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by Elise
Sat Jul 02, 2022 3:44 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Into pup play at 16? Help
Replies: 1
Views: 61

Re: Into pup play at 16? Help

Hi there Thefloooff, and welcome to Scarleteen. First of all let me say well done on thinking about your personal safety when staying safe and not interacting in adult online spaces. Also well done at acquiring a craft like leather-working, I know that takes a lot of patience and skill! With regards...
by Elise
Sat Jul 02, 2022 3:29 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masochism versus self-harm?
Replies: 3
Views: 59

Re: Masochism versus self-harm?

Hi there brungerbulb, what you tell to healthcare professionals in your life is in the end, your own decision, and whilst it isn't a good idea to lie, but since you and your therapist agree that this behaviour is not self harm but rather something you do safely, for pleasure , then you don't need to...
by Elise
Wed Jun 29, 2022 5:42 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 28
Views: 960

Re: Accepting my sexuality

I've never listened much to podcasts so thank you for your advice and I'd be grateful for any recommendations. It's hard for me to come up with a topic I'm interested in, I realized I haven't been spending much time doing things I like lately so I don't even know what that is. But in general I like...
by Elise
Wed Jun 29, 2022 5:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Difficulty with penetration
Replies: 3
Views: 109

Re: Difficulty with penetration

Hi there discoveringme, sorry to hear that this situation is leading to you not feeling great about yourself at the moment. Many folks with vaginas face difficulty with things inserted in the vagina, so you are not alone, however I acknowledge that this may not make things any less frustrating at th...
by Elise
Wed Jun 29, 2022 4:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pain with Penatration
Replies: 3
Views: 86

Re: Pain with Penatration

Hi there Lovergirl95, I'm sorry to hear that this is causing you some pain and frustration at the moment. Sometimes, what can be the issue is tensing up before trying to insert something because you're expecting pain, and/or because you're putting pressure on yourself to have inserting something int...
by Elise
Sat Jun 25, 2022 9:56 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Grounding Techniques!
Replies: 3
Views: 152

Re: Grounding Techniques!

I have a few favourites! The thing with grounding exercises is that even if they don't entirely take away your distress but reduce it for a period of time, and that helps you cope/have a bit of a break, then they are still useful. You can use them as often as you need. A couple that can even be depl...
by Elise
Sat Jun 25, 2022 9:08 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 28
Views: 960

Re: Accepting my sexuality

But I'll definitely use the chance that there's no risk they might come into my room unexpectedly the next few days and try some podstasts, I had no idea it was possible to listen to them without registering or downloading so thanks so much for the advice!  Hi there Theansweris42, just popping in t...
by Elise
Sat Jun 25, 2022 6:10 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 28
Views: 960

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi Theansweris42, thank you for sharing your thoughts of solidarity with us here, it is appreciated, I'm sure particularly by our staff and volunteers in the US. One thing I learned a while ago now is that just because there are other traumas and difficulties in the world, it doesn't make the challe...
by Elise
Sat Jun 25, 2022 5:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Weird adult in friend group
Replies: 7
Views: 306

Re: Weird adult in friend group

Hi waterhyacinth, sorry to hear that you are in a position where you feel like you don't have many adults to turn to in your life right now. Do you know why your parents want to take you out of therapy? Is this something that you want/agree with, or not? Is there a counsellor or teacher at school th...
by Elise
Sat Jun 25, 2022 4:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to Know if I'm Ready
Replies: 3
Views: 217

Re: How to Know if I'm Ready

Hi there queenoftask, and welcome to Scarleteen. You've asked a few different questions here (which I'm glad you felt comfortable asking us), about masturbation, how you might know when you are ready for partnered sex, and also decision making when it comes to approaching a partner. To start with th...
by Elise
Fri Jun 24, 2022 4:07 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming
Replies: 7
Views: 3867

Re: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming

Hi there jadedoor08, and welcome to Scarleteen. We're happy to chat with you about this, everyone is different so what might work for one person might not be exactly what another needs. Have you tried indirect stimulation (essentially having something between the clit and stimulation that diffuses t...
by Elise
Thu Jun 23, 2022 4:55 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: What Queer Media have you been loving lately?
Replies: 0
Views: 80

What Queer Media have you been loving lately?

