Huh, no I haven't brought it up with an OB-GYN; I assumed it was normal and I was just being squicked out about it. I'll keep that in mind for when I next see them.

Glad to hear you think all this fluid might be because I'm still aroused though.

Okay good, glad it's not a huge change. From the stock phrase in stories, I thought I might get cartoon-proportioned lips or something.

I have a vagina, and after I masturbate I end up dripping fluid for the next 12 hours, at least. (Is this on the bell curve of normal?) Not a lot, and not a lot at once, and looking over your fluid guides it seems benign, but it's annoying. I also have mildly annoying vasocongenstion, I think, but i...

I keep hearing in stories that when people make out their lips swell up. So sometimes after I make out with someone I go look in a mirror and my lips look normal. Does that mean I'm not sexually attracted to the person I'm making out with, and vice versa? (Their lips looked pretty normal too.) Are w...

This Song Is (Not) For You is a good one. It's about the relationships between three teenagers as they form a band and decide on what to do after high school. One is asexual, and at least one of them is poly. Or maybe all three of them are poly? It's been a while since I've read it.

Thanks, Mo, Kaizen; I think the framing of sex as shared vulnerability and the comparison to expressing emotions helps.

From the descriptions of sex I've read, it sounds like the people involved don't entirely have control of themselves. They make noises, they move, they emit fluids, partly in response to levels of hormones that they can not directly control once they have circulated around the body. If that's true, ...