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by Elise
Tue Sep 13, 2022 4:48 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: What is one of your favourite ways of connecting with your body?
Replies: 3
Views: 436

What is one of your favourite ways of connecting with your body?

Understanding how you can connect with your body in a way that brings you joy can bring some great mental health benefits. For me, jogging in outdoors is that thing. It destresses me and brings me an appreciation of how my body works and takes me places, and the energy release is great too 😊 What ha...
by Elise
Fri Sep 09, 2022 5:11 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What would you tell your past self about sex?
Replies: 4
Views: 634

Re: What would you tell your past self about sex?

I would tell myself that there is no "one way" to have good sex that you need to learn and be able to do ✨automagically✨ without any discussion with a partner, and it's really about communication and exploring together in a space of trust. I wold love to send these two articles to myself: ...
by Elise
Thu Sep 08, 2022 3:10 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Bleeding + pain don't got better after first time
Replies: 1
Views: 152

Re: Bleeding + pain don't got better after first time

Hi there Spacewatcher98 and welcome to Scarleteen. Given that this has to do with your recovery from a gynaecological surgery, your next step should be to talk with your surgeon, as you may have accidentality disrupted the healing from your surgery. They'll be able to check that everything is okay a...
by Elise
Fri Sep 02, 2022 4:44 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Questioning if I'm a lesbian, pansensual with a strong preference for the female gender spectrum (or maybe neither?)
Replies: 3
Views: 219

Re: Questioning if I'm a lesbian, pansensual with a strong preference for the female gender spectrum (or maybe neither?)

Hi AutisticQueer, it sounds like you have some clear ideas on how you feel about having sex with men, which are completely valid and I can see you've thought about these deeply. I'm glad to hear that you like Heather's idea of focusing on what you find pleasurable on the time being, and see where th...
by Elise
Fri Sep 02, 2022 3:47 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Antibiotic and birth control
Replies: 2
Views: 350

Re: Antibiotic and birth control

Hi there littlemissp, and thanks for your question. When people talk about the interactions between medications, its about the active ingredients in those medications interacting with each other. Instead here what we're looking at what seems like the side effect of the antibiotic (diarrhea and vomit...
by Elise
Mon Aug 29, 2022 5:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: feeling discouraged when i masturbate
Replies: 5
Views: 531

Re: feeling discouraged when i masturbate

Hi latte, firstly I’d like to echo what Sam said up top, our most important sex organ is our brain, and when we’re really focused or stressed about orgasm, then that counterintuitively takes some of our brains bandwidth to enjoy sexual touch away as it’s thinking “hey we don’t have time for orgasmin...
by Elise
Mon Aug 29, 2022 3:47 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friends and mental illness
Replies: 13
Views: 464

Re: Friends and mental illness

Hi there Raffles, it could help to consider that with friends, asking for their support is different than asking for them to solve or fix an issue/illness. Being there for each other is an important part of social connection. I’m going to take a guess that if you had a friend who broke their ankle a...
by Elise
Mon Aug 29, 2022 3:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Underlying fears
Replies: 4
Views: 1967

Re: Underlying fears

Hi Aaru257, you’ll see that you’ve been redirected to thread again. In addition to rereading the Pregnancy Panic companion , could you please take a look at this article: You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You Think You Are? , and if you feel comfortable doing so, let us know your thoughts/what stands out ...
by Elise
Mon Aug 29, 2022 3:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question
Replies: 2
Views: 258

Re: Question

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about, you mentioned that this fear is very persistent and we can talk to you about the fear and anxiety you have and help with addressing it. At the end of this post there are some tool...
by Elise
Thu Aug 25, 2022 5:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i only like the thought of dating men and in a romantic relationship with a guy if i was a guy
Replies: 7
Views: 363

Re: i only like the thought of dating men and in a romantic relationship with a guy if i was a guy

Hi there princesspark, I’m glad to hear that your boyfriend and you can communicate openly on things and he is respecting your boundaries. It is also okay to not want to talk to him about gender things yet if you’re still working it out, but it could be a good idea to communicate clearly that you ne...
by Elise
Thu Aug 25, 2022 4:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First time experience
Replies: 4
Views: 345

Re: First time experience

Hi there Isles, the social conventions around sex being this ultimate romantic expression, and also shaming people for having multiple partners in their lives are unfortunately narratives that still are told and some people believe, however many, many people now understand that it is highly uncommon...
by Elise
Thu Aug 25, 2022 3:58 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Punishment
Replies: 15
Views: 678

Re: Punishment

Hi there Emily, I’m sorry to hear that you’re dealing with this at the moment. Yes, sometimes people choose consequences that are primarily made to shame/hurt the person doing the thing, however not all need be like this. The type that Heather are describing can be about acknowledging that you did s...
by Elise
Fri Aug 19, 2022 7:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: will drinking too much water with the mini pill make it less effective
Replies: 3
Views: 305

Re: will drinking too much water with the mini pill make it less effective

Not a worry, it is always a good idea to ask a question if you are not sure. If you are having diarrhoea that would be a concern (because the pill might pass through your digestive tract too quickly), but if it just that you are urinating more because of the water, then that is okay.
by Elise
Fri Aug 19, 2022 6:53 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: will drinking too much water with the mini pill make it less effective
Replies: 3
Views: 305

Re: will drinking too much water with the mini pill make it less effective

Hi Jaxmang, drinking a lot of water unless you drank so so much that it made you vomit won't effect the effectiveness of your mini-pill.

