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by Elise
Fri May 14, 2021 5:34 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby
Replies: 12
Views: 559

Re: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby

Hi nerd., You've identified something really salient here which is that it is extra hard when the people you should be able to trust most in the world, who were as you so well put it "your person" and also should love you unconditionally fall far from that reality in validating you and cre...
by Elise
Fri May 14, 2021 4:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Life span of sperm
Replies: 5
Views: 41

Re: Life span of sperm

Hi Wave, sperm cannot cause pregnancy when it comes into contact with objects like you identify because they are really fragile cells, and need really specific conditions in which to survive (those conditions are found in vaginal canal, and nowhere else in nature). If sperm aren't ejaculated into th...
by Elise
Fri May 14, 2021 3:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 4
Views: 52

Re: Clit problems

Hi there kdksksk, we've received both you messages and you'll be able to see them in the thread now. New users' first few posts need to be approved and there was a bit of time between you posting and the next person coming online. To your question, it sounds like spending a couple more days to see h...
by Elise
Fri May 14, 2021 3:16 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Timing to take Yasmin pills
Replies: 1
Views: 23

Re: Timing to take Yasmin pills

Hi there Juliaho90, Yes, you are right, pills aren't considered late until 12 hours after the time you would usually take it. On taking it 2 hours early as you described, that is fine too, as you can see in our article here: Birth Control Bingo: The Combination Pill , taking the pill within the same...
by Elise
Fri May 07, 2021 4:16 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby
Replies: 12
Views: 559

Re: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby

Hi nerd., I'm really sorry to hear that you're dealing with this situation with your parents, and that the pandemic is making things more difficult. With regards to your Mom, how do you think it would go if you asked her if you could have your own bank account? If you get money via an allowance or b...
by Elise
Wed May 05, 2021 3:38 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How do I stop masturbating so much
Replies: 1
Views: 293

Re: How do I stop masturbating so much

Hi there an0nb4be, welcome to Scarleteen. Firstly, with regards to your experience in your changing response to masturbation, this is really normal. Novelty can be one of the things that contributes to arousal, when that begins to fade (as all novelty does when we do something a similar way more tha...
by Elise
Wed Apr 28, 2021 7:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I just victimizing myself?
Replies: 10
Views: 285

Re: Am I just victimizing myself?

Hi FestiveFestoon, I'm really glad we were able to provide some support and reassurance and you are taking these next steps! I saw in your reply to Mo that you weren't sure about accessing Medicare. Having it sorted will help you access free healthcare, so here is some info on that, and how the ment...
by Elise
Tue Apr 27, 2021 5:22 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I just victimizing myself?
Replies: 10
Views: 285

Re: Am I just victimizing myself?

Hi there FestiveFestoon, a therapist would be a great person to speak with regarding your self harm, and also to assist you with handling these really hard feelings to deal with and not something you should need to deal with alone. I understand that it can feel really intimidating and a like it woul...
by Elise
Tue Apr 27, 2021 4:31 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Feeling guilty
Replies: 5
Views: 387

Re: Feeling guilty

Hi flores2231, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling about yourself in this way. Firstly, please rest assured that the situation you're describing does not fit the definition of child-on -child sexual abuse; firstly, the situation you describe is a normal one among children this age, they get curio...
by Elise
Tue Apr 27, 2021 3:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pregnancy anxiety ocd
Replies: 8
Views: 873

Re: pregnancy anxiety ocd

Hi there, chiming in here to agree with Mo, the best thing you can do now is work on managing your anxiety, the Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources. can really help you ground yourself, and try to return to what you know is true from the resources linked as you've been doing. Sorry to hear tha...
by Elise
Mon Apr 26, 2021 4:03 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Cleaning
Replies: 5
Views: 663

Re: Cleaning

Hi there Whimsy_Clover, and welcome to Scarleteen! Yes, the vagina cleans and regulates itself with the secretions it makes, and the whole vulva area is best cleaned with a gentle unscented soap, so you're doing great there. The inner thighs are a bit further away, however best to stay with gentle p...
by Elise
Mon Apr 26, 2021 3:46 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Clothing and Tucking
Replies: 3
Views: 295

Re: Clothing and Tucking

Hi Spider_Queen! Good news is that there is an option separate to underwear specifically designed for tucking as you heard about, it's called a “gaff”. A gaff is an undergarment that you can wear untucked (also works tucked when you want to do it); it helps you position your genitals in a way to cre...
by Elise
Sat Apr 24, 2021 5:15 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???
Replies: 4
Views: 195

Re: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???

Hi Hel, I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling quite distressed at the moment. It sounds like, reading your other posts, that you boyfriend has been responding quite well and in a supportive way to your discussions and communication, and also that the events you are describing (not responding to the ...
by Elise
Sat Apr 24, 2021 4:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pregnancy anxiety ocd
Replies: 8
Views: 873

Re: pregnancy anxiety ocd

Hi there Anonymous786, sorry to hear that you're having a difficult time with you anxiety and feeling distressed. Its a really rough space to be in. I can see from your prior threads that anxiety about this topic is something that you have been dealing with for a while; it can take a while to work t...
by Elise
Sat Apr 17, 2021 7:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?
Replies: 12
Views: 616

Re: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?

Hi Dreamlore, very glad to hear that these resources have been useful and that you're finding good tools to manage your anxieties whilst you're waiting to start with a therapist. Just in case you find it useful, I wanted to reassure you that being sexually active in and of itself doesn't impart a go...
by Elise
Sat Apr 17, 2021 6:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Was I abused by my ex?
Replies: 1
Views: 149

Re: Was I abused by my ex?

Hi snailprince, firstly let me just say that I am really sorry to hear that your ex treated you in these ways and that you experienced these things. Yes, the manipulative and coercive behaviours you describe your ex doint are kinds of abuse. Putting this word to experiences we have had can bring up ...
by Elise
Sat Apr 17, 2021 6:20 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I don't feel anything physically during sexual activity
Replies: 8
Views: 460

Re: I don't feel anything physically during sexual activity

Hi themoonandstars, It sounds like you're having difficulty finding a way to experience pleasure from both partnered and solo sex, which can be really frustrating. This is a really common experience for many people, so first please be assured that your body is normal and you are not at all alone in ...
by Elise
Wed Apr 14, 2021 6:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?
Replies: 12
Views: 616

Re: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?

Hi Dreamlore, thank you for reaching out to us here and sorry to hear that you are experiencing such acute distress around this. You are taking a great first step in recognising your anxiety, getting yourself in a waiting list for therapy and seeking informed advice. In the scenarios that you descri...
by Elise
Thu Apr 08, 2021 5:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 6
Views: 725

Re: Clit problems

Hi jenny01, Sounds like you're starting to work out what works for you in terms of arousal already! In terms of exploring this further, you might find some articles I'll list at the bottom of this post to be useful. It can be useful to remember also that your stress levels, sense of safety and priva...
by Elise
Thu Apr 08, 2021 4:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: New to Sex Toys
Replies: 3
Views: 428

Re: New to Sex Toys

Hi there smallowo79, sorry to hear that your first time using a vibrator that you were excited to try was an upsetting experience for you. Masturbation and how we experience genital stimulation is unique to every person, and many folks can take a while to work out what works for them. Firstly, how a...
by Elise
Mon Jun 15, 2020 2:11 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Residual feelings
Replies: 5
Views: 1387

Re: Residual feelings

Hi ballerina99 - firstly, you have taken a brave first step outlining this all here and taking a first step to unpacking this. I can empathise as someone who has had similar doubts about themselves. I think your sentence at the end really sums up this emotional experience well "I never like peo...

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