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by Urna
Sun Apr 24, 2022 8:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Past of boyfriend
Replies: 11
Views: 474

Re: Past of boyfriend

Hi sakshimi, I'm very sorry to hear that you're having such a distressing time. There is no single answer as to whether the masturbation incident was morally wrong, but what's important here is how it makes *you* feel. If his act is something you can't overlook, you have every right to not go ahead ...
by Urna
Sun Apr 24, 2022 7:24 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Urinating when I am horny
Replies: 5
Views: 530

Re: Urinating when I am horny

If you feel the urge to urinate and the stream of liquid comes out in a steady flow, instead of gushing or shooting out, I think it is probably just urine. And yes, maybe because you're concentrating more on the genital area and thereabouts, you subconsciously get reminded of other functions that go...
by Urna
Sun Apr 17, 2022 9:25 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 932

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hello Buddyboi21, Everything you've said and the decisions that you've made are perfectly clear, yes! I'm really sorry to hear that you've had a horrid invalidating time of it during your last few therapy appointments. Highly understandable, too, that experiencing that sort of ableist toxicity from ...
by Urna
Sun Apr 10, 2022 7:53 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Learning to open up
Replies: 13
Views: 1819

Re: Learning to open up

Hello again, Raffles! Everything you said here makes perfect sense, don't worry. Sorry to hear, though, that you've been having a hard time coming to terms with your decision to let that person know about your secret. I know how overwhelming the seesawing can be between "I'm so glad I was vulne...
by Urna
Sun Mar 13, 2022 10:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Getting tears in eyes
Replies: 12
Views: 1457

Re: Getting tears in eyes

You're welcome, let us know if you have any questions!
by Urna
Sun Mar 13, 2022 11:10 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can't orgasm with my boyfriend
Replies: 5
Views: 1126

Re: Can't orgasm with my boyfriend

Hi Melanie, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm sorry that you're in this upsetting situation. It's true that orgasms shouldn't be considered the end goal of sex, but it's so valid to want to orgasm together, and to share that wonderful feeling with someone you love. Would you mind going into a little mo...
by Urna
Sun Mar 13, 2022 11:05 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can’t find my clit
Replies: 2
Views: 1275

Re: Can’t find my clit

Hi, welcome to Scarleteen! The clitoris is a very long organ, and most of it is internal. In full, internal and external combined, it's almost the same size as the penis. The part that is external is called the glans, and it is under that hood that you mentioned. Your clitoris may be smaller, which ...
by Urna
Sun Mar 13, 2022 10:39 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: A Friend Hasn't Been Using Condoms for Intercourse: Should I Be Concerned?
Replies: 3
Views: 3210

Re: A Friend Hasn't Been Using Condoms for Intercourse: Should I Be Concerned?

You'd know your situation best. Whenever it comes up, Sian's advice will be useful for navigating that situation, I think.
by Urna
Sun Mar 13, 2022 10:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Getting tears in eyes
Replies: 12
Views: 1457

Re: Getting tears in eyes

This article will be super helpful to you: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexu ... sers_guide
by Urna
Sun Mar 13, 2022 10:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Boobs
Replies: 10
Views: 1391

Re: Boobs

Speaking from personal experience, it may help to seek out role models with small breasts, such as actresses, models, celebrities, or just people in your life whom you find beautiful. There are so many gorgeous people with small breasts!
by Urna
Sat Mar 12, 2022 8:35 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: High Sex Drive?
Replies: 8
Views: 3733

Re: High Sex Drive?

Hello, This is helpful, thanks. May I ask what you usually do to stop thinking about sexual things? How do you distract yourself from the distraction, in other words? What works, and what doesn't? If you don't have answers to this yet, here are some suggestions. Things like homework and chores are o...
by Urna
Sat Mar 12, 2022 8:29 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Feels like Ejaculate is Stuck in my Urethra
Replies: 13
Views: 2368

Re: Feels like Ejaculate is Stuck in my Urethra

Hey TS6249, Good to hear that you'll be seeing a doctor about this. Unfortunately, since we're not medical professionals, we can't give you a completely reliable answer to your question about curvature, but treatment is usually only necessary when the curvature is 30 degrees or more. Your doctor wil...
by Urna
Sat Mar 12, 2022 8:21 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Boobs
Replies: 10
Views: 1391

Re: Boobs

There you go! Wearing affirming clothing is always such a boost.
by Urna
Sat Mar 12, 2022 8:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Giving but not receiving
Replies: 1
Views: 376

