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by Urna
Mon Jul 26, 2021 8:12 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I don't know if I should start a new relationship or not
Replies: 3
Views: 50

Re: I don't know if I should start a new relationship or not

Hi! I read through your thread, and it sounds like you're in an exciting new situation with Rigo, even if it's just flirtation right now. However, like you said, you're still not over your ex, who was super inconsiderate of you near the end of your relationship and left you hurting. In the interest ...
by Urna
Mon Jul 19, 2021 11:41 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
Replies: 11
Views: 1699

Re: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed

That sounds amazing, Hel. I'm sure you'll build something truly beautiful, as a community!
by Urna
Mon Jul 19, 2021 11:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 85
Views: 18033

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hello sandpiper! Happy 70th post in this thread! I read through it, and I'm so happy for you and your progress, and all the wonderful exploring-sexuality things that await you this summer. I'm sorry that solo masturbation has become a task more than anything, for you. You wrote out your thoughts abo...
by Urna
Thu Jul 08, 2021 9:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?
Replies: 6
Views: 352

Re: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?

Also, about the Am I A Lesbian masterdoc: while it's a landmark resource for many WLWs, it doesn't hurt to reiterate that it was made by a teenager. A very intelligent and articulate teenager, but still a teenager. The document has no academic or professional legitimacy, and it has been charged, mos...
by Urna
Thu Jul 08, 2021 9:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?
Replies: 6
Views: 352

Re: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?

Sure thing. The Queer Muslim Project on Instagram has a number of wonderful resources, and you can find community here among the people whose testimonials are featured, as well as other queer Muslim youth who follow the page. Here's PFLAG'S Faith Resources for Queer Muslims , where you will find lin...
by Urna
Thu Jul 08, 2021 7:23 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: im 13 and i wanna masturbate
Replies: 4
Views: 594

Re: im 13 and i wanna masturbate

Is it possible that you're referring to the clitoris? Check out this article here: Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus, and More. Does the description for the clitoris match the lumpy thing?
by Urna
Thu Jul 08, 2021 7:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 49
Views: 892

Re: I don't know what to do

Hello jenny01, I'll respond directly to some of the points you've raised here, by helping to brainstorm solutions. You said you don't have a license yet--have you explored public transit options in your city? Also, I know next to nothing about your condition and how debilitating it is for you, but I...
by Urna
Tue Jul 06, 2021 6:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?
Replies: 6
Views: 352

Re: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?

Hello browngirl! I'm so glad to hear that Elise's advice helped you out, and that the articles brought you some peace. As someone raised in a Hindu family, I totally understand your wariness regarding coming out to your mom, especially your point about adding divergent gender preferences to the cock...
by Urna
Tue Jul 06, 2021 5:57 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: toilet seat 'myth'
Replies: 1
Views: 99

Re: toilet seat 'myth'

Hello userSG1400, and welcome to Scarleteen. Quoting from a short article on here to say that there is no fear of pregnancy "from casual, nonsexual contact: pregnancy happens from sexual contact with very direct genital and fluid contact -- not from toilet seats, shaking hands, doorknobs or the...
by Urna
Tue Jul 06, 2021 5:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation and not doing it right
Replies: 5
Views: 458

Re: Masturbation and not doing it right

Great, good luck blblbl!
by Urna
Sun Jul 04, 2021 12:45 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Libido out of control, please help (F)
Replies: 11
Views: 463

Re: Libido out of control, please help (F)

Yes, dry orgasm means I didn't ejaculate. And yes, I have ejaculated or had a 'wet orgasm' before - that's when I painstakingly keep at masturbating with a (lightly vibrating) dildo for 15-30 mins which is not ideal for the reasons I stated in my previous post. Gotcha. I think investing in a vibrat...
by Urna
Sat Jul 03, 2021 9:32 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation and not doing it right
Replies: 5
Views: 458

Re: Masturbation and not doing it right

Hello blblblbl, and welcome to Scarleteen! I understand the frustration you've been feeling about not getting much pleasure out of masturbation. The first thing I want to alert you to is that sexual pleasure (and orgasm) are super dependent on your emotional state and mental relaxation, rather than ...
by Urna
Sat Jul 03, 2021 9:08 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Libido out of control, please help (F)
Replies: 11
Views: 463

Re: Libido out of control, please help (F)

Hello cherryrain! I understand that distracting yourself from the libido spike doesn't really work. Do the extremely detailed fantasies stress you out as well, maybe because they eat up large chunks of your day that you'd rather be using for something else? Are they ever simply enjoyable? Also, have...
by Urna
Wed Jun 30, 2021 12:29 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I want a casual relationship but everyone else is so serious
Replies: 5
Views: 472

Re: I want a casual relationship but everyone else is so serious

Hello ez.as.pie! In the interest of honesty and maintaining others' boundaries as well as your own, it's important to state right at the beginning (that is, when romance/sexual attraction starts slipping into the friendship, but no promises have been made and no expectations have been aired) what yo...
by Urna
Wed Jun 30, 2021 12:12 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Validity of identity?
Replies: 7
Views: 407

Re: Validity of identity?

