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by Hel
Sat May 01, 2021 4:33 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Changed my mind
Replies: 5
Views: 131

Re: Changed my mind

Thanks for the advice and the articles! It was very helpful. :)
by Hel
Fri Apr 30, 2021 10:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Changed my mind
Replies: 5
Views: 131

Re: Changed my mind

I would say on about 50% of the time we spend together, just the two of us, one of us (usually me) asks how things are going with the relationship in general and what kinds of physical stuff is okay. I guess I could bring it up the next time we’re alone together. The only times he’s called me any pe...
by Hel
Wed Apr 28, 2021 5:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Changed my mind
Replies: 5
Views: 131

Changed my mind

So at the beginning of our relationship I made it very clear to my boyfriend that I didn’t want him to touch my butt. At the time I was self conscious about it because I have a lot of stretch marks from when I lost too much weight during one of my eating disorders, and I thought my ass was really no...
by Hel
Mon Apr 26, 2021 8:20 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???
Replies: 4
Views: 159

Re: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???

Okay, thank you! Yeah I do tend to over analyze things and also, yes, a lot of my worries are from the past relationship. Thanks for the advice!
by Hel
Sat Apr 24, 2021 8:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???
Replies: 4
Views: 159

Re: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???

Hi, thanks for responding so quickly! Yeah this is causing me some stress. And it’s true that all these events happened within days of each other so it was just a lot to handle at once. Good idea to bring up thought patterns with my counselor. I think that will be useful for me because I do tend to ...
by Hel
Sat Apr 24, 2021 8:06 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???
Replies: 4
Views: 159

Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???

Just a heads up, I’m covering a lot in this post because there are a ton of contributing factors. So a few days ago my boyfriend and I had a long talk about intimacy in our relationship. I told him I like when he initiates things, and I want him to do that more often. I also said sometimes I feel li...
by Hel
Sun Apr 18, 2021 2:51 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Personal issues interfering with sex life
Replies: 3
Views: 268

Re: Personal issues interfering with sex life

Abstaining from sex related things right now seems like a good solution - unless I'm 100% in the mood for it and I know it won't cause me stress. Thank you for the good suggestion. And yeah, doing other activities with my boyfriend and my friends that aren't related to sex - and are good for stress ...
by Hel
Sat Apr 17, 2021 11:49 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Personal issues interfering with sex life
Replies: 3
Views: 268

Personal issues interfering with sex life

I feel like I really messed up and I don’t know what to think. I don’t know what to do. I was with my boyfriend and we were hanging out and talking, and it was wonderful. I thought that I wanted more... I couldn’t orgasm all week and I thought that I really wanted him in a sexual way. So I convinced...
by Hel
Tue Apr 13, 2021 12:12 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 291

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

Thanks, that’s also really helpful to know!
by Hel
Mon Apr 12, 2021 11:01 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 291

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

Okay, thanks for the advice!
by Hel
Sun Apr 11, 2021 11:30 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 291

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

Thanks for all the advice! I'll bring this up with my boyfriend when I see him next week. Actually I did have another question. Is there a simple conversation starter I can use? Like, an easy way to start talking about it? I don't really know how to bring it up.
by Hel
Sun Apr 11, 2021 12:07 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 291

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

What you said about the causes of sex drives make sense - thanks for clarifying! It’s interesting to learn that stress affects that. I think I’ve found that when I’m stressed out I like to have more intimacy, and it’s helpful to know that I’m not the only one who functions like that. :) As far as ho...
by Hel
Fri Apr 09, 2021 9:56 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 291

Higher sex drive causes?

Hi, So I was just wondering what causes my sex drive to be relatively high all the time. Like, I masturbate almost every day, and when I’m with my boyfriend I am almost always turned on. He’s totally cool with that and is eager to do sexual stuff most of the time (I initiate a bit more than he does ...
by Hel
Thu Mar 25, 2021 1:56 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 517

Re: How do I ask...?