You can read more about the mini pill that you may find useful here on our main website: Birth Control Bingo: Minipills
by Elise
Sun Jul 24, 2022 3:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fantasies about sex during summer (and friends next year)
Replies: 14
Views: 753

Re: Fantasies about sex during summer (and friends next year)

Hi Estobawk, it sounds like you've had the opportunity to do some great self reflection, and I'm glad to hear that the articles and discussion have helped you with that. Also, it can be pretty tricky to do that reflection when you are having to think about how things aren't what you'd ideally like t...
by Elise
Sun Jul 24, 2022 3:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Are my masturbation habits normal?
Replies: 9
Views: 752

Re: Are my masturbation habits normal?

Hi there RowleinL, there isn't any health risk in waiting for your erection to go down. This is actually called "vasocongestion" and is actually about the increased bloodflow to your genitals (which is what makes an erection happen) rather than semen build up. As such, relieving the pressu...
by Elise
Sun Jul 24, 2022 2:33 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously
Replies: 7
Views: 468

Re: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously

Hi dependantdragon, that is very thoughtful and caring of of you to be thinking about how you can help your boyfriend, and a great level of self awareness you have around your own capacity to help so you can take care of yourself too. Below are some links to various UK based resources that could hel...
by Elise
Sun Jul 24, 2022 1:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question
Replies: 1
Views: 255

Re: Question

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about, you mentioned that this fear is very persistent and we can talk to you about the fear and anxiety you have and help with addressing it. At the end of this post there are some tool...
by Elise
Wed Jul 20, 2022 3:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fantasies about sex during summer (and friends next year)
Replies: 14
Views: 753

Re: Fantasies about sex during summer (and friends next year)

Hi there Estobawk, it sounds like there’s a lot that’s going on for you that is quite intense and in some cases new for you at the moment. You might find it comforting to hear that you are very much not alone here, many young people experience awkwardness/concern about having platonic friendships wi...
by Elise
Sat Jul 09, 2022 11:40 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 101
Views: 12580

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi there Theansweris42, whilst I'm sorry to hear that you are going to be in a stressful situation where you can't ask for personal space, I'm glad that you have ways of carving this out for yourself with music and books and cope that way. I would just like to gently challenge the idea that "mo...
by Elise
Sat Jul 09, 2022 11:26 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can’t find my clit
Replies: 7
Views: 5333

Re: I can’t find my clit

Hi there brii, sorry to hear that this is causing you some frustration at the moment. It can be really tricky to feel comfortable exploring what brings you pleasure via masturbation when you feel you aren't comfortable, or don't have enough privacy. Would you say that you were feely comfortable in t...
by Elise
Sat Jul 02, 2022 3:44 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Into pup play at 16? Help
Replies: 1
Views: 3555

Re: Into pup play at 16? Help

Hi there Thefloooff, and welcome to Scarleteen. First of all let me say well done on thinking about your personal safety when staying safe and not interacting in adult online spaces. Also well done at acquiring a craft like leather-working, I know that takes a lot of patience and skill! With regards...
by Elise
Sat Jul 02, 2022 3:29 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masochism versus self-harm?
Replies: 3
Views: 4153

Re: Masochism versus self-harm?

Hi there brungerbulb, what you tell to healthcare professionals in your life is in the end, your own decision, and whilst it isn't a good idea to lie, but since you and your therapist agree that this behaviour is not self harm but rather something you do safely, for pleasure , then you don't need to...
by Elise
Wed Jun 29, 2022 5:42 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 101
Views: 12580

Re: Accepting my sexuality

I've never listened much to podcasts so thank you for your advice and I'd be grateful for any recommendations. It's hard for me to come up with a topic I'm interested in, I realized I haven't been spending much time doing things I like lately so I don't even know what that is. But in general I like...
by Elise
Wed Jun 29, 2022 5:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Difficulty with penetration
Replies: 5
Views: 2508

Re: Difficulty with penetration

Hi there discoveringme, sorry to hear that this situation is leading to you not feeling great about yourself at the moment. Many folks with vaginas face difficulty with things inserted in the vagina, so you are not alone, however I acknowledge that this may not make things any less frustrating at th...

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