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by Urna
Sun Nov 28, 2021 7:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Managed to do it a bit
Replies: 5
Views: 157

Re: Managed to do it a bit

Hi misokosou,

That's a great idea! Sex, whether solo or partnered, should only be about pleasure, and not about conforming or battling FOMO. Good for you on deciding to take a break from trying.
by Urna
Sun Nov 28, 2021 7:29 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness
Replies: 19
Views: 748

Re: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness

Hey, good to have you back kokopeg! You don't have to make a whole new post, this is fine. On the one hand, I'm glad that you've gotten back to masturbation, and that it was fun the first time. On the other, it's really unfortunate that it left you feeling so upset the second time. Before we go any ...
by Urna
Sun Nov 28, 2021 7:19 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: GF is ace, unsure of what to do
Replies: 17
Views: 327

Re: GF is ace, unsure of what to do

Hi Spider Queen, I read through your thread, and I'm really sorry about this breakup. It's great, though, that you've been honest with each other about your expectations and current needs. How do you feel about them saying that they still like you, but not necessarily romantically? Is it comforting ...
by Urna
Sun Nov 28, 2021 7:02 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I can only masturbate in one way?
Replies: 5
Views: 262

Re: I can only masturbate in one way?

Hello! Please don't feel inexperienced or embarrassed, the things we're talking about aren't very well-known at all! There are a bunch of stereotypical ways to masturbate that everyone grows up seeing and hearing about, which don't work for many of us out there, and I think it's worth celebrating th...
by Urna
Sat Nov 27, 2021 7:42 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: How do you deal with change?
Replies: 2
Views: 100

Re: How do you deal with change?

Hi spottedowl! Congratulations on steadily moving forward from what sounds like a horribly overwhelming phase in your life. It's clear that you've thought quite carefully about yourself, your needs, and your surroundings, and that's very inspiring to see. Your Sleeping Beauty analogy is quite apt; m...
by Urna
Sat Nov 27, 2021 6:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Books on reproduction
Replies: 7
Views: 172

Re: Books on reproduction

Hello Somesh! I completely understand where you're coming from. Luckily, there are good telehealth services available in our country, and many of them are free. Here's a short list, in order of preference:- 1) iCALL Helpline is a free helpline and chat counselling service run by the School of Human ...
by Urna
Sun Nov 21, 2021 10:50 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Teen sexually attracted to predatory adults
Replies: 5
Views: 152

Re: Teen sexually attracted to pedophiles

Hi mondilebel, and welcome to Scarleteen. You may have noticed that I've removed a word from your original post--I did that because that word attracts horrible trolls to our website, so don't think you did anything wrong by using it! I'm deeply sorry that you went through such a horrible experience,...
by Urna
Sun Nov 21, 2021 8:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: boyfriend issue?
Replies: 13
Views: 322

Re: boyfriend issue?

Hello Cecilia, I read through your thread, and I must echo Elise: it is 100% not OK that he coerces you into sexual activity, and it's absolutely not true that that's what girlfriends "have to do". Him telling you that you have to do stuff you don't want to do is sexual assault, like Elise...
by Urna
Sun Nov 07, 2021 10:20 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How do I stop being so shallow?
Replies: 7
Views: 269

Re: How do I stop being so shallow?

Hello wolfcub, What are some ways that you've tried to expand your opportunities, aside from the dating site strategy you mentioned? Sorry to hear that it seems like you're stuck in a loop of some sort with regard to finding romantic links that stick. You spoke of your inexperience, and how that's w...
by Urna
Sun Nov 07, 2021 10:08 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 67
Views: 1104

Re: Masterbating

That is quite understandable! Fingers crossed that the procedure goes smoothly.
by Urna
Sun Nov 07, 2021 7:52 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Chinese language resources
Replies: 4
Views: 322

Re: Chinese language resources

Hello mjlurks,

That sounds fun! Glad to hear that the language barrier isn't too much of an issue.
by Urna
Sat Nov 06, 2021 3:56 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 67
Views: 1104

Re: Masterbating

Hello Kyle,

Hope the exam went OK. Are you nervous about the ultrasound?
by Urna
Sat Nov 06, 2021 3:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 60
Views: 1011

