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by Urna
Sat Sep 18, 2021 7:20 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Is this a normal trauma response?
Replies: 2
Views: 32

Re: Is this a normal trauma response?

Hello KC, I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through these confusing emotional reactions to the memory of your abuser. It may comfort you to know that this is a very normal trauma response, and exceedingly common among survivors. Emotions are unpredictable and multilayered, but actually, the fac...
by Urna
Sun Sep 12, 2021 1:00 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: masturbation isn't working anymore?
Replies: 1
Views: 88

Re: masturbation isn't working anymore?

Hello utgard! I'm sorry that masturbation feels nowhere near as good as it used to, despite your trying things like porn and smut, and I can understand the frustration you're undergoing. First off, I want to let you know that it's completely normal to have spells where masturbation and sex don't fee...
by Urna
Tue Sep 07, 2021 3:43 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I need some boyfriend advice
Replies: 5
Views: 89

Re: I need some boyfriend advice

Hey Knightness, We're a 20-something year old sex and relationship education website with a user base that reports similar kinds of problems, so we have tons and tons of articles with comprehensive and research-based information that we can direct our users to, instead of reinventing the wheel every...
by Urna
Tue Sep 07, 2021 2:56 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 11
Views: 222

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

It looks like you've worked hard to heal yourself and break down the misplaced self-blame. I hope today's appointment goes as well as it can, and that your breathing and muscle relaxation exercises lessen the intensity of the flashbacks. It's wonderful that you've not been struggling with flashbacks...
by Urna
Mon Sep 06, 2021 1:27 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 11
Views: 222

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

Hello Jess99, Like Sam, I am deeply sorry that you're going through this, and I really hope that your healthcare providers accommodate your trigger in some way next time. If anything, I'm ashamed I didn't leave him right away. I'm ashamed I didn't say anything sooner for him to stop. I can understan...
by Urna
Sun Sep 05, 2021 7:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Does this cause pregnancy?
Replies: 1
Views: 180

Re: Does this cause pregnancy?

Hello Sammysam, and welcome to Scarleteen. What your boyfriend did will not cause an infection. Unfortunately, we will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services with users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not been otherwise directly involved with an a...
by Urna
Sun Sep 05, 2021 3:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is my vagina too tight?
Replies: 3
Views: 157

Re: Is my vagina too tight?

Hello cyanolove, and welcome to Scarleteen! There is no such thing as a vagina being too tight. Here's a quote from an article on "tightness" that we have on here explaining why putting things inside of yourself is painful right now: "When a person with a vagina is aroused sufficientl...
by Urna
Sun Sep 05, 2021 2:41 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Pressure to come out?
Replies: 5
Views: 176

Re: Pressure to come out?

Hi Raffles, Jumping in to say that I relate hard to what you're going through, it can feel super uncomfortable to realize that that kind of personal information is available to people that you haven't personally made it available to. I also relate to your realization that it isn't really possible to...
by Urna
Tue Aug 31, 2021 4:09 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is this normal, or even right?
Replies: 9
Views: 277

Re: Is this normal, or even right?

Hello, and welcome to Scarleteen! First off, I want to let you know that this is definitely the sort of thing we're here to help you with on the boards, so you're in the right place. I'm sorry to hear that you've been having a bad time of it over the past few years, regarding masturbation and sexual...
by Urna
Sun Aug 29, 2021 12:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman
Replies: 28
Views: 439

Re: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman

Hi Rubix! I hope it's alright that I respond to these questions you addressed to Marisha, because she isn't on shift right now. Lube of any kind is safe to use with panties on. And since Astroglide is water-based, laundering the lube-soaked panties will be easy as well. There is no such thing as too...
by Urna
Thu Aug 19, 2021 10:09 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Masturbating does not feel good at all??
Replies: 15
Views: 574

Re: Masturbating does not feel good at all??

Oh no, I'm sorry to hear that none of the suggestions in that article were helpful. Could you tell me what kinds of toys you've tried (if any) by the way? Have you attempted combining types of stimulation (for example, anal penetration combined with clitoral stimulation using a vibrator, etc.)?
by Urna
Thu Aug 19, 2021 9:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condom Failure? Questions
Replies: 3
Views: 178

Re: Condom Failure? Questions

Great, I'm glad you found the root of the issue! Most non-latex condoms (specifically polyurethane condoms, because few people use lambskin condoms [which aren't very effective at all]) are less stretchy than latex condoms are, plus they have a looser fit, and are thus prone to breakage or slippage....
by Urna
Thu Aug 19, 2021 8:45 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Discomfort w parents thoughts on "short clothes"
Replies: 5
Views: 206

