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by Hel
Mon Jan 18, 2021 2:34 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 680

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

Update: I used the outline for starting the conversation like you suggested, and he was ready to talk right away. I told him about my ex, and he was very understanding, and he helped give suggestions for venting my feelings out. <3 Thank you guys for all the advice! Just wanted to share my success s...
by Hel
Wed Jan 13, 2021 1:11 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 680

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

Okay, thank you, this seems like a really good way to say it. :) I’ll try this.
by Hel
Wed Jan 13, 2021 12:06 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 680

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

Thank you for sharing some positive thoughts on this! I just want to make sure we're talking at a time that works for both of us so we're not weighed down any further by this topic. I'm just uncertain when to suggest talking about this, since it's so soon after the death I mentioned. I don't really ...
by Hel
Tue Jan 12, 2021 1:20 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 680

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

I guess I mostly want to talk about what my ex boyfriend did to hurt me - emotionally speaking. Just so my current boyfriend understands why I act a certain way in our current relationship, and so he knows how to best help me feel safe and loved. (I know he’s already trying very hard.) Good idea to ...
by Hel
Tue Jan 12, 2021 12:27 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 680

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

I'm inclined to talk about it over video too. I think that all this stuff about my ex definitely still upsets me. I feel like my boyfriend has the right to know about the relationship I was in before him, so that he can understand me better, and help me feel better, of course. I think I should wait ...
by Hel
Mon Jan 11, 2021 2:02 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 680

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

Yeah it really makes me upset when I think about my ex. I’ve spoken to my parents a few times about it, and they were understanding. I want to talk to my boyfriend about it, and I almost did today but then someone we both know died so I think I’ll wait a bit longer before talking about my ex, which ...
by Hel
Mon Jan 11, 2021 1:24 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 680

Toxic ex still haunts me

Heads up, this is kind of a rant in the beginning. I keep having these dreams where I'm talking to my ex-boyfriend, and even worse, I'm apologizing fro the mistakes he made! Like, he's the one who manipulated me and played with my emotions. He's the one who initiated everything then called it all of...
by Hel
Sat Jan 02, 2021 1:34 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 341

Re: How can I stop masturbating so much?

Thank you for the advice and the resources!
by Hel
Fri Jan 01, 2021 10:15 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 341

Re: How can I stop masturbating so much?

I definitely want to bring up sex and what I’m ready/not ready to do with my boyfriend. I’m waiting until we see each other in person though - I’m counting on in a few weeks - since I’m more comfortable in person. I just feel like the conversation would be more private that way. In terms of resource...
by Hel
Thu Dec 31, 2020 5:16 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 341

Re: How can I stop masturbating so much?

I think that talking about sex with him would definitely make sex seem so much more real, and also I wonder if I’ll want it more - and what he’ll want. As far as masturbating goes, I think that it is the more simple thought, meaning if I feel sexual I feel obligated to release that energy by masturb...
by Hel
Wed Dec 30, 2020 11:26 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 341

Re: How can I stop masturbating so much?

Sometimes I find it really difficult to be vulnerable around people and to share my true thoughts and emotions. Like, my boyfriend and my immediate family are usually the only people who I open up to completely. Sometimes when masturbate, I find it really hard to stop and I hate losing control. I gu...
by Hel
Wed Dec 30, 2020 2:06 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 341

Re: How can I stop masturbating so much?

Thank you for the reply. It gave me a lot to think about. I’m not really sure why it feels so compulsory. I guess I just have sex on my mind a lot all the time lately and it makes me nervous. The reason I am intimidated by these thoughts is because I am a virgin and I have a reputation for being rea...
by Hel
Wed Dec 30, 2020 4:18 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 341

How can I stop masturbating so much?

