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by valerie4
Fri Sep 10, 2021 12:00 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 30
Views: 599

Re: So there's a guy...

Okay. I think its a really good idea to take this slow right now for a lot of reasons. Mainly, one of the biggest communications he has sent is that he is really busy right now and even friendship communications have been a lot for him. I think giving him some time and trying to understand who HE is...
by valerie4
Fri Sep 10, 2021 10:41 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 30
Views: 599

Re: So there's a guy...

Hi! I think it would be helpful for you to approach this mentally as if you are talking to any of your friends. The gender of the person on the other end doesn't have to change the dynamic. With any relationship there are a lot of ways to deepen a friendship! One way is finding out common interests ...
by valerie4
Fri Sep 10, 2021 9:40 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: EROS
Replies: 7
Views: 228

Re: EROS

Would it be helpful for us to try to come up with some tools for connecting to thinking about the kind of sexual experience you want? What can we help you with?
by valerie4
Thu Sep 09, 2021 11:35 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 30
Views: 599

Re: So there's a guy...

Hi Jenny, This sounds so exhausting and frankly misleading. If they truly were trying to keep you safe, part of safety is learning on your own and creating independence so you have knowedge to make decisions in the future. Like you said, they don't let you learn from your mistakes which is a crucial...
by valerie4
Thu Sep 09, 2021 10:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Touching my Nexplanon?
Replies: 15
Views: 1247

Re: Touching my Nexplanon?

Hi there! I think this question would be a great one to ask your gynecologist or general practitioners. None of us are doctors on this site so its always a good idea to go to them with questions of uncertainty around medication. Additionally, I think I've seen you mention having some intense crampin...
by valerie4
Thu Jul 29, 2021 12:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Knowing that this is a safe space
Replies: 13
Views: 1012

Re: Knowing that this is a safe space

Hi! I have a couple ideas and questions for you. To start, I want to emphasize that having sex with a stranger does not make you a "slut" and it is not a morally bad thing to do. So know that even if that is said it doesn't hold any value. You are not lesser because you like sex and don't ...
by valerie4
Thu Jul 29, 2021 10:17 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 106
Views: 30204

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hi sandpiper, As I have been sitting with this, I am worried that I haven't mentioned something important in my previous response. Throughout your posts on here it seems pretty consistent that you have not been enjoying or wanting sex and seem to be engaging in it for the sake of pleasing your partn...
by valerie4
Wed Jul 28, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I feel no pleasure when I finger myself?
Replies: 3
Views: 1111

Re: I feel no pleasure when I finger myself?

Hi gwakgwak, Thanks for writing us! I have a couple answers and resources for your question. One important thing to start off the bat with is that bodies are so vastly different everyone's experiences are bound to be different. There is no "normal" setting when it comes to pleasure. There ...
by valerie4
Sun Jul 25, 2021 10:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 106
Views: 30204

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hi sandpiper, Like you said, no one here is a medical provider but I am someone with experience being in pelvic floor physical therapy so maybe I can share some of my own experiences because I have experienced some of the stuff you're dealing with. I think your instict to explore relaxation is a VER...
by valerie4
Fri Jun 25, 2021 12:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fingering myself only feels good for a few seconds...
Replies: 1
Views: 397

Re: Fingering myself only feels good for a few seconds...

Hi machiruda! I'm so sorry to hear you've been struggling with this - it sounds frustrating. Pleasure is complicated and sometimes unpredictable so there's never really one "right" answer of how to find what works for you but there's a lot of things that can impact it that we can try out. ...
by valerie4
Fri Jun 04, 2021 11:21 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 14
Views: 5500

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

Hi Vambrace, Thank you so much for sharing! I have a couple questions that popped up reading your reply. I know Sam might respond as well when she is on shift. To start I just want to say, I had a really similar experience engaging with sexual content online when I was younger that traumatized me an...
by valerie4
Fri Jun 04, 2021 10:34 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I just want to know
Replies: 3
Views: 4178

Re: I just want to know

Hi Jenny01, Our website is chalk FULL of awesome resources on this topic. I'm gonna link you to a few of them but I'd encourage you to look at the "sexuality" tag or the "lgbtq" tag. Another thing I suggest you check out is our Glossary ! It's extremely extensive and a great way ...
by valerie4
Fri Jun 04, 2021 10:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I just victimizing myself?
Replies: 14
Views: 6364

Re: Am I just victimizing myself?