Okay, thank you that all makes sense.
by Hel
Wed Mar 24, 2021 2:35 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 517

Re: How do I ask...?

Okay, yeah I definitely won’t do anything that I hate. I’m curious though about going deeper because I liked when he was deeper for a few seconds, but then my throat decided to gag. I’ve talked to my boyfriend about BDSM a little bit but I might talk to him about it more in the future so we know wha...
by Hel
Wed Mar 24, 2021 1:55 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 517

Re: How do I ask...?

So I did it! I gave him a blowjob and I actually liked it a lot. We didn’t do any deepthroating. I’m curious about it for another but I hate choking... I think it would be hot to have his dick further back in my mouth though. Any tips on how I can get used to having it further back??? Also, I felt r...
by Hel
Tue Mar 23, 2021 10:11 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 517

Re: How do I ask...?

Thank you for the loads of advice! Super helpful for me. :) I’ll ask him what he likes (though it is his first time as well so we’ll both be experimenting). I like the suggestion of asking him to let me know when he’s close to an orgasm.

Thanks for the article as well!
by Hel
Mon Mar 22, 2021 1:02 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 517

Re: How do I ask...?

So we talked and we’re planning on having oral sex soon! I’m excited. A little nervous too because I haven’t done this before. I know everyone’s preferences are different and stuff but are there general techniques that most guys like? I’ve read some articles and stuff on that... Also (I’m sure I’ll ...
by Hel
Sun Mar 21, 2021 1:10 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 517

Re: How do I ask...?

Thanks for the reply. My boyfriend and I did talk about the stuff we did the day after. We both really liked it, we just needed a little time to process since it’s new. But I think we’re ready to try again. We’re both pretty horny people, lol.we have talked pretty openly about sex/sexual stuff befor...
by Hel
Sat Mar 20, 2021 2:20 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 517

How do I ask...?

So I’m experimenting with more sexual things with my boyfriend. We’ve had some time to process the handjobs we gave each other and I’m feeling ambitious to try something new. I liked touching his penis but not the act of giving a handjob. I always like using my mouth for I intimate stuff though so I...
by Hel
Fri Mar 12, 2021 10:44 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: I'm in a weird emotional state...
Replies: 3
Views: 229

Re: I'm in a weird emotional state...

Well, now that I've thought about it, I think my emotional state isn't really about the sexual stuff. I am actually eagerly anticipating having more manual sex; a lot of my weird feelings are 'first time jitters' I think... not sure if that's a term people use, lol. I talked to my boyfriend about it...
by Hel
Fri Mar 12, 2021 8:43 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: I'm in a weird emotional state...
Replies: 3
Views: 229

I'm in a weird emotional state...

Like I mentioned in a previous topic, I was feeling kinda "off" and needy lately. I think a lot of it has to do with struggles with gender identity and thinking about my (awful) past relationship with my ex. So my current boyfriend and I did the whole fingering/handjob thing last night and...
by Hel
Thu Mar 11, 2021 10:01 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I know if I’m close to an orgasm?
Replies: 2
Views: 238

Re: How do I know if I’m close to an orgasm?

Okay, thank you!
by Hel
Thu Mar 11, 2021 1:58 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I know if I’m close to an orgasm?
Replies: 2
Views: 238

How do I know if I’m close to an orgasm?

So my boyfriend and I tried some new stuff. He fingered me and I gave him a hand job. It was actually all a good experience, which made me happy. The fingering felt good at first, then it was uncomfortable and I told him to stop, which he did right away. But after a few minutes I was ready to try ag...
by Hel
Mon Mar 08, 2021 2:05 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: What can I expect my first time being fingered?
Replies: 13
Views: 1074

Re: What can I expect my first time being fingered?

Yes, we’re really excited because we’ll be able to be in my house - lots of warmth, blankets, and rooms there! ;) I think both he and I are looking forward to trying out more fingering/touching each other, as well as just cuddling and hanging out. The cold really turns me off, if that’s an expressio...

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