Recently I’ve been masturbating pretty much every night and every time I shower and I think it’s making me feel sick and out of sorts. (I never felt sick like this before, even when I did it multiple times a week.) I know it’s healthy to do every now and then, but I feel like I’m doing it way too mu...
by Hel
Mon Dec 14, 2020 1:36 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Confused about my orientation again
Replies: 5
Views: 347

Re: Confused about my orientation again

Thank you for all the advice! The term questioning really works for me, although I am very inclined to call myself pansexual. I will continue to explore and think about my sexuality.
by Hel
Thu Dec 10, 2020 12:27 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 5
Views: 2765

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

I have a book recommendation: Aurora Rising. There are a few queer characters, and the book is a science fiction for teens/young adults (but I think most people who are into sci-fi and fantasy would like it) and it is described as 'The Breakfast Club meets Guardians of the Galaxy'. It's one of my ne...
by Hel
Thu Dec 10, 2020 12:10 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Confused about my orientation again
Replies: 5
Views: 347

Re: Confused about my orientation again

Thank you for the articles! Both of them are really helpful. In terms of what I'd like to get out of this label, I believe it is mostly for self assurance. I think that at my old school, it was really hard because I didn't have a lot of friends since most people there weren't as progressive. I felt ...
by Hel
Wed Dec 09, 2020 11:55 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I'm frustrated
Replies: 2
Views: 220

Re: I'm frustrated

Thank you for the advice. I'll try harder to remind myself I'm not alone. Getting outside definitely is a great idea also. :)
by Hel
Wed Dec 09, 2020 12:53 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Confused about my orientation again
Replies: 5
Views: 347

Confused about my orientation again

This is a really long post, by the way. I've identified as straight all of my life, but I started seriously reconsidering a label for my sexuality about a year ago. It all started when I was single after my ex-boyfriend broke up with me. That was when I realized I was genderfluid as well. I was hang...
by Hel
Wed Dec 09, 2020 12:19 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I'm frustrated
Replies: 2
Views: 220

I'm frustrated

I know it's in the title, but I'm frustrated right now. I finally was able to let go of the trust issues I had that stemmed from my asshole ex-boyfriend. Now I am able to trust my new boyfriend (of about four months now!) very much. He's been so supportive and helpful during hard times I've had thes...
by Hel
Mon Nov 16, 2020 3:52 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Should I come out to my boyfriend?
Replies: 6
Views: 1176

Re: Should I come out to my boyfriend?

I've been with my boyfriend for over three months now. He's very open to the LGBTQ+ community, and has never said anything that seems like he's transphobic, homophobic, etc. I really like that about him. Maybe it's enough that I'm open with my LGBTQ+ views. I've emphasized not liking social norms, e...
by Hel
Tue Nov 03, 2020 3:21 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Long distance stuff
Replies: 6
Views: 802

Re: Long distance stuff

Thank you all for the advice. I certainly hope our relationship lasts as long as possible. I have checked in with him and he was really quite eager to talk about the relationship, and he definitely seemed to want to continue with it. :) I know I tend to over-analyze things, so I’ve decided to take a...
by Hel
Tue Nov 03, 2020 1:07 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Third base?
Replies: 2
Views: 638

Third base?

I just had a few questions about the ranking of different sexual activities in relationships. So when I first kissed my boyfriend, we talked about it beforehand and he wanted to know if kissing was second base - going out on a date/holding hands being the first. (I think he meant kissing on the lips...
by Hel
Tue Nov 03, 2020 12:26 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Long distance stuff
Replies: 6
Views: 802

Re: Long distance stuff

I really want to have these conversations soon, because I feel like they’re important to me. He’s told me he loves me and is serious about me, and constantly talks about spending time with me in person - whenever that is. I just keep overthinking and worrying that he’ll break my heart like my last b...
by Hel
Mon Nov 02, 2020 2:24 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Long distance stuff
Replies: 6
Views: 802

Long distance stuff

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a month now. This is the longest romantic relationship I’ve ever had. Everything has been going well, especially when we were seeing each other in person. But now we’re in different countries and long-distance. We try to video call on regular basis, but it’s no...
by Hel
Mon Nov 02, 2020 10:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 24/7 chats in Europe?
Replies: 2
Views: 381

Re: 24/7 chats in Europe?

Okay, thank you!

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