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by Elise
Mon Nov 28, 2022 3:51 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 142
Views: 26075

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi Theansweris42, sorry to hear that you've run into an administrative block with your school email, which I assume your parents monitor? In terms of writing things down privately first, could writing a draft of what you want to say in your private email drafts help to keep it private, even if you'd...
by Elise
Mon Nov 28, 2022 2:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fetish/kink
Replies: 21
Views: 640

Re: Fetish/kink

Hi Mop, I'm sorry to hear that this experience causing you strong feelings of shame at the moment. As the other volunteers and staff were mentioning, it could be good to look at this not from a sexuality perspective, but through an OCD perspective, looking at why you're having intrusive thoughts abo...
by Elise
Mon Nov 28, 2022 2:26 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: how to stop being horny
Replies: 5
Views: 161

Re: how to stop being horny

Hi there purple_triangle, sorry to hear that you're dealing with these kinds of difficult feelings at the moment, feeling that you might secretly be "bad" is something that a lot of people struggle with (even when they aren't really that way), however whilst I hope this might assist in hel...
by Elise
Fri Nov 25, 2022 4:17 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Carving out personal space at holiday gatherings
Replies: 0
Views: 67

Carving out personal space at holiday gatherings

During holiday periods with large/lengthy family gatherings that may involve staying with family - many people have difficulty having time or space to themselves, which is particularly heightened when difficult family members or dynamics are involved. With a major holiday period approaching, now is ...
by Elise
Fri Nov 25, 2022 3:29 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
Replies: 15
Views: 385

Re: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that

Hi Anne, hope you have a relaxing weekend ahead after a busy week.

In terms of having alternate activities for when your down, would you be open to exploring other activities you could try that are not as dependant on supplies? We could assist with brainstorming if you would like?
by Elise
Fri Nov 25, 2022 3:21 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Throuple Sex Insecurities and Worries
Replies: 19
Views: 5111

Re: Throuple Sex Insecurities and Worries

Hi there Mixxes, sorry to hear you’re having some stressful interactions with Lake right now. It sounds like he isn’t coping very well with things at the moment, and sometimes that can lead to people not making a lot of sense when they’re under stress, and sometimes the threat of a relationship endi...
by Elise
Fri Nov 25, 2022 2:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bisexuality
Replies: 16
Views: 277

Re: Bisexuality

Hi there NCHolmes, I have read back on your thread and am sorry to hear that you're having to deal with the impact of the choice your partner has made to be dishonest with you. Taking some time to process your feelings and have some personal space by your husband staying elsewhere sound like a good ...
by Elise
Fri Nov 25, 2022 2:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: question
Replies: 2
Views: 157

Re: question

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about, you mentioned that this fear is very persistent and we can talk to you about the fear and anxiety you have and help with addressing it. At the end of this post there are some tool...
by Elise
Tue Nov 01, 2022 12:15 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Homemade dildos
Replies: 5
Views: 3576

Re: Homemade dildos

Hi there Bi Guy, you need to buy yourself a second hairbrush particularly if it is being used anally. You should use a condom on it and then wash it with soap and hot water. I also want to note that if you have access to your own money, there is no legal minimum age to buy a sex toy. There are some ...
by Elise
Sat Oct 29, 2022 9:14 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I’m 13 and I’m weird
Replies: 5
Views: 2507

Re: I’m 13 and I’m weird

Hi there LisaRose, sorry to hear that you're finding things tricky at the moment. Perhaps it might help to consider that whilst you take your time to feel comfortable with your own sexuality, that everyone has the right to privacy including you, and has their own internal thoughts that they don't sh...
by Elise
Sat Oct 29, 2022 8:56 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Too many people in my sex life
Replies: 1
Views: 1951

Re: Too many people in my sex life

Hi there spottedowl, it sounds like you have a lot of stressors going on in your life right now, and it makes total sense that these are having an effect on your sexual response system at the moment. As you may have seen on the main Scarleteen site or on other forum responses brain is a really impor...
by Elise
Sat Oct 29, 2022 8:36 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 15
Views: 4396

Re: Masturbation

Hi there Sienna, To answer your questions: Vaginal "tightness" is one of the bigger myths out there at the moment. Really that sensation is about how relaxed or aroused someone is, which can also vary from person to person. So the fact that you can fit what you want to use for masturbation...
by Elise
Sat Oct 29, 2022 8:12 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: advice for talking with a crush
Replies: 1
Views: 1552

Re: advice for talking with a crush

Hi there hoid_washington, I'm glad to hear that you were comfortable asking a question here with us. One thing that it can help to think about right off the bat is to say that "flirting" as depicted in media as this kind of cryptic and innuendo-but-not-too-much is not a mode of communicati...
by Elise
Sat Oct 29, 2022 6:23 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: help
Replies: 1
Views: 1535

