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by Hel
Sun Jun 13, 2021 10:22 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Disappointed in my bf
Replies: 0
Views: 10

Disappointed in my bf

So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 10 months now. I really like him. I want to be with him for as long as possible. Sometimes I have trouble accepting that he loves me and won’t hurt me like my ex did. I’m a little scared to admit how much I like my current boyfriend, because I’m afraid of being c...
by Hel
Fri Jun 11, 2021 7:59 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can bisexuals be attracted to genderfluid people?
Replies: 3
Views: 152

Re: Can bisexuals be attracted to genderfluid people?

Okay thanks! My boyfriend was confused about it too because of the people saying that the bi part only means being attracted to 2 genders. Good to know that the actual identity is more complex and this isn’t the case
by Hel
Thu Jun 10, 2021 9:35 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can bisexuals be attracted to genderfluid people?
Replies: 3
Views: 152

Can bisexuals be attracted to genderfluid people?

I’m pansexual and genderfluid and my boyfriend is currently figuring out a label for his sexuality. His latest label is bisexual and we’re both a bit stumped because he’s attracted to me no matter what gender I am, but the label pansexual or omnisexual doesn’t vibe with him... just wondering if a pe...
by Hel
Tue May 18, 2021 10:32 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexually (really , really) frustrated
Replies: 5
Views: 2454

Re: Sexually (really , really) frustrated

Yeah looking back on it now I was in a negative headspace then, and I’m pretty overwhelmed with other things in my life. I told my boyfriend I was glad he wanted to wait because I realized I needed it. Guess he really is intuitive and knows what is good for both of us <3. So happy we’re waiting beca...
by Hel
Sat May 15, 2021 9:38 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexually (really , really) frustrated
Replies: 5
Views: 2454

Re: Sexually (really , really) frustrated

That’s a good point - having a week to think about it is probably a really good thing. I was definitely feeling horny earlier but not as much today, which shows how much my sex drive fluctuates. Having time to think will probably give me clarity. I think the part that I can’t replicate by myself rea...
by Hel
Sat May 15, 2021 5:13 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexually (really , really) frustrated
Replies: 5
Views: 2454

Sexually (really , really) frustrated

So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for nine months now, and our relationship is great. We have been focusing on spending quality time together more, instead of sexual things. And for a while that was great. (Clarification: it is still great in our relationship but not in the, um, sex department) It’s ...
by Hel
Thu May 13, 2021 1:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues
Replies: 5
Views: 1098

Re: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues

Thanks for the tips. I did talk to him (my current boyfriend) today, and we were able to resolve our issues, and we both said we love each other and want to move forward. That being said, my trust issues are still there, because of my ex and the way he treated me. I think my next step is talking to ...
by Hel
Wed May 12, 2021 2:00 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues
Replies: 5
Views: 1098

Re: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues

Yeah I will try to ask my counselor if she can diagnose me. In the meantime though I am just really upset. Today didn’t help. My boyfriend was really moody because he’s going through personal shit with his parents, and he was taking out his annoyances on me and our mutual friends. He made fun of me ...
by Hel
Wed May 12, 2021 4:25 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues
Replies: 5
Views: 1098

I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues

I have been having nightmares that feature my ex-boyfriend, lack of sleep, and triggers from my past relationship for months. I keep having trust issues and a fear of abandonment, and I keep thinking that my current boyfriend will break up with me - even though I know he won't because he loves me, a...
by Hel
Sat May 01, 2021 4:33 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Changed my mind
Replies: 5
Views: 681

Re: Changed my mind

Thanks for the advice and the articles! It was very helpful. :)
by Hel
Fri Apr 30, 2021 10:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Changed my mind
Replies: 5
Views: 681

Re: Changed my mind

I would say on about 50% of the time we spend together, just the two of us, one of us (usually me) asks how things are going with the relationship in general and what kinds of physical stuff is okay. I guess I could bring it up the next time we’re alone together. The only times he’s called me any pe...
by Hel
Wed Apr 28, 2021 5:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Changed my mind
Replies: 5
Views: 681

Changed my mind

So at the beginning of our relationship I made it very clear to my boyfriend that I didn’t want him to touch my butt. At the time I was self conscious about it because I have a lot of stretch marks from when I lost too much weight during one of my eating disorders, and I thought my ass was really no...
by Hel
Mon Apr 26, 2021 8:20 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???
Replies: 4
Views: 761

Re: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???