Hi Raffles, The question of being "trans enough" or "nb enough" or "gnc enough" etc. is a widespread doubt, and I'm sorry that this has been stressing you out for some time, alongside the horrible misgendering you've been confronting. First: yes, you are absolutely agen...
by Urna
Thu Jun 24, 2021 8:59 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: What happened? Feel so guilty
Replies: 5
Views: 210

Re: What happened? Feel so guilty

:D great!
by Urna
Thu Jun 24, 2021 7:29 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: What happened? Feel so guilty
Replies: 5
Views: 210

Re: What happened? Feel so guilty

You're welcome C91, thanks for trusting us with this. I understand your worry that your friend could've just said it was rape to support you, but honestly, the people who love us no matter what are usually the people who can most quickly recognize when we're being harmed, and who are the first to sp...
by Urna
Thu Jun 24, 2021 7:12 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT
Replies: 3
Views: 1158

Re: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT

Hello vambrace, Jumping in here to send you a couple of general resources for partners of trans people looking to medically transition. A lot of this might be stuff you're already aware of, but maybe you'll find some useful stuff in there. And yeah, while there may be some awkward patches during the...
by Urna
Wed Jun 23, 2021 11:24 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: What happened? Feel so guilty
Replies: 5
Views: 210

Re: What happened? Feel so guilty

Hi C91, Welcome to Scarleteen, and thank you for messaging us about this. First off, I'm so very sorry that you went through what sounds like an extremely distressing situation. Secondly, I want you to know that you are in no way overreacting by calling it assault or even rape. What happened to you ...
by Urna
Wed Jun 23, 2021 10:29 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not understanding how to feel
Replies: 7
Views: 1537

Re: Not understanding how to feel

Hey Red_Scarlet, I hope it's OK that I'm chiming in. I read through your posts, and I'm really sorry that your trauma from abuse has been invalidated by your parents for so long. It's not your fault, you're not overreacting, and it's definitely not okay behaviour or "how kids learn to behave&qu...
by Urna
Wed Jun 23, 2021 10:14 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Hot girl summer???
Replies: 3
Views: 1505

Re: Hot girl summer???

Hey Hel! Honestly I love the idea of hot girl summer, and I agree that it's a great aesthetic to aspire to once school's out! As long as you don't treat it as more than an aesthetic, you're in for a good, fulfilling time. I'd say that a glow-up would target your physical, emotional, and intellectual...
by Urna
Wed Jun 23, 2021 9:56 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
Replies: 11
Views: 1699

Re: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed

Hey Hel, I read through this thread, and I'm really sorry that this happened to you. I'm glad, though, that you've been very resilient throughout the hard times you've been having for the past few months, and that you're focusing on rebuilding your friendship with your ex! And yeah, it's best to jus...
by Urna
Wed Jun 16, 2021 6:32 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Disappointed in my bf
Replies: 9
Views: 1590

Re: Disappointed in my bf

Hi, sorry to jump in, but I think it's wonderful that you've got an action plan in mind, and that it's such a healthy one! I think you'll feel much better now that you've decided that you're just going to give your boyfriend space and let him figure his stuff out, and that in the meantime, you'll ge...
by Urna
Wed Jun 16, 2021 6:26 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 23
Views: 13158

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

Sari and red lipstick and super dainty silver jewelry! The vibe I want to give off is the Enchantress from the Fairytopia movies, but less twee and and edgier hahaha
by Urna
Wed Jun 09, 2021 4:24 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sleep Orgasm?
Replies: 1
Views: 2710

Re: Sleep Orgasm?

Hi jenny01, I can't tell you about my personal experience, sorry! But this is super-duper normal. Involuntary vaginal lubrication happens all the time, and that includes during sleep. And vaginal lubrication usually doesn't depend on our having an orgasm: vaginas start to get wet when we start feeli...

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