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by Elise
Thu May 05, 2022 4:57 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Polyam Relationship Advice
Replies: 73
Views: 946

Re: Polyam Relationship Advice

Hi there Mixxes, that sounds like a good development that you've come to understand that you want your friendship network to stand separately from any polyam relationship structure you have in future, so that you don't feel caught in the middle of any relationship conflict, nor have the relationship...
by Elise
Sat Apr 30, 2022 11:11 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 46
Views: 3401

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Hi MusicNerd, thank you for this update! It is wonderful to hear that things are going so well for you, and that you are exploring things with your partner with clear and understanding communication, at a pace that works for you both. You are right that this kind of relationship comes with vulnerabi...
by Elise
Sun Apr 24, 2022 7:09 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 571

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hi BuddyBoi21, sorry to hear that this was particularly painful because it was losing a partner and a friend, it is completely natural to feel that grief, and also important to give it space to feel that loss. Whilst I know it is hard to do sometimes, remembering that relationships involve more than...
by Elise
Sun Apr 24, 2022 6:14 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 571

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hi there BuddyBoi21, I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling with self love, and healing from this past relationship experiences. These are really big and interconnected things that many people struggle with, and you have articulated how these take form for yourself really well. It's a big first s...
by Elise
Sun Apr 24, 2022 5:43 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: My sister told my mom that I am a lesbian. Please help!
Replies: 17
Views: 712

Re: My sister told my mom that I am a lesbian. Please help!

Hi there shypixie, I hope the article is helpful to you, and there is no need to apologies for the timing of your reply, we understand everyone has their own schedules, time it takes to consider our responses, and windows of time where they feel they can access our services safely. I'm sorry to hear...
by Elise
Thu Apr 21, 2022 5:46 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: The idea of sex makes me dysphoric
Replies: 5
Views: 402

Re: The idea of sex makes me dysphoric

Hi there truly-bluely, I'm sorry to hear that the dysphoria is so intense for you at the moment. Thank you for being comfortable sharing more about it with us. When you say that you don't fully trust that your therapist doesn't have the necessary expertise or perspective to discuss your dysphoria, a...
by Elise
Thu Apr 21, 2022 5:30 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Advice
Replies: 7
Views: 276

Re: Advice

Hi there camcat, I'm sorry to hear that someone that you considered a friend is not listening to you, and prioritising his feelings over your own, and trying to make you feel bad when you shouldn't. Your instincts are right, the best thing for you at the moment is to have some time away from him and...
by Elise
Thu Apr 21, 2022 5:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trying to cum from clit after a while
Replies: 5
Views: 415

Re: Trying to cum from clit after a while

Hi Cream berry, sorry that you're having some frustration on this still, one thing to consider is that you might need a bit of a longer break, as a short break did help a bit. Side effects of medication are worth thinking about also, as there are some kinds of medication in particular that can chang...
by Elise
Thu Apr 21, 2022 5:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: getting fingered, feels good at the start but then i cant feel it at all
Replies: 1
Views: 318

Re: getting fingered, feels good at the start but then i cant feel it at all

Hi there klee, welcome to Scarleteen. Sorry to hear that you're having a bit of frustration with this at the moment. If you feel comfortable answering, have you done much experimenting with masturbation in your own time to see what you like best with manual sex so you can direct your boyfriend to tr...
by Elise
Thu Apr 21, 2022 3:52 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: question
Replies: 1
Views: 126

Re: question

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about, you mentioned that this fear is very persistent and we can talk to you about the fear and anxiety you have and help with addressing it. At the end of this post there are some tool...
by Elise
Sun Apr 17, 2022 6:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question about relationship
Replies: 7
Views: 271

Re: Question about relationship

Hi ndisg, I am so glad to hear that we were able to assist 😊 It is also great to hear that you have friends that you can speak to about things, having supportive people in your life is so important. Also that is a wonderful first step you have taken in contacting the mental health services at your u...
by Elise
Sun Apr 17, 2022 4:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question about relationship
Replies: 7
Views: 271

Re: Question about relationship

Hi ndisg, yes, usually when talking about situations where someone saying "I love you" is "too soon", that "too soon" is where the relationship has not existed long enough for the people in it to know each other well at all, and have developed a level of emotional intim...
by Elise
Sat Apr 09, 2022 3:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depo Shot
Replies: 7
Views: 397

Re: Depo Shot

Hi Holly55, your healthcare provider will be able to provide more of the medical information on this, but essentially you might find you get a very light discharge/spotting/one final period depending on exactly where in your cycle the shot was administered and therefore how much uterine lining built...
by Elise
Sat Apr 09, 2022 3:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why do I feel hardly any pleasure?
Replies: 11
Views: 768

Re: Why do I feel hardly any pleasure?

