sometimes have different needs ...

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