Re: Discomfort w parents thoughts on "short clothes"

Hello iloveeveryone, I'm sorry that you're surrounded by this super upsetting mindset, and that the right outlet for making your position clear never seems to appear when you're talking to your dad about it. Instead of telling you what your opinion about this should be, I want to point out to you th...
by Urna
Thu Aug 19, 2021 8:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pain after dry humping
Replies: 1
Views: 180

Re: Pain after dry humping

Hello Hunter, and welcome to Scarleteen! Unfortunately, we will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services with users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not been otherwise directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of questi...
by Urna
Thu Aug 19, 2021 8:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condom Failure? Questions
Replies: 3
Views: 178

Re: Condom Failure? Questions

Hello Toritundra, and welcome to Scarleteen! If the condom is slipping off in the ways you described, it's condom failure in the sense that it's not working like it should. I'd recommend going through this guide: Condom Basics: A User's Manual to ensure that you're taking all the right steps. I thin...
by Urna
Thu Aug 19, 2021 7:15 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Masturbating does not feel good at all??
Replies: 15
Views: 574

Re: Masturbating does not feel good at all??

Hello venus<3, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm so sorry that you're in this confusing and frustrating space right now. Not feeling pleasure or orgasming while masturbating or during partnered sex is a very common problem, especially among people with vaginas. While it sucks, different things feel ple...
by Urna
Thu Aug 19, 2021 7:02 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm torn about which gender I want to date...
Replies: 3
Views: 333

Re: I'm torn about which gender I want to date...

Hello Hel! Many bi and pan people feel different sorts of attraction for different people. It's possible that you're attracted to women romantically but not sexually (or at least not as sexually into them as you are into men), while you're attracted to men both romantically and sexually. And that's ...
by Urna
Thu Jul 29, 2021 7:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is it possible for me to be lesbian and aroace at the same time?
Replies: 1
Views: 430

Re: Is it possible for me to be lesbian and aroace at the same time?

Hello mdnghtsechs, and welcome to Scarleteen! It is absolutely possible to be lesbian and aro-ace, yes. Like you said, you experience platonic and aesthetic attraction (which means that you're aro-ace) to girls and women (which means that you're lesbian). It's as simple as that. Being lesbian is not...
by Urna
Thu Jul 29, 2021 7:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity
Replies: 8
Views: 699

Re: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity

Hello iloveeveryone, and welcome to Scarleteen! I understand that this is a stressful situation to be in, for both you and your sibling. I'm sorry that you're going through this uncertainty regarding your parents' reaction to your sibling's sexuality. No age is too young to know one's sexual identit...
by Urna
Thu Jul 29, 2021 6:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Knowing that this is a safe space
Replies: 13
Views: 1023

Re: Knowing that this is a safe space

Hello! I'm going to address a couple of your questions in this post, starting with the last. Casual sex is not a morally bad thing. As long as there is mutual consent and respect, and everyone involved is on the same page about the fact that what's happening isn't romantic, you're good to go! A good...
by Urna
Mon Jul 26, 2021 8:12 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I don't know if I should start a new relationship or not
Replies: 3
Views: 412

Re: I don't know if I should start a new relationship or not

Hi! I read through your thread, and it sounds like you're in an exciting new situation with Rigo, even if it's just flirtation right now. However, like you said, you're still not over your ex, who was super inconsiderate of you near the end of your relationship and left you hurting. In the interest ...
by Urna
Mon Jul 19, 2021 11:41 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
Replies: 11
Views: 2666

Re: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed

That sounds amazing, Hel. I'm sure you'll build something truly beautiful, as a community!
by Urna
Mon Jul 19, 2021 11:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 106
Views: 30230

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hello sandpiper! Happy 70th post in this thread! I read through it, and I'm so happy for you and your progress, and all the wonderful exploring-sexuality things that await you this summer. I'm sorry that solo masturbation has become a task more than anything, for you. You wrote out your thoughts abo...
by Urna
Thu Jul 08, 2021 9:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?
Replies: 6
Views: 519

Re: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?

Also, about the Am I A Lesbian masterdoc: while it's a landmark resource for many WLWs, it doesn't hurt to reiterate that it was made by a teenager. A very intelligent and articulate teenager, but still a teenager. The document has no academic or professional legitimacy, and it has been charged, mos...
by Urna
Thu Jul 08, 2021 9:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?
Replies: 6
Views: 519

Re: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?

Sure thing. The Queer Muslim Project on Instagram has a number of wonderful resources, and you can find community here among the people whose testimonials are featured, as well as other queer Muslim youth who follow the page. Here's PFLAG'S Faith Resources for Queer Muslims , where you will find lin...

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