Hi tulipgardener77, I hope the visit to the OB/GYN sheds some light. One thing to note is that "knows more" is more of a topic thing. OB/GYNs know a lot about the physical and medical parts of things, so they will be able to examine and help you with if there are any physiological issues e...
by Elise
Sat Apr 02, 2022 3:53 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to stop making a mess
Replies: 3
Views: 235

Re: How to stop making a mess

Hi there Otter8, I'm glad that you feel comfortable enough to ask this question here, there is no need to apologise for asking this, it is the kind of question that we are here to answer! You might find making/buying a masturbation sleeve to be useful, as you will ejaculate inside it and it is there...
by Elise
Sat Mar 26, 2022 5:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Uncomfortable reading the articles here
Replies: 3
Views: 308

Re: Uncomfortable reading the articles here

Hi Astra, sorry to hear that you're struggling with feelings of discomfort at the moment. The level of detail provided shows you have a great level of self awareness, so no need to apologise for a lack of specificity, you actually have noticed a lot about yourself and that isn't something that comes...
by Elise
Sat Mar 26, 2022 4:57 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Signs a binder is too tight?
Replies: 1
Views: 344

Re: Signs a binder is too tight?

Hi there Astra, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm glad to hear that you have been aware of healthy binding before starting to wear your first binder. First of all, please rest assured that finding the right fit is something that many people have teething issues with at first. What I'm hearing is that w...
by Elise
Fri Mar 25, 2022 2:27 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How to get rid of kink/fetish/fantasy??
Replies: 1
Views: 434

Re: How to get rid of kink/fetish/fantasy??

Hi there redrook18, I'm really sorry to hear that you are experiencing so much distress. Before we head into the discussion, do you have any self-soothing or distress tolerance techniques that you know that you could use? I'll put some links here for you that might help if you need some/some more: S...
by Elise
Thu Feb 17, 2022 3:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Cannot orgasm anymore
Replies: 63
Views: 8005

Re: Cannot orgasm anymore

Hi Rubix, I'm so glad to hear that TrevorSpace has been a positive experience for you! I hope you can continue to enjoy finding connection with other trans folks 😊 I'm also glad to hear that you are starting to find different techniques that work for you when masturbating. In terms of it taking long...
by Elise
Sat Feb 12, 2022 6:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penetration problems
Replies: 3
Views: 1360

Re: Penetration problems

Hi irondeficient, glad to help. Being able to insert a finger that far bodes well for you being able to locate the opening in a mirror. It might also help to generally feel around what you can feel there (putting lube on the finger may help), if there is a slight bend you can navigate, or if you mig...
by Elise
Sat Feb 12, 2022 6:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Help!! Implantation bleeding?
Replies: 1
Views: 874

Re: Help!! Implantation bleeding?

Hi there Eyeluvpickles - the only way you can know you're pregnant or not for sure is to take a pregnancy test, given that you used a condom, the risk is low. It sounds like you're feeling really stressed about this at the moment, so if you can take a moment to breathe and if you have some technique...
by Elise
Sat Feb 12, 2022 5:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Cannot orgasm anymore
Replies: 63
Views: 8005

Re: Cannot orgasm anymore

Hi there Rubix, I can very much relate to the idea of being super busy and feeling the need to "do all the things"! What I've found can help is to break down something into tiny goals, and then you can also better assess what time it'll take up and how you'll get there. For example: Step 1...
by Elise
Sat Feb 12, 2022 3:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penetration problems
Replies: 3
Views: 1360

Re: Penetration problems

Hi there irondeficient, and welcome to Scarleteen. The vaginal canal is actually not entirely a straight line and can sit at varied angles for individuals, and this might not be intuitive at first. Have you ever tried inserting anything that is a bit smaller than a toy? Say a finger or a tampon or m...
by Elise
Fri Feb 11, 2022 2:57 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Agender in the professional world
Replies: 14
Views: 4557

Re: Agender in the professional world

Hi Raffles, glad to hear that Emily's advice has helped you be able to form a plan of when and how you will speak with your colleague about this. If it helps to think about, we are all rooting for you and hope it goes really well. Do let us know how you go!
by Elise
Fri Feb 11, 2022 2:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Cannot orgasm anymore
Replies: 63
Views: 8005

Re: Cannot orgasm anymore

Hi there Rubix, there is an online community run by the Trevor project that you might like here: TrevorSpace (an affirming, online community for LGBTQ young people between the ages of 13-24 years old run by The Trevor Project). I'm sure that other volunteers and staff will have some good recommendat...

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