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by KurtisC
Thu Apr 01, 2021 12:27 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Loneliness bites.
Replies: 9
Views: 2664

Re: Loneliness bites.

I live in my imagination. Always have.
by KurtisC
Mon Mar 29, 2021 2:35 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Aromantic but not by choice?
Replies: 5
Views: 954

Re: Aromantic but not by choice?

This really freakin' sucks!! I'm really sorry to hear that! Though I'm happy to hear that you've at least escaped the abuse and have been able to live away from it (hopefully?) for the last two years. How has your heart been lately? This touched my heart, thank you. I am safe and doing well! Thank ...
by KurtisC
Sun Mar 28, 2021 11:45 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Do all fetuses start out with what would become a clit?
Replies: 1
Views: 1050

Do all fetuses start out with what would become a clit?

During the first 60 days of pregnancy do all fetuses have what would grow into a clitoris as long as the fetus doesn't start making testosterone?
by KurtisC
Sun Mar 28, 2021 5:59 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Aromantic but not by choice?
Replies: 5
Views: 954

Re: Aromantic but not by choice?

Thanks for the reply, that really, really helps! Hmm, well, I don't believe I experience 'romantic' attraction, but I do experience specific-person focused attraction and sexual attachment, so I think people may classify that as 'romantic' attraction. I adore the label 'aromantic', but I don't think...
by KurtisC
Sat Mar 27, 2021 7:01 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Aromantic but not by choice?
Replies: 5
Views: 954

Aromantic but not by choice?

Hey, So I'm in my thirties and all my relationships have been pretty abusive. I've not been with anyone for two years. This makes me feel pretty shit and I'm working on understanding that it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with me & I'm getting there. Can I use the term aromantic? I feel lik...
by KurtisC
Sun Sep 20, 2020 8:53 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to stop wanting to be loved
Replies: 15
Views: 3069

Re: How to stop wanting to be loved

Thanks, Alexa, this means so much to me. Feels better and I'm sorry you felt shamed for it too. It's nice to be excited by people - feels real good and brings joy.

People who appreciate someone being loving are the best people, I'm sure. I'll find them.
by KurtisC
Sat Sep 19, 2020 4:24 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to stop wanting to be loved
Replies: 15
Views: 3069

Re: How to stop wanting to be loved

Do you think anyone's love is worthless? like so easy to get and forgiving that's it's boring and undesirable? Typing it out sounds silly but it's torturing me that mine could be Mom said it was, because I 'think everyone's amazing' but she was just being possessive and it's like slut-shaming for love
by KurtisC
Sun Sep 13, 2020 8:26 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to stop wanting to be loved
Replies: 15
Views: 3069

Re: How to stop wanting to be loved

yes please, Sam. That sounds nice
by KurtisC
Thu Sep 10, 2020 12:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to stop wanting to be loved
Replies: 15
Views: 3069

Re: How to stop wanting to be loved

I think I need to remember that imaginary relationships can be just a fulfilling as one with an irl person. I get what I need from it, but I can't use it to gain the status of being 'taken' or the validation that I can make it work with someone; that im easy and simple enough to be around for days a...
by KurtisC
Thu Sep 10, 2020 12:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to stop wanting to be loved
Replies: 15
Views: 3069

Re: How to stop wanting to be loved

I think it can be more of a status thing, like I just want it to feel protected from others who want to brag or tell me the person I made eyes at has a bf already. I wanna be like 'I know, I'm with someone and happy thanks very much.' It can be very competitive, you say how sad you are about your pe...
by KurtisC
Thu Sep 10, 2020 12:33 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to stop wanting to be loved
Replies: 15
Views: 3069

Re: How to stop wanting to be loved

I dunno, man, I think I only do it because I feel like I failed without it and I have fear of missing out because I'm worried it won't ever happen and I won't get the validation that I can do it, and I'll always see people in long term relationships and feel like I'm inferior somehow. But that's a b...
by KurtisC
Mon Sep 07, 2020 3:06 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to stop wanting to be loved
Replies: 15
Views: 3069

Re: How to stop wanting to be loved

Thanks Amanda, I have considered it, but tbh right now is the only time I haven't been in crisis and I just wanna enjoy not thinking about the past for a little while. I still really want love and hopefully taking steps to make that happen (even platonically).I'm starting a new job soon so hopefully...
by KurtisC
Mon Aug 31, 2020 3:55 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to stop wanting to be loved
Replies: 15
Views: 3069

Re: How to stop wanting to be loved

Yeah, you're right. Thanks. It's lifelong, yeah. I wanted a serious, long term relationship when I was 4 years old. I think I was often punished for wanting love so now it's like a taboo to me, making me wanting it more because of how shocked and ashamed I am by the feeling. Then that leads into to ...
by KurtisC
Mon Aug 31, 2020 3:25 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to stop wanting to be loved
Replies: 15
Views: 3069

Re: How to stop wanting to be loved

Just feel desperate and like I don't have a life. Wanting love so bad feels unmasculine and pathetic maybe. Like you get it as a prize for being cool but I can't be cool because I can't stop feeling like my life's empty...
by KurtisC
Mon Aug 31, 2020 3:16 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to stop wanting to be loved
Replies: 15
Views: 3069

How to stop wanting to be loved

Does anyone have any tips on how to stop wanting to love and be loved? It makes me so unattractive and I'll never get it this way!
by KurtisC
Sat Aug 22, 2020 5:43 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love Letter
Replies: 3
Views: 866

Re: Love Letter

I think I spent so many years desperately wanting people to have that feeling of attachment for me, feeling lost and hopeless without it - when actually, it's not really all that important. To quote 'Love Letter', what's important is the components of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, res...
by KurtisC
Fri Aug 21, 2020 5:45 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love Letter
Replies: 3
Views: 866

Re: Love Letter

Thanks Mo, that helps a lot.
by KurtisC
Fri Aug 21, 2020 2:55 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love Letter
Replies: 3
Views: 866

Love Letter

Hey guys, (hey Max, it's Saffy) So I was just reading https://www.scarleteen.com/article/relationships/love_letter... and I um, I guess I always thought of love as a strong, hot feeling of attachment in one's heart... and I think that mentality may have really wrecked quite a lot of my life... Do yo...
by KurtisC
Wed Aug 19, 2020 7:43 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I'm trans and I want to masturbate, but dysphoria is not letting me
Replies: 3
Views: 1150

Re: I'm trans and I want to masturbate, but dysphoria is not letting me

Hi Sky, I can relate a little to those feelings. One thing I find helps is the naming of body parts in our minds - after all, genitals are pretty much the same thing deep down. Do you think of yours as a clitoris, in your mind? In terms of masturbation, it may also help to remember that a person wit...
by KurtisC
Tue Aug 18, 2020 12:17 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Can we stop romanticizing abuse?
Replies: 5
Views: 2756

Re: Can we stop romanticizing abuse?

Great topic, thewrit3r! I hope you do get to write positive sex stories for TV one day! I'd love to see that, we need that kind of content. I don't think I've ever seen healthy sex on TV apart from in a couple of cartoons, which are few and far between (and often get cancelled). I'd love a show that...

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