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hi sky! I hear what you're saying, and I can appreciate just how hard it must be to get in touch with your feelings as an adult, after having had them consistently sidelined in childhood. Would you mind elaborating on why you're afraid people will be angry if you don't disclose your virginity to the...
by Urna
Thu Oct 28, 2021 7:29 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness
Replies: 19
Views: 748

Re: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness

Hello kokoPeg, please don't apologize for bringing something else in, that's what we're here for! I'm really sorry that you're experiencing so much distress around masturbation. It sucks, truly. And I think you're right--stopping for the time being sounds like the best thing to do. You're not being ...
by Urna
Thu Oct 28, 2021 7:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: is it normal?
Replies: 2
Views: 236

Re: is it normal?

Hello amiela12, and welcome to Scarleteen! Could you tell me if the numbness feels like having pins and needles in your feet and hands? Or is there zero feeling? It's normal for some body parts to tingle during sex, which we can sometimes misinterpret as numbness. It happens because our breathing ch...
by Urna
Sat Oct 23, 2021 11:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Where is my withdrawal bleed?
Replies: 4
Views: 283

Re: Where is my withdrawal bleed?

If you keep taking your pills regularly, your endometrium will thin out the same way every month, and you won't experience much of a bleed. It's safe for the endometrium to be thin, because all that that means is that you can't get pregnant, which is your goal here. A thin endometrium is usually a p...
by Urna
Mon Oct 18, 2021 11:51 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: X girl
Replies: 2
Views: 448

Re: X girl

Hello aven1861, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm really sorry to hear that you're hurting. I relate to the frustration and uncertainty that being in a "situationship" brings, especially when you're the only one trying to make it work. You've done the right thing, though, by putting an end to...
by Urna
Mon Oct 11, 2021 4:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Easily-aroused Clitoris
Replies: 3
Views: 431

Re: Easily-aroused Clitoris

Great, glad we helped!
by Urna
Mon Oct 11, 2021 4:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Took my pill late
Replies: 1
Views: 231

Re: Took my pill late

Hey Juliaho90,

Since you've been taking the pill religiously since then, there should be no need for additional protection. You'll be fine. Please read this document for more information: https://health.cornell.edu/sites/health ... l-pill.pdf.
by Urna
Mon Oct 11, 2021 4:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: New here
Replies: 3
Views: 384

Re: New here

Hello perfectionist, and welcome to Scarleteen! You've come to the right place to learn about sex and the body. However, the channel you've posted on (called "Ask Us!") is restricted viewing--only our staff and volunteers can see and reply to your post. This channel is for user-to-staff di...
by Urna
Mon Oct 11, 2021 4:25 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation troubles
Replies: 14
Views: 752

Re: Masturbation troubles

That sounds lovely! I have no doubt that that'll help redirect your energies. Creativity sparks major joy.
by Urna
Sun Oct 10, 2021 1:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: New here with a couple questions
Replies: 4
Views: 421

Re: New here with a couple questions

Also, to answer your question on sex toys and minors: there isn't an official age limit on sex toys per se, they're not like alcohol in that sense. However, accessing sex toys can be difficult for minors because most sex store shops wouldn't allow (in some places, unaccompanied) minors in. You could...
by Urna
Sun Oct 10, 2021 1:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Easily-aroused Clitoris
Replies: 3
Views: 431

Re: Easily-aroused Clitoris

Hello Bethanie, and welcome to Scarleteen. Clitorises come in all shapes and sizes, and if we took into account a clitoris' internal size as well as its external size, it is nearly as large as a penis, as this article will tell you: Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus, and More . It's ...
by Urna
Fri Oct 08, 2021 11:30 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation troubles
Replies: 14
Views: 752

Re: Masturbation troubles

You've worded it very well, I'm glad that the articles helped you articulate what's probably going on. Are any positive outlets coming to mind, wrt developing a more intimate relationship with full-body pleasure? What activities bring you joy, or have historically brought you joy?
by Urna
Wed Oct 06, 2021 5:59 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation troubles
Replies: 14
Views: 752

Re: Masturbation troubles

Hey hello_world! It sucks that you don't have locks available to you, I totally understand how that kills masturbation prospects. And yes, if you're concerned that your mom may enter your room unannounced at any point, that's definitely a mood ruiner, along with the fact that she already thinks you ...

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