Okay, thank you! Yeah I do tend to over analyze things and also, yes, a lot of my worries are from the past relationship. Thanks for the advice!
by Hel
Sat Apr 24, 2021 8:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???
Replies: 4
Views: 761

Re: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???

Hi, thanks for responding so quickly! Yeah this is causing me some stress. And it’s true that all these events happened within days of each other so it was just a lot to handle at once. Good idea to bring up thought patterns with my counselor. I think that will be useful for me because I do tend to ...
by Hel
Sat Apr 24, 2021 8:06 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???
Replies: 4
Views: 761

Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???

Just a heads up, I’m covering a lot in this post because there are a ton of contributing factors. So a few days ago my boyfriend and I had a long talk about intimacy in our relationship. I told him I like when he initiates things, and I want him to do that more often. I also said sometimes I feel li...
by Hel
Sun Apr 18, 2021 2:51 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Personal issues interfering with sex life
Replies: 3
Views: 936

Re: Personal issues interfering with sex life

Abstaining from sex related things right now seems like a good solution - unless I'm 100% in the mood for it and I know it won't cause me stress. Thank you for the good suggestion. And yeah, doing other activities with my boyfriend and my friends that aren't related to sex - and are good for stress ...
by Hel
Sat Apr 17, 2021 11:49 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Personal issues interfering with sex life
Replies: 3
Views: 936

Personal issues interfering with sex life

I feel like I really messed up and I don’t know what to think. I don’t know what to do. I was with my boyfriend and we were hanging out and talking, and it was wonderful. I thought that I wanted more... I couldn’t orgasm all week and I thought that I really wanted him in a sexual way. So I convinced...
by Hel
Tue Apr 13, 2021 12:12 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 989

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

Thanks, that’s also really helpful to know!
by Hel
Mon Apr 12, 2021 11:01 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 989

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

Okay, thanks for the advice!
by Hel
Sun Apr 11, 2021 11:30 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 989

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

Thanks for all the advice! I'll bring this up with my boyfriend when I see him next week. Actually I did have another question. Is there a simple conversation starter I can use? Like, an easy way to start talking about it? I don't really know how to bring it up.
by Hel
Sun Apr 11, 2021 12:07 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 989

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

What you said about the causes of sex drives make sense - thanks for clarifying! It’s interesting to learn that stress affects that. I think I’ve found that when I’m stressed out I like to have more intimacy, and it’s helpful to know that I’m not the only one who functions like that. :) As far as ho...
by Hel
Fri Apr 09, 2021 9:56 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 989

Higher sex drive causes?

Hi, So I was just wondering what causes my sex drive to be relatively high all the time. Like, I masturbate almost every day, and when I’m with my boyfriend I am almost always turned on. He’s totally cool with that and is eager to do sexual stuff most of the time (I initiate a bit more than he does ...
by Hel
Thu Mar 25, 2021 1:56 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 1193

Re: How do I ask...?

Okay, thank you that all makes sense.
by Hel
Wed Mar 24, 2021 2:35 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 1193

Re: How do I ask...?

Okay, yeah I definitely won’t do anything that I hate. I’m curious though about going deeper because I liked when he was deeper for a few seconds, but then my throat decided to gag. I’ve talked to my boyfriend about BDSM a little bit but I might talk to him about it more in the future so we know wha...
by Hel
Wed Mar 24, 2021 1:55 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 1193

Re: How do I ask...?

So I did it! I gave him a blowjob and I actually liked it a lot. We didn’t do any deepthroating. I’m curious about it for another but I hate choking... I think it would be hot to have his dick further back in my mouth though. Any tips on how I can get used to having it further back??? Also, I felt r...

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