Re: Giving but not receiving

Hi pnkmilk, This sounds like a really difficult situation to be in, and I'm sorry that you're going through it. This is clearly not a sexually satisfying relationship for you (at least, not yet), but I'm glad that you two have had conversations about it and tried out apps and stuff to help with your...
by Urna
Mon Feb 21, 2022 12:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: im not sure what to do about my weightgain urges
Replies: 9
Views: 2106

Re: im not sure what to do about my weightgain urges

Hello amysands, and welcome to Scarleteen! I understand how confusing it must be to have such conflicting thoughts about gaining weight, and I'm sorry to hear that this has been a long-term difficulty. I should say here that weight gain fantasies are extremely common, and there is nothing wrong with...
by Urna
Sun Feb 20, 2022 8:56 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Antidepressants and sexual health
Replies: 3
Views: 2127

Re: Antidepressants and sexual health

Hi hello_world,

Yes, Paroxetine does inhibit orgasm and arousal. It's highly probable that going off SSRIs will change things, as you said, so good luck!
by Urna
Sun Feb 20, 2022 8:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I hate touching myself but it feels too good
Replies: 3
Views: 2383

Re: I hate touching myself but it feels too good

Hello Vivi, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm sorry that you're having such intense feelings of shame and guilt around masturbation (which, you're right, is a completely normal, healthy, and pleasurable human experience). The first thing I want you to know is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with...
by Urna
Sun Feb 20, 2022 8:43 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: period shame/embarrassment
Replies: 7
Views: 3354

Re: period shame/embarrassment

Don't mention it, that's what we're here for! Period shame can be a heavy burden, and I'm glad that with your partner, you finally have a space to be more open and unbothered about your periods. "On the Rag" (the article I'd linked you to in my previous response) goes briefly into the hist...
by Urna
Sat Feb 19, 2022 10:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Difficulties with penetrative sex
Replies: 1
Views: 1448

Re: Difficulties with penetrative sex

Hi uberscuba, and welcome to Scarleteen! There is absolutely nothing wrong with you physically for not enjoying vaginal intercourse the one time you tried it. Vaginal pain during penetration is sadly extremely common, but there are solutions available for most people going through this, which we wil...
by Urna
Sat Feb 19, 2022 8:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I can't find my vagina!
Replies: 5
Views: 2761

Re: I can't find my vagina!

Hi a369, I'm sorry to hear that your parents wouldn't be super comfortable talking about reproductive health, given their upbringing. It's heartbreaking how common this attitude is. I'm also sorry about that incident before, where the GP's office called your parents about your health issue without y...
by Urna
Sat Feb 19, 2022 7:52 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: period shame/embarrassment
Replies: 7
Views: 3354

Re: period shame/embarrassment

Hi dollparties! It's completely alright to ask us multiple questions in a single post! And the more detail you give us, the easier it is to respond to your issue, so thanks for saying lots! I relate hugely to the disposal problem you're going through, because I've had similar experiences growing up....
by Urna
Sun Jan 30, 2022 6:56 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: When I try to finger myself I don’t feel stimulated
Replies: 9
Views: 20646

Re: When I try to finger myself I don’t feel stimulated

Hello Rose_confused, For fingering advice, please scroll up to the first response in this thread, by Elise. If you're scared three fingers are going to hurt, try using lube. If it still hurts, take it slow, and just proceed with two fingers. The number of fingers doesn't necessarily increase the amo...
by Urna
Sun Jan 23, 2022 8:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unhealthy relationship?
Replies: 23
Views: 1965

Re: Unhealthy relationship?

Hello waterhyacinth, I'm going to respond to the fear you spoke of, regarding being "destined to end up in a bad relationship" if you've been in an abusive relationship before. Thank you for bringing that up. I want to assure you that this is not a general rule, by any means, and usually, ...
by Urna
Sat Jan 22, 2022 2:36 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: asking to use lube without embarrassing anyone?
Replies: 8
Views: 3126

Re: asking to use lube without embarrassing anyone?

Hey dollparties, Please don't apologize for posting on here, it's not an issue at all! Thank you for letting us be your sex ed resource. There's no such thing as 'wet enough'. People's vaginas work differently, and even the same vagina doesn't lubricate the same way consistently. It's nothing that y...
by Urna
Thu Jan 20, 2022 12:59 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: want to take birth control to help dysphoria but idk what to do.
Replies: 3
Views: 1660

Re: want to take birth control to help dysphoria but idk what to do.

Oof I'm really sorry to hear about your needle phobia. I don't think that there are any other legitimate solutions to your problem, but again, I'm not medically trained, so this is by no means the final word on the topic. Since you're based in Sweden, which is an area I don't know much about in term...

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