I have to see my gynecologist in a few weeks anyway for a birth control check-in so if this problem persists I will definitely ask my doctor about it. Until then, I’m menstruating for the week and then I’m just going to take some time away from sex to heal and destress myself for a little. Thank you...

That’s definitely what we’ve been doing and are going to do for a little while! We’ve communicated about it and agreed thats whats best for a little. Do you know if theres any way to heal it if lack of lubrication was the issue? Should more lube help or do I need to allow it to heal? Or is there som...

Well, usually my boyfriend initiates it and well-I’m into because I know that he can make me feel good if that makes sense? He usually starts touching me in ways that get me going as well. Lately, its been getting harder and harder for me to get into it out of the fear its going hurt or I’m going to...

I will definitely give these things a try! We try to spend a lot of time trying to get me there and it does work sometimes. I still find pain/blood even on the times when I am more ready to go than other times. The lube thing I’m definitely going to try. Maybe we need to try reapplying if we’re goin...

Hi! So I actually recently had a test for both chlamydia and gonorrhea and they both came back negative! I also probably should have mentioned I had my first UTI a few weeks ago but have been off antibiotics for about two weeks now and no longer have symptoms. No pain during sex tho, unless we try w...

Hello! So I’ve been having P-in-V sex with the same boy for about six months now, and its been fine for the most part, but the past three times I have had sex, I find that a little while afterward the bones or muscle or something around my vagina feel super sore. Also, when I pee directly after sex,...

Thank you that does help! That article really put my mind at ease. I actually had another quick question about contraception. On days where I forgot a pill, for example, my boyfriend and I will of course use condoms. But for some reason, he says the condom feels too tight on him and makes sex less p...

Hellooo So I've been having anxiety recently about if what I'm doing to protect myself sexually is enough. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. We were each others first time and we are both monogamous. We only became sexually active in September. I've been on the co...

Just wanted to give a little update for anyone who comes across this thread since its been about a month. I took the advice of having “lets see where this goes” sessions. Every time my boyfriend would ask if we’d have vaginal sex, I’d say “I dunno! Let’s see where this goes.” And about a week ago, w...

I like the idea of that, it sounds a lot less pressuring than decided beforehand that the end goal is sex. I think when we hang out next I could definitely talk to him about that and give it a go.It definitely might take a few sessions of not trying to have sex until I feel totally pressure-free, bu...

Hi Amanda, I really like the idea of trying to have him just go around the outside of me without actually penetrating. After our last session of trying didn't work, I did get on top of him and grind on him without wearing underwear and it did feel at least a little less scary now that I think about ...

I’m not totally sure! Sometimes I close my eyes right before he goes in, breathe and release all tension in my body but the second I feel his penis touch me down there I am instantly tense again. I guess maybe I could ask him to say/do calming things to help me out as he tries, if its not too much f...

Yes that is exactly what I'm experiencing!! My anxiety is currently okay, but definitely last week I had a really bad patch of anxiety. I talked to my therapist about it and we've been working through it. I had some stressful life things going on as well. This whole situation also heightens both my ...

Hi Sam! Heres the thing. I did have a lot of anxieties, but I feel as though I did my best to move past them using your advice.We communicate really well now because of that so thank you. I was worried about pregnancy risk, we got birth control and condoms. I was worried about him only wanting me fo...

Hi!! I feel like I'm starting to become a regular on these message boards but if I'm being honest, I guess I just have a lot of issues regarding sex lmao. I was here in the past discussing an issue getting aroused/feeling pleasure. I ended up just taking a break from trying to be sexual with my boyf...

When it comes to buying an actual lube, I wouldn’t even know where to start. I’d order it offline but I live with my parents and they just love to open packages without checking who they’re addressed to. I also don’t know which one to get. I tried doing some research and I figured I’d probably like ...

Hi! So I’ll keep this short. My boyfriend and I both have really bad anxiety about buying sexual products at the store (like, the only reason we have condoms is because they were given to him by his dad). But the first time we tried to have sex (using a lubricated condom, which we thought would be e...

Thank you!! That makes me feel much better. So we hung out yesterday and I was feeling slightly aroused (not fully, but i’ll work with it). When he tried to please me, I asked him to tell me to relax and he basically got the hint of what I wanted. It made it much easier for me to relax and although ...

I think I could definitely give asking him for that a shot. It might be easier having someone else calm me down rather than trying to calm down myself at the same time if that makes sense.

Yeah I agree!! She told me I was still young and that she would be concerned if I was over 25 and it was affecting my marriage or something. I kind of just assumed she knew what she was talking about since she was the doctor. Also thats definitely hard to say, since its hard for me to even tell what...

I decided it was easier for me to sit there and write my answers out so I could look at them. If you’d want to maybe skim them that’d be great, but I understand its quite a lot haha. If you see anything that might stick out it’d be great to know! • How is your general health right now? How is your s...

I also wanted to ask if you guys might know anything that might help me get aroused more often. I know that can vary from person to person so I understand if theres not a clear cut answer. We of course do lots of foreplay and have tried many different things. Even when I’m solo, the things that used...

Well usually we have TV on in the background but thats about it. We also stop to have small conversations every so often. I never try to do things when I don’t want to—and if I did I wouldn’t expect to be enjoyable obviously. Its just the matter of it not feeling good when I want it to.

I think theres a few things that alarm me when his face is that close to my area. Number one is because obviously growing up, that area is taught to be a private area for only me to look at, so the thought of someone else being there just gives me like a general anxious feeling. Number two is that w...

I think somewhere in the middle. If its just his hands down there I think I’ve gotten more comfortable with it. I definitely still get tense if he inserts a finger but thats also getting better with time. But with oral, for example, the idea of his face being down there still gives me way too much a...