Re: help

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about in future if you'd like. There are lots of really good resources in the below links and message that can help you understand how pregnancy works and why the situation you describe ...
by Elise
Sat Oct 15, 2022 6:20 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: The joy of small projects
Replies: 2
Views: 1104

The joy of small projects

Recently I set myself a goal of relearning how to ride a bike, which for me was a short term (achievable in a short timeframe as I knew how as a child) but also would be significant as it was something that would have an actual impact on my life. Having done this, I realised how useful it was to hav...
by Elise
Mon Oct 10, 2022 4:17 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 142
Views: 26075

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi there Theansweris42, I’m so glad to hear you were able to have a really engaging conversation with your teacher and it sounds like change his mind on an issue through conversation, well done! That can be a stressful situation to be in and a skill that can be tricky to develop and sounds like you ...
by Elise
Mon Oct 10, 2022 4:06 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: do i even bother with pronouns
Replies: 2
Views: 1042

Re: do i even bother with pronouns

Hi there Jawz and welcome to Scarleteen! I’m sorry to hear that you’re experiencing disrespect in this way from your coworkers, I hope that whilst it doesn’t make things better in a practical way, that hearing that you’re not at all wrong to feel frustrated and dejected by this situation, as it can ...
by Elise
Mon Oct 10, 2022 3:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vibrator & Partnered Sex
Replies: 12
Views: 979

Re: Vibrator & Partnered Sex

Hi there MissConfused, I’m sorry to hear that you’re having a rough and confusing time at the moment. One thing that may help to consider is that your brain is a really important part of sexual response , and in a way that it more about what, or who you find arousing. The amount of stress we feel, i...
by Elise
Fri Oct 07, 2022 10:26 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: trouble fantasizing
Replies: 1
Views: 814

Re: trouble fantasizing

Hi there purple_triangle, sorry to hear you're finding things a bit frustrating at the moment, hopefully having the opportunity for some venting has already been a bit helpful! With regards to suggestions, would writing down the ideas you have when you think of them in a private notes space in your ...
by Elise
Fri Oct 07, 2022 10:05 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sensitive Clit...I think?
Replies: 3
Views: 757

Re: Sensitive Clit...I think?

Hi there Kittycat97 and welcome to Scarleteen! Sorry to hear that you're finding things a bit frustrating in terms of experiencing sexual pleasure at the moment. It might help to read a bit more about the clitoris, and manual sex (which is a more accurate term than "foreplay" as it is actu...
by Elise
Tue Sep 13, 2022 4:48 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: What is one of your favourite ways of connecting with your body?
Replies: 3
Views: 1421

What is one of your favourite ways of connecting with your body?

Understanding how you can connect with your body in a way that brings you joy can bring some great mental health benefits. For me, jogging in outdoors is that thing. It destresses me and brings me an appreciation of how my body works and takes me places, and the energy release is great too 😊 What ha...
by Elise
Fri Sep 09, 2022 5:11 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What would you tell your past self about sex?
Replies: 4
Views: 1831

Re: What would you tell your past self about sex?

I would tell myself that there is no "one way" to have good sex that you need to learn and be able to do ✨automagically✨ without any discussion with a partner, and it's really about communication and exploring together in a space of trust. I wold love to send these two articles to myself: ...
by Elise
Thu Sep 08, 2022 3:10 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Bleeding + pain don't got better after first time
Replies: 1
Views: 932

Re: Bleeding + pain don't got better after first time

Hi there Spacewatcher98 and welcome to Scarleteen. Given that this has to do with your recovery from a gynaecological surgery, your next step should be to talk with your surgeon, as you may have accidentality disrupted the healing from your surgery. They'll be able to check that everything is okay a...
by Elise
Fri Sep 02, 2022 4:44 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Questioning if I'm a lesbian, pansensual with a strong preference for the female gender spectrum (or maybe neither?)
Replies: 3
Views: 515

Re: Questioning if I'm a lesbian, pansensual with a strong preference for the female gender spectrum (or maybe neither?)

Hi AutisticQueer, it sounds like you have some clear ideas on how you feel about having sex with men, which are completely valid and I can see you've thought about these deeply. I'm glad to hear that you like Heather's idea of focusing on what you find pleasurable on the time being, and see where th...
by Elise
Fri Sep 02, 2022 3:47 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Antibiotic and birth control
Replies: 2
Views: 1022

Re: Antibiotic and birth control

Hi there littlemissp, and thanks for your question. When people talk about the interactions between medications, its about the active ingredients in those medications interacting with each other. Instead here what we're looking at what seems like the side effect of the antibiotic (diarrhea and vomit...

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