This Pride we posted a new batch of Queer Media Recs , this joins last years’s recommendations and Some Books and Balms for Nonbinary Folks . Have you tried some of these yourself? If so what did you think, did something capture your imagination, big or small? What queer media have you been loving t...
by Elise
Sun Jun 19, 2022 3:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing virginity
Replies: 15
Views: 571

Re: Losing virginity

Glad to hear you're doing much better Emm5. If you have any questions or want to chat anything in the future, please don't hesitate to reach out to us here at Scarleteen 😊
by Elise
Sun Jun 19, 2022 12:59 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Sexual identity
Replies: 5
Views: 414

Re: Sexual identity

Glad to hear that opening helped you feel better, having someone to talk to can be a really important part of working through these things. You are welcome to chat to us about questions/from from reading the articles here. If you are comfortable answering/engaging in this line of discussion: have yo...
by Elise
Sun Jun 19, 2022 12:46 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What will testosterone do to my sex drive?
Replies: 4
Views: 227

Re: What will testosterone do to my sex drive?

Hi there brungerbulb, I'm glad to here that Michaela and Mo were able to help you feel reassured and better 😊. Speaking to your therapist and showing her this thread sounds like an excellent plan, and talking to her about this whilst waiting for all the admin to get done to get HRT sounds great too....
by Elise
Sun Jun 19, 2022 12:32 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Tingly feel in vagina
Replies: 3
Views: 117

Re: Tingly feel in vagina

Hi there Afi, since you are having a burning sensation after urinating you should see a doctor as you may have a urinary tract infection (UTI), or a yeast infection. These are easily treated and many people, particularly people with vulvas have had to deal with one, the other, or both at times in th...
by Elise
Sun Jun 19, 2022 12:12 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I think I have phimosis
Replies: 7
Views: 255

Re: I think I have phimosis

Hi XX, glad to hear that you're in a situation where you are able to flag an issue with your parents and ask questions about your health. I would say it would be better to go sooner rather than later, just to make sure that actually that this cream is a good idea before using it, and to get an actua...
by Elise
Sat Jun 18, 2022 11:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Weird adult in friend group
Replies: 7
Views: 306

Re: Weird adult in friend group

Hi there waterhyacinth, whilst I'm sorry to here that you find yourself dealing with this kind of situation, I'm glad you felt comfortable asking us about this. From what you are describing, I would say you are very very wise to be listening to your instincts here, the fact that you are able to note...
by Elise
Sat Jun 18, 2022 12:27 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Sexual identity
Replies: 5
Views: 414

Re: Sexual identity

Hi there jq2022, and welcome to Scarleteen. From your post, it sounds like that you have faced some really difficult challeges in life that would have needed a lot of strength to navigate through. There are many people here and out in the world who can relate to your experiences, and reading writing...
by Elise
Fri Jun 03, 2022 5:52 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: masturbation doesnt feel the same anymore
Replies: 1
Views: 248

Re: masturbation doesnt feel the same anymore

Hi there wawa4455 and welcome to Scarleteen. What you're experiencing is actually a really common thing, most people find what they like sexually and what they find arousing can change over time, and situationally, depending on what is going on in their lives. This is explained really well in this a...
by Elise
Fri Jun 03, 2022 5:22 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is there something wrong with me
Replies: 10
Views: 971

Re: Is there something wrong with me

Hi Opal, everyone is on their own timeline as far as working about how they may experience arousal, so your age is not the most important factor here. As Heather mentioned, putting pressure on yourself (which can include thinking you need to have experienced certain things by a certain age), can hav...
by Elise
Thu Jun 02, 2022 4:06 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can't stop thinking about masturbating
Replies: 1
Views: 280

Re: I can't stop thinking about masturbating

Hi there Euge, and welcome to Scarleteen! So, when you say that you "know" this from YouTube, are you able to tell us the things you heard/saw on videos there that make you feel this way? I ask because all the information on there isn't necessarily as correct or based on current informatio...
by Elise
Thu May 26, 2022 4:50 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Seeking out information/where to go from here
Replies: 5
Views: 313

Re: Seeking out information/where to go from here

Hi Lucy4, a curiosity to clarify, are you saying that you haven't come across folks who are asexual who haven't tried sexual things before to "work that out"? There are asexual/aromatic folks who haven't done things that way, so even if those labels don't feel right for you and your interi...
by Elise
Thu May 26, 2022 4:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know I'm not missing red flags?
Replies: 16
Views: 1186

Re: How do I know I'm not missing red flags?

Hi there ndisg, sorry to hear that it's a bit rough at the moment for you. It is totally okay to feel sad about a relationship ending, even if you know it is the best decision. We have some resources on our main site that you may find useful at this time (our main site is dark at the moment but will...
by Elise
Sun May 22, 2022 3:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penetration just wont happen and sensory issues suck
Replies: 3
Views: 381

Re: Penetration just wont happen and sensory issues suck

Hi BatsNCats, first let me reassure you that you are not "stupid" or "broken" if your hymen (another name for it is vaginal corona ) or something else is making it hard for you to insert anything in your vagina. This is something a lot of people have difficulty with, and a doctor...

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