Hi FestiveFestoon, I'm so sorry to hear you're still struggling. I'm glad you're meeting with the school counselor because these are heavy emotions to process on your own. You mentioned you feel scared to even try reading resources on the topic, can you tell me more about that? What are you fearing ...
by valerie4
Tue May 25, 2021 11:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 106
Views: 30204

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

This particular part of your post really spoke to me: "This could be a different kind of arousal; one that is based off of knowing your partner knows how to love you. It doesn't need to be sexual for it to be profoundly impactful." It's kind of a weird experiment, but this year I've been ...
by valerie4
Tue May 25, 2021 10:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 106
Views: 30204

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hi Sandpiper! Just wanted to drop in here with some thoughts. You talked about feeling like you were missing out from the "little joys" of sexual desire, arousal, or intimacy, that you see in the media or in your interactions with your friends. I completely understand that feeling and I th...
by valerie4
Fri May 21, 2021 9:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any other contraceptive methods?
Replies: 15
Views: 13022

Re: Any other contraceptive methods?

Hi!

We have a lot of good resources compiled at this link: Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources

Check it out and try out some of the apps on there. They can be really helpful!

- Val
by valerie4
Thu May 06, 2021 12:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Problems masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 5653

Re: Problems masturbating

Hi jenny01, Stress can impact our ability to enjoy masturbation/sex. It sounds like you might be experiencing arousal discordance. "Arousal discordance means that physiological (in this case, bodily) and mental arousal don’t match up at the same time. This can go in either direction: you can wa...
by valerie4
Thu May 06, 2021 9:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: how to get my period back?
Replies: 1
Views: 3612

Re: how to get my period back?

Hi! I'm glad to hear that you recognize your stress levels might be impacting your period. You are most likely correct on that. Stress, of all kinds, can impact our body's functions in different ways and your body is adapting in the way it thinks it will protect you best. I would recommend you read ...
by valerie4
Wed Apr 28, 2021 11:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Nexplanon Arm Implant
Replies: 13
Views: 4514

Re: Nexplanon Arm Implant

Hi there! It is most likely your body reacting to the new hormones that have been introduced to your body. This link on Planned Parenthood talks a little more indepth about Nexplanon side-effects. Generally, most symptoms after insertion will eventually go away. If it worsens, talking to your doctor...
by valerie4
Wed Apr 28, 2021 10:09 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Representation in Media
Replies: 0
Views: 6887

Representation in Media

These days, more and more TV shows and movies are showing positive representations of sexuality and gender expression. Shows tackle all sorts of issues regarding sexual health and relationships. What shows or characters have resonated with you recently? Have there been moments where you've felt repr...
by valerie4
Fri Apr 23, 2021 11:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bloody Discharge on Pill
Replies: 6
Views: 2226

Re: Bloody Discharge on Pill

That's good to hear. Bodies are strange! Most of the time they are just doing what they can to protect us but its hard to navigate that. I hope things continue well with your boyfriend. I hope you are enjoying your time with him because that is the most important component! That this makes you happy...
by valerie4
Fri Apr 23, 2021 11:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bloody Discharge on Pill
Replies: 6
Views: 2226

Re: Bloody Discharge on Pill

I'm really glad to hear you and your boyfriend are doing okay. Are you feeling okay with have safe sex again? It sounds like things are pretty safe to me. Stress can do wild things to our body and having a withdrawal bleed is one of the many things your body can do in response to stress. It most lik...
by valerie4
Fri Apr 23, 2021 10:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bloody Discharge on Pill
Replies: 6
Views: 2226

Re: Bloody Discharge on Pill

Hi there! Thanks for writing. Taking the pill a few hours late one time is not the end of the world because of how birth control is made. Situations like these are factored into "typical use" which would still mean that in a year, the pill is 91% effective at preventing pregnancy. The typi...
by valerie4
Fri Mar 26, 2021 11:49 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Excessive vaginal discharge
Replies: 5
Views: 4039

Re: Excessive vaginal discharge

Hi! I think this would be a really helpful article for you to check out Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions . Having discharge that leaks through to your underwear is normal, albeit, annoying at sometimes. It is a natural thing for your vagina to be producing. That being said, what a...
by valerie4
Tue Mar 23, 2021 2:17 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?
Replies: 5
Views: 3481

Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?

Intimacy is often described to be something only found in sexual/romantic relationships but the reality is we have intimacy in all kinds of relationships in our lives. That can be found with your family and your friends as well. Society puts a lot of focus on romantic/sexual relationships and labels...

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